General question for all

[Alex Bogue]

Do you feel like it's hard finding the right significant other?

 

[The Penguin]

Yes. It took me many years to learn not to rush into things. I have a bad habit falling for people fast. I'm a lot better learning how to control myself.

 

[King_Oni]

Well... "the right" doesn't seem easy, though I seem to have a trackrecord in finding Miss right now pretty consistently, lol. As opposed to Miss right.

Though in all honesty, I don't really know what Miss right should be like. And I think a lot of people have trouble defining that.

 

[Alex Bogue]

Oh absolutely. I'm guilty if falling too fast also.

 

[Judge]

Finding a significant other, period? Yes. Very difficult.

 

[May Black]

I have a partner, but finding anyone that's interesting enough for me to want to interact with has always been a struggle. I seem to attract drunks and idiots. =(

 

[clg114]

It is very difficult to find the right one. However, it is worth it. I have very few friends but without Mrs.clg114, I would be totally lost. You just have to be sure, when you find the right one. That is the trick.

 

[Melissa Kay]

Dating is tough. Finding people who are still single is tough too I've found! But, I know that God has a plan. When the time is right, I believe. Hang in there.

 

[Alex Bogue]

And every gal I've fallen for is too judgemental.

 

[King_Oni]

And every gal I've fallen for is too judgemental.

If that's the case, would you think that you might fall for the wrong type of people?

I had an interesting conversation about this with a woman the other day. She told me she was looking for a certain type of guy, though I pointed out that with her interests, her attitude these guys might not be interested in someone like her and they, in general, would probably be interested in something different that is, at least, not her.

Wondering who you're attracting and how you present yourself in that sense does play a big part.

 

[Alex Bogue]

Good points

 

[Kaylee]

partners can be a pain to find. the biggest issue i find is finding someone i can trust and be comfortable around, i am not a social and terrible at initiating a convo. i mostly stick to dating sites and i tend to be honest and just let things happen. personally i found the best people tend to be people with issues too. my best relationships have been with people i find it easy to talk to and people i just feel content being around. also one of the biggest thing i learned in group therapy once is that we have to be content being alone before we can have a really good relationship. if we only look for a partner then we are less likely to find the right person instead of the person who you can really be with. if you just look for someone to be with. you will end up codependent for them emotionally. which isnt usually healthy or fair for the relationship and the other person

 

[Alex Bogue]

partners can be a pain to find. the biggest issue i find is finding someone i can trust and be comfortable around, i am not a social and terrible at initiating a convo. i mostly stick to dating sites and i tend to be honest and just let things happen. personally i found the best people tend to be people with issues too. my best relationships have been with people i find it easy to talk to and people i just feel content being around. also one of the biggest thing i learned in group therapy once is that we have to be content being alone before we can have a really good relationship. if we only look for a partner then we are less likely to find the right person instead of the person who you can really be with. if you just look for someone to be with. you will end up codependent for them emotionally. which isnt usually healthy or fair for the relationship and the other person

I agree on all that.

 

[AsheSkyler]

Aye. I seemed to only attract drunk or high losers that would rather bum off their parents than ever even attempt to be useful.

Then I met my husband. He was interested in me, he was a responsible adult, and I had no issues spending my life with him. I didn't let him slip away.

 

[Judge]

I'm inclined to believe it happens more often when you aren't actively looking. That they find you.

 

[Ereth]

I'm inclined to believe it happens more often when you aren't actively looking. That they find you.

I agree. I think if you spend too much time looking for a romanticized ideal, you end up not seeing the potential in people right in front of you.

 

[Harrison]

Do you feel like it's hard finding the right significant other?

No, it's impossible.

 

[Etzelaire]

No, it's impossible.

Hundred percent agree, I think most people are moved by costum and peer pressure to keep with the same person throughout their lives.

 

[Spiller]

No, it's impossible.

Totally agree!!
I just cannot understand other people and the rare time or two I felt I've somehow managed to make a connection (no idea what random expression or word caused that), it turns out not to be what I thought/hoped.
I don't necessarily want to leap into bed on the first date, getting to know someone and becoming friends first sounds good to me.
I feel emotions very strongly and when this happens I'm always overwhelmed; ecstatic at first, then anxious.. then devastated when it comes to nothing.
I hate being like this, I wish I could never feel emotions again.. but that's just me.
I might get a dog, or a cat

 

[Randomperson]

Well... "the right" doesn't seem easy, though I seem to have a trackrecord in finding Miss right now pretty consistently, lol. As opposed to Miss right.

Though in all honesty, I don't really know what Miss right should be like. And I think a lot of people have trouble defining that.

I can define it for my own parameters, it simply does not exist where I can find it. Apparently having 3-5 deal breakers is just too damn picky.