Which relationships are most important?

[Geordie]

Basically, I am having this issue, to choose between friends, family and interests.

I am currently a member of three clubs: they deal with writing, anime and board games. I enjoy interacting with people from all three clubs, but I get tired pretty easily of old stale stuff, and I'd love to move on.

Besides, now it's holidays, so old classmates and friends ring me, and ask them to pop over to their homes. They live 2 hours away from my home - because that's the distance I live from their homes, too.

Then I've got my family.

I am an independent adult, I thought, why would I still need to think about my father and mother and so on? I am really independent.

They always want to meet every week, so that we can chat together. Sometimes I even enjoy helping them making dishes and helping them to check their Facebook accounts, all that. It's my pleasure doing all these.

But they did nothing wrong to me. They're even supportive and loving towards me. So I am having mixed feelings about them.


So who should I really, really consider first for meetings? Should I also factor in regularity and sentimental value in, too?

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And who else have the same issues as me?

 

[epath13]

Do they all want to meet you at the same time? Maybe you should agree with your parents to meet on a certain day of the week, or maybe once in 2 weeks or so. I think it's important to do that. I started having less problems talking to my parents often as I got older. You're probably in your early 20s or am i wrong? If it is so - at your age i could spend months not talking to them because i didn't give a damn... But then i started thinking - it's not all about me after all Nowadays we have a schedule when we talk through Skype.

As for friends. If they really want to be with you and care about you, why not to meet with them from time to time. I would put parents 1st though. But you can meet them at different time for an Aspie.... Even for a regular person you appear to be as incredibly social so probably enjoy socializing, right?
As for clubs, if you'd like to move on - move on. That 's my opinion. I wouldn't stay in a club just for socializing.

 

[Geordie]

Do they all want to meet you at the same time? Maybe you should agree with your parents to meet on a certain day of the week, or maybe once in 2 weeks or so.

As for friends. If they really want to be with you and care about you, why not to meet with them from time to time. I would put parents 1st though. But you can meet them at different time for an Aspie.... Even for a regular person you appear to be as incredibly social so probably enjoy socializing, right?
As for clubs, if you'd like to move on - move on. That 's my opinion. I wouldn't stay in a club just for socializing.

Thank you epath13.

Well, I meet with my parents from Saturday evening to Sunday evening. They like face-to-face contact. Otherwise, they're busy with their own things, since my folks also have their own plans. This sucks, because I enjoy having some fun time with more Geordies supporting Newcastle United, and matches are always held at night in Singapore time. But it's ok, my family do watch some football with me at home (though they support other teams, and we respect our own decisions), and it's nice.

As for friends, we try to meet every Fridays and Saturdays. I love to attend every clubs and societies I know. I enjoy not just football, but also a host of other areas, like politics, philosophy, economics (sounds like a major? nah I ain't good in them, just having an interest in them), music (particularly hip-hop and rock), writing (though I read and write less often as compared to the past) and yes, board games.

But sometimes, I see myself being kind of distracted by all these social activities. I seem to enjoy social stuff more than my real work, which will add more value to my community and society than other things.

When a friend asked me how am I doing, I said I am alright! I am busily interacting with friends and catching up with them! But delving deeper, actually I don't know what am I even doing, besides socializing.

But then, I guess I'll only give up on clubs, when they eat into my real 'work'. My career, I mean.

epath13, thanks for coming here and share your thoughts.

Well, more opinions are welcome.