Making a statement with question attached.

[NewOldAspie]

I have history making statements with questions. Someone told me I do this years ago. But I still continue unconsciously doing it. I think it is anxiety related. Ex: "Looks like snow today, don't you think".

I have difficulty expressing myself with groups of people and maybe re-directing attention from self. Happens pretty much all the time. Realizing that I do it has not corrected problem. Anyone else experience this?

 

[Ylva]

You can turn statements into questions? You've seen "How to speak like Kristen Stewart"?

 

[Suzanne]

Lol all the time this happens with me! My husband says: is that a question to me and I say: nope, why do you say that? Because you have a distinctive question there and I am like: really? He also says that I seem to talk as though he should know what I am talking about and as crazy as it seems, when he asks me to tell him what on earth I am talking about, I tend to answer in small doses and that winds him up and he then shouts: will you please tell me the whole sentence, Suzanne? I actually think I am in a sort of trance when this happens, because when he gets annoyed, it sort of releases me and I apologise and try to get back to balance.

I am trying hardest to not have so many conversations with myself and I am beginning to see, that I am hard work, but hey, so is he lol

 

[On the Inside]

I do this, it is part of my general wishy-washy-ness, not wanting to make too strong a statement, or God forbid make it seem like my opinion is truth.

My partner does the opposite, she starts a sentence with a question, which morphs into a statement, with long supporting statements attached. Like "Did you do blank, because blah blah blah and then yip yap yip and blah blah blah. When she's done, I have to ask, "Did you ask a question that you wanted answered?"

 

[NewOldAspie]

You can turn statements into questions? You've seen "How to speak like Kristen Stewart"?

I do not know Kristen Steward.

Lol all the time this happens with me! My husband says: is that a question to me and I say: nope, why do you say that? Because you have a distinctive question there and I am like: really? He also says that I seem to talk as though he should know what I am talking about and as crazy as it seems, when he asks me to tell him what on earth I am talking about, I tend to answer in small doses and that winds him up and he then shouts: will you please tell me the whole sentence, Suzanne? I actually think I am in a sort of trance when this happens, because when he gets annoyed, it sort of releases me and I apologise and try to get back to balance.

I am trying hardest to not have so many conversations with myself and I am beginning to see, that I am hard work, but hey, so is he lol

I always have a twist to conversations and seems people look at me quisically sometimes. Seems like NT's unable to grasp beyond their envelope, it is too bad for them, and not me, I think. But then what do I know, I am AS.

 

[SameStars]

I do not know Kristen Steward.

She's an actress most known for her role in the Twilight movies. There's a youtube video (Speak Like Kristen Stewart) on the channel Barely Political where someone impersonates her to show how the real Kristen Stewart comes across as awkward during interviews and public speaking.

 

[Judge]

Rhetorical questions can be tricky.

Sometimes they can be effective in making a point. Other times it's annoying in stating the obvious.

 

[Aspergirl4hire]

Yep. I got better after someone told me point-blank that just because I know what I'm talking about doesn't mean I should cast doubt on myself--I was actively undermining my own credibility.

Which meant I had to look at how do I handle confrontation, and how can I invite other people to talk when that's what I want, to hear them talk. Wasn't too hard, but I score OK on basic social stuff, and at my age, I have a lot of "scripts."

 

[NewOldAspie]

She's an actress most known for her role in the Twilight movies. There's a youtube video (Speak Like Kristen Stewart) on the channel Barely Political where someone impersonates her to show how the real Kristen Stewart comes across as awkward during interviews and public speaking.

That sounds much like how I identify myself. I will check that out at library. (I only have iPhone)

Yep. I got better after someone told me point-blank that just because I know what I'm talking about doesn't mean I should cast doubt on myself--I was actively undermining my own credibility.

Which meant I had to look at how do I handle confrontation, and how can I invite other people to talk when that's what I want, to hear them talk. Wasn't too hard, but I score OK on basic social stuff, and at my age, I have a lot of "scripts."

I have difficulty in verbal confrontation. Possibly because I am continuously trying to understand their side of argument. I tend to look for the truth of their argument and lose track my point of view. But then later, after I totally review the conversation, I discover I was right. Tends to be personally stressful. I try to depend on gut feeling since it seems to have higher probability of correctness.

 

[On the Inside]

I have difficulty in verbal confrontation. Possibly because I am continuously trying to understand their side of argument. I tend to look for the truth of their argument and lose track my point of view. But then later, after I totally review the conversation, I discover I was right. Tends to be personally stressful. I try to depend on gut feeling since it seems to have higher probability of correctness.

I also spend a great deal of my attention LISTENING and trying to understand someone else's point of view that I lose track of, or simply am unable to prepare a response. I have to pause, and by then the other person moves on to something else.

 

[Heissonear]

Like Suzanne mentions above, learn to live with who you are. No big problem in most cases in just being who we are and how we are.

My wife makes statements with questions too. It may have come from seeing if I am listening to her! Yea, she has caught me mentally somewhere else a few times.

When I read your example in my mind I did not see "a problem" but way of interacting, creating engagement. It may be that I'm getting use to my wife's way of talking around me!