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Who Upsets Your Routine?

Galaxy Freeze

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Title says it all, pretty much.

With me, it's probably my mom because she makes loud noises and makes me quite upset when I'm trying to work on my computer. She knocks on the door frequently to tell me things I don't care about and then she leaves the door open... Something I don't like because privacy is nice, having a closed door makes me feel much safer... That's just one example.

Gosh, I sound like a selfish, ungrateful teenager. I love my mom! I love her a lot, she's just the one who seems to upset me and sometimes forgets about my needs. She still shouts or screams in a high-pitched voice for no reason, even though I've told her thousands of times to please not do it because of my sound sensitivity. She does it for pretty much no reason, that's what bothers me. She just does it to the dog we have to watch for a few months (the dog upsets me too, of course) and to try to sound "cute." Even though it's extremely irritating. And of course the dog gets all wound up and starts barking, then I really can't focus and get angry.

...So who seems to upset YOUR daily routine? Or does anyone upset you at all? (I can't wait to live alone with no disturbances)
 
Well,

I had a terrible time at home. Once I left for college in my Junior year I never really came home again but just for visits. As I spent time away things changed. It was all good.
 
The mail... that upsets my routines most.

Yes, I know I have my responsibilities, especially since I'm still collecting unemployment benefits (instead of disability), but usually when I get mail from say.. the employment center asking me to come by... THAT messes with my routine. But in general I think everything that doesn't involve me "being in my own world".

My life is pretty much "chaos".. .but it's my chaos. I can go and come whenever I please. I'm fine with that kind of lack of rules. Putting rules and appointments in it messes with the well.. rather "organic" nature of my life. I hate structure in that way (even though I scored really high on a subdivision when I was tested on autism that stated I liked to "structure things"; I rather sort it out myself). It also messes with my "routines" cause I usually sleep during "office hours". Mostly I hit the bed at 8 or 9 am and wake up at 3 in the afternoon because I have a hard time dealing with busy daytime (sensory overloads and such).

At home, my parents never really mess with my routine, except for dinner... so I really need to know those things up front. "What time do we eat?"... yes there might be the "but that's structure"... it's also highly impractical for people to have dinner ready at 4, expecting me to be home, while I'm somewhere else (or just still sleeping). So a little amount of planning I can handle... but rather the informal planning. And besides that... all my life (even without having a diagnosis of sorts yet) my parents always were "hey... can you do this, if you have time somewhere in the next week?" and that's what works fine for me. I remember that back when we had a dog and I had to walk him, that messed up my routines as well... because I cannot walk the dog "now"... I can walk it in 8 hours, I'm busy now.

But currently I'm kinda working to set up the disability situation. That would get the 2 biggest factors that disturb me off my back. And I pretty much can spend my days working on things I care for... cause now it feels like a half-assed job still... cause I can't focus on it enough.
 
My daughter - when she is off ill from school it disrupts my week routine, when she gets invited to parties it disrupts my weekend routine, school meetings, events etc all disrupt my routine...and the holidays :wacko:

My husband - His hospital appointments, randomly asking me to do something, like I'll be doing my usual thing and he may say "hey do you want to do X?"...no because that's not what I want to do, I want to do this because that's what I like to do. It's hard to explain to him but I have to have real motivation to do anything I don't normally do but I will randomly do things just because I don't want to be too 'off' with him if that makes sense. Usually once I start something I get into it but it's the thought of breaking my routine that I struggle with, once it's broken it's not so hard or upsetting if that makes sense? Or we have a night routine of playing a video game until around 9pm then watching an episode of Oz then going to bed but he may randomly say he wants to just play the game until bed and it angers me but I just deal with it and feel edgy because we haven't watched OZ. We finished OZ last night as well as a japanese series we've just finished and we also finished fable 3. He wants to watch films for a few nights before starting a new game / series and that's fine, it will be weird at first but then I'll get into watching movies everynight and it will be all change again :-O

The postman - He changes his routine every now and again, at the moment he comes between 9.10 - 9.30, but when he changes again he might not come until 11 or something and that will upset me for a week or two.

My mother in law - At the moment she's homebound after having surgery and we have to visit her every saturday for like 3 hours...the first 2 times it was hard because that's not what we normally do on Saturdays but I'm getting used to it and it's not so bad now.
 
Well, I have two routines.

My daily routine gets interrupted by random calls to work, unexpected time spent on other things, and nagging friends. I live by myself so mostly I ruin my own routines :lol:

My second one is my work routine. Its not really a routine by time, its more a schedule by order. Everytime I start a house (Im back on doing siding) 1. Remove trim 2. Hook up roller to AC outlet 3. Tack insulation on the North wall 4. Tack siding on the North wall, then repeat in the order of South, East, and West walls. In that order. Its more complex then that with setting up rails, pump jacks, water-gerters, and stuff. But it HAS to be in that order. And my boss screws it up everytime. If I do it MY way I can get a 4sq house done in 6 days alone, if I do it his way it takes about 10 days. Sorry about that work rant lol my boss really frustrates me
 
Well, I have two routines.

My daily routine gets interrupted by random calls to work, unexpected time spent on other things, and nagging friends. I live by myself so mostly I ruin my own routines :lol:

My second one is my work routine. Its not really a routine by time, its more a schedule by order. Everytime I start a house (Im back on doing siding) 1. Remove trim 2. Hook up roller to AC outlet 3. Tack insulation on the North wall 4. Tack siding on the North wall, then repeat in the order of South, East, and West walls. In that order. Its more complex then that with setting up rails, pump jacks, water-gerters, and stuff. But it HAS to be in that order. And my boss screws it up everytime. If I do it MY way I can get a 4sq house done in 6 days alone, if I do it his way it takes about 10 days. Sorry about that work rant lol my boss really frustrates me
 
Yeah, I can see where y'all are coming from. The holidays are another biggie with me, it stood out when Az83 mentioned it. Christmas time is the worst.

Don't get me wrong, I love Christmas... But all of the stress that builds up to it... Three weeks of decorating, seeing relatives, going to get the tree (which takes forever with us because we must drive a long way) forced to go shopping with my mom (I despise shopping, sensory overload AND routine interruption!), etc.
All for just ONE morning. One morning. Honestly, I don't see the point of all this preparation, we don't need excessive amounts of decorations that nobody will notice anyway... I just hate it when our family acts like they're under so much stress, but I think they have to do at least a quarter of the things they complain about.

And of course it causes me to be stressed because I have many responsibilities that I am not used to during the holidays, therefore upsetting my routine, and then finally upsetting me.

My little cousin also upsets my routine, but she rarely comes over. Still, it feels like a nightmare when I have to watch her. I also used to have to watch some kids from across the street, but they moved away, things are a bit better for me now.
 
Those that ruin my routines are usually my mom because I live with her, and when I am at work. Trying not to let it show when I walk into work and I can't even take a breath before something is thrown at me (this is usually at the grocery store I work at the most. Oh and one Family friend who always seems to pop up out of no where or even when invited still hard.

During the holidays I don't usually have a problem because i set the routine and my family doesn't care if I disappear into the other room alone for times of unspecified length. I've been doing that for years so its expected.
 

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