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Recent content by Shamar

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    Rejection, Depression and Coping

    You actually get FIRST dates? I can't even get that far. You are doing well.
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    Navigating without a road map

    Pretty much the story of my life. One example is math and computer instructors who seem to have the attitude that everybody already knows what they are teaching, and the class is nothing more than a review. This effect is not limited to just math and computers, but seems to be the most...
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    Recently diagnosed

    I have told this story before, but it bears repeating for new people. I spent my life as an outcast, still am (except here). I was suicidal by age 9 due to loneliness, which lasted more than 20 years. I consulted with more than a dozen psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, and counselors...
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    Recently diagnosed

    Welcome. I was diagnosed at 67, and it was a revelation. Being diagnosed doesn't change anything about you. You are still the same person you have always been. However, learning about autism gives you understanding of your past and the way you behave and think. You are embarking on a...
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    Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

    Too many years ago, before I had any idea about autism, I decided to take up ballroom dance as a way to improve my social skills. My social skills never did improve (maybe a little), but I did end up with lots of trophies and awards. Markness, maybe you could try that. As a minimum, it will...
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    Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

    I learned long ago to not put any value on the rantings and babbling of idiots. I WON'T let their words control me.
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    Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

    I finally got married at 44.
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    Party poll!

    You know (or should know by now) that I cannot socialize, no matter how much I want to. No parties for me. And that is not even touching the crowd and noise factor. I do enjoy your polls, though.
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    Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

    Yes, the loneliness is unbearable. I nearly blew my brains out because of it. I never had a girlfriend in high school. I never had a date, and the only time I was ever invited to (or even told about) parties was the next Monday after they happened. Stop comparing yourself to others. In...
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    How Autism impacted my life over the years

    At least you were diagnosed early. Many here were diagnosed late in life (I was age 60). We grew up without support and had to learn things on our own, confused about why we were different. Congratulations on making something of yourself despite the obstacles.
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    Communicating with Doctors, etc.

    When I see a doctor for the first time, I play a little game called "What's My Problem?" I then proceed to state my situation (no eye contact, stubby fingers, clumsy, no friends, no social life, anthrophobia, unable to recognize body language or facial expression, etc). If the doctor cannot...
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    Gear to get through nearly anything.

    I knew a number of guys in SAR. Pagers would go off and one forth of the office would get up and walk out the door. Great guys, lots of good stories. When doing exploration from a helicopter, I carried a kit that would allow me to live (not survive) in an emergency under most conditions until...
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    Is it weird that I consider the idea of me making new friends not realistic?

    Exactly the same way. For me, making new friends is definitely not realistic. I wish I could, though. You all know about this.
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    You can help to develop Autistic Community in Ukraine (research survey)

    Not to put down your wife, I fully approve and support what she is trying to do. I am going to make one of my famous psychic predictions (sarcasm) - - all of the different tools and surveys used here were developed by non autistics to be used on non autistics. As others have said, we have seen...
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    Clinical depression on top of being on the spectrum.

    I have lived my entire life in depression. Yearly lows during the holiday season (I've written about this), sometimes pretty good (during some exploration projects). But depression has always been there in the background, setting my mood, often controlling what I do and how I think...
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