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Who Are You Thankful For?

Yeshuasdaughter

Yeshuasdaughter

You know, that one lady we met that one time.
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As Aspies, we're really good at isolating and being stoic, taking care of stuff on our own.​

But as flawed human beings, there are times when we need a helping hand.

Who was there for you to help you out, and what did they do that you are so thankful for?

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I'm thankful for my daughter.

I haven't been feeling well, and today she took care of everything.

She made a beautiful lunch and dinner. She made shrimp pasta for lunch, and then she made baked rosemary chicken with green beans and fancy stuffing for dinner.

She washed the laundry and hung it on the clothesline

When I was shivering and needed to take a hot bath, she brought me a scrunchie to keep my hair dry, laid out a floor towel, put a washcloth in the bathroom, and also gave me a fresh body towel (a great big comfy beach towel).

And then when it was time for bed, she came in and made the bed, fixing all the blankets.

I didn't have to ask her for any of this, she just did it as an act of love and kindness.

She was so kind and good that I rewarded her this evening by taking her out to Carls Jr after dinner, where we shared a piece of strawberry cheesecake.
 
I'm also thankful for a friend of mine who has been helping me through a lot of the fears of being sick. They have been so sweet to me, and they talk to me whenever I need it, day or night. I wish I could give back somehow.
 
I'm also thankful to my congregation. Somehow they heard I wasn't feeling well, and this past week I received a greeting card signed by so many of the sweet old church ladies (my girl squad). It's good to feel loved.
 
I'm thankful for my husband. I have a hard time letting people take care of me and he does it in ways that make me feel loved rather than needy. Even when I am needy. We've been together for 21 years so we sort of grew up together and it's gotten better as we've gotten older and intentionally worked on caring for each other and our relationship.

He is an incredible cook and always makes sure I have healthy delicious food. Food is something that if I don't have it creates a lot of fear in me, so he takes special care with me in that. I appreciate him so much.

I'm also grateful for my son. He's a fantastic human and he makes me happier being around him. Most of the time, haha, he's a teenager. He's a lot like me and he and I understand the way we each think and communication is mostly easy with him (again, teenager.) We get each other.
 
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A friend in my congregation.

I recently suffered one day with horrendous lonliness and took the courage and sent her a whatsapp and revealed that and at first, received no reply and the next day she apologised and said she was right in the middle of cooking dinner and meant to text me back, but got deviated and then, reassured me that if ever I feel that way again, to get in contact and we can do a bit of shopping together and coffee together and preaching together and that is what we did.
 
I am thankful for my spouse. Before connecting with her, like many men here, I was isolated and lonely. Previous to this I had been on a couple of dates and had a relationship that went nowhere as we were fundamentally incompatible. I was profoundly inexperienced with women and did not understand the social nuances of sex. I felt hopeless. My spouse accepted me sexually at a time when my thought was that intimacy was beyond me. It was like being struck by lightning and opened me up emotionally so that I felt that I was living in a new world.
 
I am thankful for Autism Forums, the founder and moderators who get too little of credit for all the efforts they did and do, and the members here regardless of condition(s) who I learn from everyday too. I needed a place to relax, think and express for years, as things can get hectic here, and I did so then, and since rejoining several months ago, so this place helped me, as I see it is not just helping I but others, too, which makes me find some happiness and peace of mind every day.
 
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As @1ForAll mentioned, I am thankful for this forum. It has been a tremendous help to me.

I am also thankful for my boss at the business I retired from. I often wonder if he knew I was autistic before I knew. He ensured I worked in an environment where I could flourish. He ensured I had my own private office and lab and ensured I could work alone and restricted others from interrupting me.
 
