Clarebear
New Member
Hello everyone, my apologies if I’m posting this in the wrong space. I had a very disturbing interaction with my boss today and I would greatly appreciate your thoughts on it. Please be kind.
I work as an arts teacher for a non-profit organization. For the past 3 years I have been celebrated for my hard work and reliability. They are aware that I am on the spectrum and struggle with some things that are insignificant for neurotypical folks, but it is nothing that affects my overall performance as a teacher but it does make the job more exhausting for me.
Today when speaking to my boss “Fran” about a minor issue she was upset that I had gone through our liaison to relay the info to her instead of going to her directly but she has always been very unapproachable. When I tried to explain my difficulties with communicating she cut me off and then said that “we have two other autistic employees that have it worse than you who don’t struggle with this issue.” The she told me that I was expected to be an “adult.” I took this to mean that she was belittling my neurodivergent struggle.
“Fran” is also one of the owners of the organization. I have always felt she disliked me for no reason. For context she has always shown favoritism to people who have better social skills regardless of their performance as a teacher, their skills or even experience. For her being excellent at BS the way she is, is the key.
Also for context we had 5 people either quit or move on to better jobs recently and all of them had complaints about her attitude but would not address them to her directly out of fear.
Please let me know if you think what she said was out of line or unprofessional? It was incredibly upsetting…and as I mentioned before I have no complaints against my job performance just these minor issues that fall under “workplace accommodations” I believe.
Thank you so much for your thoughts
I work as an arts teacher for a non-profit organization. For the past 3 years I have been celebrated for my hard work and reliability. They are aware that I am on the spectrum and struggle with some things that are insignificant for neurotypical folks, but it is nothing that affects my overall performance as a teacher but it does make the job more exhausting for me.
Today when speaking to my boss “Fran” about a minor issue she was upset that I had gone through our liaison to relay the info to her instead of going to her directly but she has always been very unapproachable. When I tried to explain my difficulties with communicating she cut me off and then said that “we have two other autistic employees that have it worse than you who don’t struggle with this issue.” The she told me that I was expected to be an “adult.” I took this to mean that she was belittling my neurodivergent struggle.
“Fran” is also one of the owners of the organization. I have always felt she disliked me for no reason. For context she has always shown favoritism to people who have better social skills regardless of their performance as a teacher, their skills or even experience. For her being excellent at BS the way she is, is the key.
Also for context we had 5 people either quit or move on to better jobs recently and all of them had complaints about her attitude but would not address them to her directly out of fear.
Please let me know if you think what she said was out of line or unprofessional? It was incredibly upsetting…and as I mentioned before I have no complaints against my job performance just these minor issues that fall under “workplace accommodations” I believe.
Thank you so much for your thoughts