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When people owe you money

Ste11aeres

Ste11aeres

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So, two different people owe me $200 dollars each. And I am broke right now, broke, as in I'm unsure how to pay for utilities, and I can buy groceries right now, but won't be able to for much longer.
One of these persons, I'm not upset about, as he ran into a string of bad luck with his car breaking down, and is pretty destitute. I know that he is sincere in wanting to pay me back, and is simply unable.
The other person I'm pretty annoyed about, as it doesn't make any difference to them whether they pay me now or later. Yet I'm unable to talk about it to them in a clear strong way. This isn't an Aspie problem, it's probably more sort of a "in my family money discussions always became really really nasty and that makes me scared of the subject" problem.
 
I used to dread asking for things back, that I'd lent to people, and people sometimes took advantage of that by failing to return things when they'd agreed, knowing full well that I was unlikely to ever ask for the item to be returned. I learned my lesson and I started asking outright for my belongings and money to be returned. That worked and now I pay heed to the old adage, "Never a lender or a borrower be." I don't borrow things from anyone and I find excuses not to lend anything to anyone either, life is far less complicated that way.

Bite the bullet and simply tell them that you're short of cash right now and you'd appreciate the money that you loaned to them being returned ASAP because you need it.
 
BIMOG said:
I used to dread asking for things back, that I'd lent to people, and people sometimes took advantage of that by failing to return things when they'd agreed, knowing full well that I was unlikely to ever ask for the item to be returned. I learned my lesson and I started asking outright for my belongings and money to be returned. That worked and now I pay heed to the old adage, "Never a lender or a borrower be." I don't borrow things from anyone and I find excuses not to lend anything to anyone either, life is far less complicated that way.

Bite the bullet and simply tell them that you're short of cash right now and you'd appreciate the money that you loaned to them being returned ASAP because you need it.
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In the case of the second person, I didn't actually loan them money, I simply helped them out with something, and they'd agreed to pay me for it.

I'm reminded of that story by Beatrix Potter.
http://www.gutenberg.org/files/14877/14877-h/14877-h.htm
 
Being paid for jobs that you've already done is even worse that being repaid money that you've lent out. The longer you allow it to remain unpaid the less likely you are to ever be paid at all. As "The Lord" apparently said... "ask and ye shall receive."
 
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Yep, I have this issue too... I feel that money is a really sensitive topic with most people and I'm afraid of how they may react if I ask for money owed, even though I'm within my rights to ask for it.
 
I wonder if it's hard for us Aspies because we know that people react badly to money discussions, and there's probably extra complicated social rules in regards to money, and we had a hard enough time figuring out ordinary social rules...
 
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