When someone asks you the same question perpetually, does it bother you?

[malortie]

For example,

It is quite common with NT people to ask friendly family/academic related questions such as:

How has been your day at school?
How are you today? (After waking up)
Did you have a good lunch (After finish eating up)

Since I have a very good memory and have the habit of replying "the same" (Speaking explicitly the exact same answer), I can easily become bothered when these kind of questions are asked to me.

I rarely disliked my mother's cooking methods, so it almost never came to a point of changing menu or figuring out a better way of feeding me. The issue here, is that I am convinced that she knows that I like her cooking and that I will reply the same, but she keeps doing the same and I see no reasons in acting this way, assuming that I will always give the same answer. Though, I politely asked her to lower the income of questions of these kinds and assured her that if life was not going well, I would let her know.

It was also the case when she often asked me how enjoyable school has been this day, and I was getting very upset since she was asking me this question, preventing me from reaching my bedroom to do my assignments.

These days, my parents keep doing the same. I keep reminding them, politely, to stop asking these questions.

Ironically, I feel like a robot since I do speak the same, but to me, these years of my past felt more controlled and linear than the typical view of (Each day is a new day).

Does anyone bear some of these traits?

 

[Myway]

I do. I don't like people saying the same things over and over again or even questions. I find it to be distracting to my train of thought. I often tell my parents to think of other questions to ask besides the ones they currently use.

 

[Rocco]

This is a helpful thread. I ask my kids the daily questions too, but I try to be conscious about switching it up, and will pay even more attention here forward.

As a parent, my motives for asking about cooking, school, homework, etc. are to;
A) assess their day, mood.
B) concern over behavior, grades, and learning struggles.
C) to make some sort of connection and have some conversation, which other people expect.

As an Aspie-parent I have difficulty, at times, being involved enough. Their mother thinks I don't "connect" with them enough because I don't ask enough questions. So I guess social pressure may also be a cause of the questions.

All that said, I know how annoying the same question every day is. At least you know they care.

 

[DC1346]

I'm an aspie Culinary Arts teacher and another aspie colleague at work keeps asking me when our student operated restaurant will open.

I have answered this question at least five times. I don't understand why she keeps asking me this question. It's somewhat annoying.

 

[Ste11aeres]

I'm an aspie Culinary Arts teacher and another aspie colleague at work keeps asking me when our student operated restaurant will open.

I have answered this question at least five times. I don't understand why she keeps asking me this question. It's somewhat annoying.

You teach Middle School, right?
A college student operated restaurant? Now, that I can imagine. But a middle school student operated restaurant?

 

[DC1346]

You teach Middle School, right?

I teach high school. The restaurant is a high school operation. Since I teach in a small rural school, I also have one class of 8th graders.

Those kids are challenging. (Sigh)