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The overlooked faces of Autism

JayD210

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This saddens me. It also angers me. This is the side of Autism nobody talks about, supports, or spreads awareness about. Those of us who are mild or moderate on the Autism Spectrum have a hand in this to an extent, but most of is immediate neighbors, even immediate family.

The people impacted by Severe Autism. Those who can’t speak for themselves and often endure a life of isolation, being marginalized, and denied the basic dignity you and I take for granted. This is a battle that many Autism Families endure with little to no assistance as these folks age closer and closer to and into adulthood. They’re minimally verbal or they’re entirely nonverbal. Many of them have other disorders and thus are so severe that their capacity is that of a toddler despite their actual age. That lack of support and being passed over by the rest of us means that their outlook and quality of life is rather bleak. I can’t stand that. Those without a second disorder but still heavily impacted by Autism. I myself remember not being able to speak at all until I was 3-1/2 and my memories go back another year prior to that. Knowing at any age that you’re unable to tell people your wants and needs. It’s frustrating and terrifying. I was 3-1/2 when I was beginning to speak but had lots of problems still with speaking until I was 5. I remember the fear and the anxiety of it. I overcame it, but so many of them don’t. I defied all odds. They told my Mom I’d never speak more than a few words at a time, but I did and I’m thriving. I do so knowing that I got lucky.

Not only do I have Autism but my Sister is an Autism Mom and that makes me an Autism Uncle. As much as my Sister gets on my nerves and I have bad memories from her, my will to try to help my Nephew who has Severe Autism outweighs the rift between my Sister and I. My Nephew is going to be 15 in September and is minimally verbal. His inability to communicate effectively is what I believe to be the reason behind his behavioral issues that I’m aware he has. I’m worried as his Uncle that in a few short years, he will be casted away, isolated by the world who forgot about him. I know what the world does to those with Severe Autism and to me, that is utterly unacceptable.

As someone who also was diagnosed at an early age but am now spoken for like most of us here, I feel it is my duty to advocate for those who have Severe Autism and their families. One being forgotten is one too many. We as a society and in the Autism Community need to do better by these people. That’s what I’m trying to advocate for. These families don’t need to be politicized, marginalized, or offered dumb remarks. They need the support from everyone around them that’s willing and they need all the support they can get.

It’s not just my Sister who’s fighting this battle. I’ve got longtime friends of mine who are now Autism Parents, also with Kids who have Severe Autism. I made them a promise that I’ll do everything I can to bring light to their situations and that’s a promise I intend to keep.

Enough is enough. These people matter just as much as we do.
 
@JayD210 - That is so true. My 34 y/o non-verbal nephew will always need care. His autistic mom is nearly 70 and she won't be able to take care of him forever. I'm afraid he will end up in some kind of group home or in institutionalized care later in life. I'll be too old myself to have him come live with me. But if I do become his guardian after his mother can no longer take care of him, I will do my best to hire a live-in carer so he can stay in his home, the only home he has ever known.
 
Those of us who are mild or moderate on the Autism Spectrum have a hand in this to an extent
I don't understand why having autism requires me to speak on behalf of others with autism. I don't go around advocating for others with diabetes or congenital heart defects. I do advocate on behalf of those with schizophrenia, but that is because the stigma is especially severe for that illness. Speaking as someone who has both conditions, people with autism have no idea how lucky they are to have their stigma instead of the other.
 
I don't understand why having autism requires me to speak on behalf of others with autism. I don't go around advocating for others with diabetes or congenital heart defects. I do advocate on behalf of those with schizophrenia, but that is because the stigma is especially severe for that illness. Speaking as someone who has both conditions, people with autism have no idea how lucky they are to have their stigma instead of the other.
When you have family like I do, that’s impacted by this to that degree, believe me when I tell you that one would stop at nothing to do whatever they can. I was raised to never leave things to chance and over my dead body will I do so with my Nephew especially.
 
@JayD210 - That is so true. My 34 y/o non-verbal nephew will always need care. His autistic mom is nearly 70 and she won't be able to take care of him forever. I'm afraid he will end up in some kind of group home or in institutionalized care later in life. I'll be too old myself to have him come live with me. But if I do become his guardian after his mother can no longer take care of him, I will do my best to hire a live-in carer so he can stay in his home, the only home he has ever known.
That’s what I fear for my Nephew. My Sister just turned 40 and I’ll be 39 in July. I have a 7 year old Neohew also on the Spectrum but he’s way farther ahead at his age than I was.
 
What would the advocating be about?

I also have family members who have classical autism, but I don't know them much.

It feels like a lottery who in the family is or isn't level 3. We're not that different, except for having the ability to compensate.
 
As someone who also was diagnosed at an early age but am now spoken for like most of us here, I feel it is my duty to advocate for those who have Severe Autism and their families. One being forgotten is one too many. We as a society and in the Autism Community need to do better by these people. That’s what I’m trying to advocate for.
It's a lofty goal and I hope you can achieve it. Different countries have different levels of support for people with all sorts of disabilities, I suggest looking at models used in other countries to give you a clearer idea of what to aim for. No system will ever be perfect but some are decidedly better than others.

Australia is pretty good, quality and quantity of services varies a little from state to state but overall we're better off than a lot of other countries. I live in one of the more progressive states and we're in the process now of seeking public opinions of proposed changes to our disability support.

What is already in place:
Home and Living

My state government actively seeks public opinion on proposed legislation, this is something rare and beautiful and I love it.
YourSAy

And a copy of the draft State Disability Inclusion Plan currently proposed:
Documents | Consultation on the draft State Disability Inclusion Plan 2025 - 2029 | YourSAy

To set these kinds of systems up requires the support of both federal and state governments as well as local community groups. To bring all these groups together on any issue requires a lot of public support, governments are rarely going to initiate proposals that aren't going to win them any votes.

True change can only happen when the people themselves change.
 
I regard parents and family that take care of their family that can't do it themselves, as true heroes.
Is a big sacrifice to do that i would believe.
 

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