Ok I posted on here before, I was so excited and looking forward to getting a diagnosis on the 18th August. I decided to go private and found someone qualified to diagnose me via the ADOS assessment. First he sent me some screening tests and I filled them in and sent them back along with photo's of me as a child and he seemed very happy to proceed and everything was going well for my appointment on the 18th August and then all of a sudden everything changed.
A few days before I was due for my assessment I had an e-mail off Frank the psychologist telling me to phone him urgently and as soon as I possibly could. So I called him and he said as some cousin of my mother had been in touch and he wanted to cancel my appointment and believed that he must see my mother first, apparently he was unsure if she was going he said so he wanted to get this out of the way first, he even offered to refund my money. My partner contacted my mother and she said apparently David my step father had called the Psychologist pretending to be a cousin and that she was going so my partner called him Frank the Psychologist but he said the guy was very off with him saying he wanted no trouble but he re-booked me in for the 3rd September.
So anyway the 21st came and he questioned my mother and step father, after this I had no message off the Psychologist so in the end I sent him an e-mail and he wrote back saying he was refunding all my money and after speaking to my mother and step father did not think I met the criteria for a diagnosis.
My partner spoke to him tonight and he said he is refunding the money and my partner said he's never heard anything so strange, he couldn't get a word in edgeways, the psychologist was very rude and even hung up on him.
Some back ground information.
The psychologist said he must build up a photo of my early years, since my grandparents who would of been best are dead and my father left when I was 3 then I had to get my mother involved.
I have not spoken to my mother since 2011 because I was abused in my own home. One day her and my step dad came off holiday and all I said was can I wash my uniform please? Since I was starting work at 5am next day and she was trying to wash clothing that she would not wear for days I saw it more important to do mine. Then she went mental, my mother has a terrible temper and even has temper tantrums, she is mentally ill. She told me she wished she'd never had me and hated me and starting throwing my things out of the door onto the street. Because of the hurtful things she said I started humming to block out the noise. Then she came back and said sorry but I just ignored her and then she pushed me out of bed and started dragging me by my ankles which hurt like hell and I hit my head hard and then she tried to push my down stairs until my step dad intrupted.
After this she told me she was phoning the mental hospital so instead I phoned the doctor who told me to call the police which I did, a police lady came and listened to what they said. She told me she could tell it was a very bad home for me, that she should really arrest and charge my mother and told them that despite whatever issues they thought there was it was classed as common assault. And that she would have a police record as a result, as far as I am aware she recieved a formal warning.
My ex partner and other people have commented that my step father says horrible things about me and is always running me down.
My mother is a total liar, my dad says it's like she tells you one thing and will tell the other person something totally different and she will **** on you. She also told my partner that she had seen fairies in the garden.
The psychologist says I do not meet the criteria without seeing me in person only exchanging messages via e-mail and 2 brief phone conversations so says I do not meet the developmental criteria which is based on what they have said.
Frank seemed happy to diagnose me before but now after wasting his time is offering to refund me in full, I did not tell him what happened with my mother, I was about too but he said he was in a rush but apparently I do know that he was given a different story.
He will not even speak to us, he will give no examples, just hung up the minute Jonathan managed to say something and asked him then why I have so many of the traits? He was not willing to be helpful at all or answer anything and it is very odd!
A few days before I was due for my assessment I had an e-mail off Frank the psychologist telling me to phone him urgently and as soon as I possibly could. So I called him and he said as some cousin of my mother had been in touch and he wanted to cancel my appointment and believed that he must see my mother first, apparently he was unsure if she was going he said so he wanted to get this out of the way first, he even offered to refund my money. My partner contacted my mother and she said apparently David my step father had called the Psychologist pretending to be a cousin and that she was going so my partner called him Frank the Psychologist but he said the guy was very off with him saying he wanted no trouble but he re-booked me in for the 3rd September.
So anyway the 21st came and he questioned my mother and step father, after this I had no message off the Psychologist so in the end I sent him an e-mail and he wrote back saying he was refunding all my money and after speaking to my mother and step father did not think I met the criteria for a diagnosis.
My partner spoke to him tonight and he said he is refunding the money and my partner said he's never heard anything so strange, he couldn't get a word in edgeways, the psychologist was very rude and even hung up on him.
Some back ground information.
The psychologist said he must build up a photo of my early years, since my grandparents who would of been best are dead and my father left when I was 3 then I had to get my mother involved.
I have not spoken to my mother since 2011 because I was abused in my own home. One day her and my step dad came off holiday and all I said was can I wash my uniform please? Since I was starting work at 5am next day and she was trying to wash clothing that she would not wear for days I saw it more important to do mine. Then she went mental, my mother has a terrible temper and even has temper tantrums, she is mentally ill. She told me she wished she'd never had me and hated me and starting throwing my things out of the door onto the street. Because of the hurtful things she said I started humming to block out the noise. Then she came back and said sorry but I just ignored her and then she pushed me out of bed and started dragging me by my ankles which hurt like hell and I hit my head hard and then she tried to push my down stairs until my step dad intrupted.
After this she told me she was phoning the mental hospital so instead I phoned the doctor who told me to call the police which I did, a police lady came and listened to what they said. She told me she could tell it was a very bad home for me, that she should really arrest and charge my mother and told them that despite whatever issues they thought there was it was classed as common assault. And that she would have a police record as a result, as far as I am aware she recieved a formal warning.
My ex partner and other people have commented that my step father says horrible things about me and is always running me down.
My mother is a total liar, my dad says it's like she tells you one thing and will tell the other person something totally different and she will **** on you. She also told my partner that she had seen fairies in the garden.
The psychologist says I do not meet the criteria without seeing me in person only exchanging messages via e-mail and 2 brief phone conversations so says I do not meet the developmental criteria which is based on what they have said.
Frank seemed happy to diagnose me before but now after wasting his time is offering to refund me in full, I did not tell him what happened with my mother, I was about too but he said he was in a rush but apparently I do know that he was given a different story.
He will not even speak to us, he will give no examples, just hung up the minute Jonathan managed to say something and asked him then why I have so many of the traits? He was not willing to be helpful at all or answer anything and it is very odd!
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