I'm also thankful for this forum. It's a blessing to be surrounded by people who I constantly learn from. And it's nice to feel cared about and to be able to help others.
I'm thankful for my parents, too... they try their best and do very well with it. I know I was a difficult thing for them to take on. But thanks to them, I'm able to live on my own in this cozy little house, in this friendly neighborhood, with my amazing dogs (who I'm also thankful for). My parents help me financially and medically a little bit but also emotionally. I like spending time with them when they come over. And for the long weekend we're going on a trip for my birthday, and my mom's friend made me a cake.
I also have to mention being thankful for my two best friends... I thought I knew "everything" about dogs lol but with the two of them being experienced professionals, I've learned more than I ever hoped and it's made me so much better at what I do. And I love having people in my life that truly care about me and love me, when I've really struggled to find friendships that aren't toxic. I love and care about them very much too.
And of course, the obvious, lol... I'm thankful for my dogs. I don't think I would be here if it weren't for them. The ability that dogs have to love unconditionally is admirable. We can really learn from them.
I'm thankful for my doctors and nurses (and my psychiatrist and therapist too), for giving me very compassionate care, and for making trips to the clinic and the hospital and getting poked with needles and having blood drawn and being tried on medications that may or may not work, not feel like (as much of) a nightmare. It's nice to be told that I'm sweet and that I'm a joy to have as a patient. And I have a lot of respect for them and for what they do. It's not easy.
And in general, I'm thankful for people who are nice people, and people who are kind and empathetic and like to help others. The world needs more of them.
 
Yeshuasdaughter said:
As Aspies, we're really good at isolating and being stoic, taking care of stuff on our own.​

But as flawed human beings, there are times when we need a helping hand.

Who was there for you to help you out, and what did they do that you are so thankful for?

​
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My Wife.

We first met in the first on-line chat room that I'm aware existed. It was in 1995. We communicated for about three months on-line before meeting in person. We became very close in the chat room exchanging lots of our personal issues. She was in the ending phase of a divorce and I explained many of my life autistic difficulties, though at the time I knew nothing about autism. I just knew about the difficulties I had and didn't know there was a name for it. I think we both started falling in love in that chat-room and did not want it to all end with a surprise discovery of negative personal issues.

Looking back at that time, we both know that if we had first met in person, we would have never gotten together. My autism is very off-putting to everyone, but she got to know me before "seeing" my autism and that has carried us through 25 years of marriage.

What also helps is that she is a compassionate person. Her empathy is a bit weak, but she shows compassion after learning how and what another person is feeling.

She is my social buffer, and life partner. We both capitalize on each other's strengths. We still suffer (a lot) from my autism, but I am immensely grateful for her patience and willingness to learn.

She is my hero.
 
I am thankful for my mom. We have been very close since the day I was born. She has been very supportive since my separation and eventual divorce from my ex. We did a lot of things together, such as going to places, and even just talking to each other.

I also have a huge family with many cousins, as well as two stepsisters and a brother. I was quite close to my brother, wanting to do the same things he does, hence my tomboyish tendencies. My stepdad is a cool guy and treated me better than my real dad ever did.

I have two friends who I met back in '12. I keep in touch with them regularly, and they are fun to be around.

Finally, I am thankful for my senior cat Kiki. I had her since high school, and is my rock. She even did a great job getting me through my divorce. Even though she is 18 1/2 now, she still has the energy to climb onto my bed. When I get another cat someday, I hope it's as loving as Kiki.
 
I am thankful all of my problems are first world problems. I have a roof over my head, food in my kitchen, a bed, central HVAC system, Internet and television, running water (both hot and cold), access to grocery shopping so I can eat damn near anything I want to eat within reason..... Let's face it, I have things so much better off than the entire civilian populations of many countries this world has.
 
KagamineLen said:
I am thankful all of my problems are first world problems. I have a roof over my head, food in my kitchen, a bed, central HVAC system, Internet and television, running water (both hot and cold), access to grocery shopping so I can eat damn near anything I want to eat within reason..... Let's face it, I have things so much better off than the entire civilian populations of many countries this world has.
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You are so right! No matter what is going on in life, I am so lucky! I was laying back in a recliner at midnight eating Gardettos, while around the world, billions wonder where they're going to find clean water, or their next meal, so whatever I have to complain about is nil and void.
 
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