With my son's crossdressing,it was a discovery for both of my husband and I.It was when he was 13,my husband and I were out with another couple one day and we found him in a dress of mine when we came home.We were not mad at him,knew he had a female side of him.Did our research and help from a therapist,found out there are links with people that have asperger's and autism being LGBT.Plus we knew to be supportive of him being himself.First time we saw him as his female side Laura,we both saw him happy.My 2 daughters and I saw he looked better in a dress and still does.My daughters whom are 17 and 15 now,they see his female side Laura as a part time big sister.
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With son's crossdressing
- Thread starter AdriannaD
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It seems to be common among autistic people. Most men I know wouldn't wear a dress.
@AdriannaD
It seems like it is very important for you to demonstrate acceptance of your son’s preferences for clothing. It is very important for parents to allow their children to develop their individual personalities.
This is a bit off-topic, but I am just confused by your profile… If it’s okay for me to ask, are you on the spectrum yourself? Or just your son? In your profile it says officially diagnosed with Aspergers.
It seems like it is very important for you to demonstrate acceptance of your son’s preferences for clothing. It is very important for parents to allow their children to develop their individual personalities.
This is a bit off-topic, but I am just confused by your profile… If it’s okay for me to ask, are you on the spectrum yourself? Or just your son? In your profile it says officially diagnosed with Aspergers.
I'm assuming he's on the spectrum, as the majority of ASD parents seem to have at least one child on the spectrum too.
A parent, he has asperger's
i wouldn't encourage them on that path. Rather i would discourage them. Is a lifestyle of suffering in my opinion.
Is not healthy. He may end up cutting part of his body off by doctors prescription. I don't believe that doing that is therapy or good of any sort.
There has been instances with teen regret after surgery already, 'doctors' and 'teachers' are quick to try get them to 'affirm' their gender.
Maybe this was just a phase, or he maybe was just playing.
Is not healthy. He may end up cutting part of his body off by doctors prescription. I don't believe that doing that is therapy or good of any sort.
There has been instances with teen regret after surgery already, 'doctors' and 'teachers' are quick to try get them to 'affirm' their gender.
Maybe this was just a phase, or he maybe was just playing.
I don't believe OP has stated that her son wanted what
could be termed *a sex change*/interested in MTF transition.
Only that he enjoyed wearing feminine clothing and acting
in feminine persona, some of the time. And that his girlfriend
supports that activity.
He's 21 years old.
could be termed *a sex change*/interested in MTF transition.
Only that he enjoyed wearing feminine clothing and acting
in feminine persona, some of the time. And that his girlfriend
supports that activity.
He's 21 years old.
I used to crossdress when I was a teenager. I wanted to be a boy. I'd buy clothes from the boy's section in clothes stores. But after being misgendered (someone actually mistaking me for a real boy and it was quite embarrassing for both them and me) I decided to wear more feminine but still tomboyish clothes, as to not confuse people.
I like being a tomboy but I still want people to know I'm my biological gender (female).
I like being a tomboy but I still want people to know I'm my biological gender (female).
Not that they've expressed anything about their son wanting to "end up cutting part of his body off", but even if they did want to do that, gender affirming surgery has the lowest regret rate of any form of surgery.
And, yeah, trans kids/people in general should definitely be encouraged to express their gender identity. It's a perfectly normal part of being human.
Boys used to wear dresses in the old days didn’t they?
You see it in old paintings.
Let people wear what they want to.
Yes, maybe warn them about the potential of being bullied or worse, but the more people that wear what they want to wear the better. It becomes the norm.
You see it in old paintings.
Let people wear what they want to.
Yes, maybe warn them about the potential of being bullied or worse, but the more people that wear what they want to wear the better. It becomes the norm.
@AdriannaD I’m glad to hear you and his sisters are so supportive of your son expressing himself.
@AdriannaD
I’m mostly glad your son has your support as you have shared here because, for some reason, some people in the world still concern themselves in a negative way with what other people are wearing and doing with their bodies.
It sounds like you have supported your son in this since he was a child and that is the most important thing. Hopefully through his experience he never did and never will develop any shame for simply being himself.
One of the most precious things we can find in this world is acceptance for simply being ourselves and enough intrinsic self-worth to know that it does not matter what other people think, especially when they find it necessary to push their own ideologies onto what another person is doing with their own clothes and their own body. Parent support can go such a long way in fostering this feeling.
It is much like being autistic, in my opinion. Although I have never chosen to cross dress myself, I can understand perfectly what it feels like to grow up feeling ashamed of simply being who I am and, over time, suppressing that under layers and layers of lies. Undoing the lies is such an inefficient use of energy and life, whereas learning self acceptance and pride in who we are is a much better use of time and energy.
I’m mostly glad your son has your support as you have shared here because, for some reason, some people in the world still concern themselves in a negative way with what other people are wearing and doing with their bodies.
It sounds like you have supported your son in this since he was a child and that is the most important thing. Hopefully through his experience he never did and never will develop any shame for simply being himself.
One of the most precious things we can find in this world is acceptance for simply being ourselves and enough intrinsic self-worth to know that it does not matter what other people think, especially when they find it necessary to push their own ideologies onto what another person is doing with their own clothes and their own body. Parent support can go such a long way in fostering this feeling.
It is much like being autistic, in my opinion. Although I have never chosen to cross dress myself, I can understand perfectly what it feels like to grow up feeling ashamed of simply being who I am and, over time, suppressing that under layers and layers of lies. Undoing the lies is such an inefficient use of energy and life, whereas learning self acceptance and pride in who we are is a much better use of time and energy.
He might just be a punk rocker, or experimenting with trying to figure out who he is. He's just a kid. I wouldn't even say anything.
Very true! Whatever it is, there's certainly no reason to discourage it.
Masked Man
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With the trauma and difficulty that trans people face, if they choose to go through the actual transition it's because they truly want it and feel it's right for them. No one chooses to be a social pariah. And no one is doing it because it's cool or trendy. That's not a thing. And certainly no one is forcing anyone into it or prescribing it. That's absurd.
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