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Would i be classed as "Good looking"

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Michael2013

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Hi all

First post on here, I was diagnosed with AS as a child,

Ever since i was a kid i was overly self conscience, Even at a young age and unfortunately it followed me up even until today.

Im 20 years old and possibly have BDD (Body Dysmorphia Disorder) (Not Diagnosed)

Ive had girlfriends in the past and im in a relationship now at the minute, My girlfriend always tells me im gorgeous etc but i figure she has to say that, Shes hardly going to say im ugly! Ive had a bad relationship in the past in which i was abused physically and mentally and she always called me ugly etc when she got mad.

Im kind of cringing to my self even writing this post cause it seems so douchey to ask people on a forum "Am i good looking", Im not looking for any sort of praise or abuse, A simple yes or no would be great, I just want an honest opinion based solely on how i look (sounds so shallow) from strangers basically. Somed ays i feel good about how i look, But other days it can get really bad.

Thanks.

That's me on the right, In the white tshirt.



 
On a scale from 1-10. Anything from 6 to 4 is normal looks with 5 being complete average. Most people fall in the 4-6 range. I would give you a 7. If you get a 7, you are above average in terms of looks but you're not incredibly attractive.
 
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I agree with code e. 7 seems reasonable: better looking than average, definitely not plain or unattractive BUT not a male super-model either. Remember, too, that attractiveness has much to do with how you behave as a person & the way you treat people. If you are a mean-spirited jerk, no amount of good looks will help you. If you are a kind, considerate person, these traits are much more profound & enduring than appearances that can change drastically over time.
 
Yes, you're good looking. I don't like those number scales. It's either "im attracted to that person" or "I'm not attracted to that person". And you fit under the "I'm attracted to that person" category. But you also have to understand that everyone has different tastes. Me and my friends taste greatly differs, she likes "nerdy" guys and I adore "athletic" looking guys normally but It depends on the personality in the end! Hope you can resolve your insecurity issues!
 
By the way, those tattoos on your right arm are truly astonishing! I just took a 2nd look & they're really gorgeous.
 
I have no opinion on your looks.
Different people have different tastes. But...people tend to see beauty in the persons they love.
My male friend looks very different than the type of guys I used to be attracted to. I used to think he was ugly. I din't tell him. But after many months I saw his true beauty shine through his face. I would think how lucky everyone was who got to see him, driving his truck, or whatever. Later I told him how good-looking he was.
Someone who likes you will see you as beautiful.
 
Ste11aeres said:
I have no opinion on your looks.
Different people have different tastes. But...people tend to see beauty in the persons they love.
My male friend looks very different than the type of guys I used to be attracted to. I used to think he was ugly. I din't tell him. But after many months I saw his true beauty shine through his face. I would think how lucky everyone was who got to see him, driving his truck, or whatever. Later I told him how good-looking he was.
Someone who likes you will see you as beautiful.
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I would agree with you. My girlfriend uses a wheelchair to get around. She has cerebral palsy which causes her muscles to always tighten. Yet, I see so much beauty in her. How much she cares about me and puts up with my quirky and deeply emotional side. We have been together for almost 10 years. She is also a gifted writer and a wonderful human being. I am so lucky to have her in my life. :)
 
I won't rate your looks?I believe that looks aren't really something you can rate?but I'd say that the vast majority of people would find you good looking.
 
BDD makes you see yourself really distorted. I believe I have it too, but haven't been diagnosed. My ex also would tell me that I'm ugly, stupid, fat (I'm not), what not when he wanted to be mean. When he was in a good mood he'd tell me that I'm beautiful. (I later found out he was narcissistic). He left me so scarred I haven't been able to try to be with anyone again since. I think having AS also makes you more sensitive to verbal abuse like that and you can't just shake it off so easily :(

You shouldn't solely rely on other people's opinions. There are as many opinions as there are people, see. And people are fickle and can never be truly pleased. And if you get to know someone and they're awesome, they become 10 times more beautiful.

And doesn't you having girlfriends already tell you the fact that you're asking us? :D
 
I've been going through a similar thing at the moment, I'm 19 and have learnt ways of dealing with the aspergers as I've got older but feeling not good about yourself is probably quite common

To be honest I do think your good looking and would rate you a 8.5-9/10 but what's on the inside is what counts, so if your great on the inside, that could push you right up to a 10
 
I've been going through a similar thing at the moment, I'm 19 and have learnt ways of dealing with the aspergers as I've got older but feeling not good about yourself is probably quite common

To be honest I do think your good looking and would rate you a 8.5-9/10 but what's on the inside is what counts, so if your great on the inside, that could push you right up to a 10
 
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