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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Forever Alone Aspie 47 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    There is a 1% chance the next new woman I talk to around my age or younger I have a actual conversation with will be single.
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    tree
    tree
    So you've got each encounter written down and tabulated?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I use to keep a anxiety scale and 9 and 10s were encounters with single women but many turned into 5s which is couples and 5M married, 5BF boyfriend. So after awhile I stopped doing it.
    tree
    tree
    Yes, I remember that.

    The problem with that personal score keeping/your research method is
    the size of the sample is too small.
    Tony Ramirez
    I been so sick the past few days I have not been able to go to church or yoga. Won't be able to see my therapist tomorrow or hang out with my lifegroup for dinner tomorrow. When I get better everything will be closed and people will be away.
    tree
    tree
    Can't do therapist session on the phone?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I hope they can do it on the phone if they still do it otherwise I will have to see her on Friday
    Tony Ramirez
    Just today at the social I meet a new woman and she has a boyfriend. She showed me his stupid picture. I am stick of 99% of women being taken. I will never be in a relationship. It sucks no matter what I do or where I go women are all in relationships.
    Tony Ramirez
    What's the point to even attempt to try to ask out a woman I like when there is a 99% chance she has a boyfriend or a husband.
    Judge
    Judge
    If you feel that way, perhaps the most logical question is why you don't move on and concentrate on pursuing things as an individual as opposed to a couple?

    Think about it. Whatever it is that prevents you from the obvious needs to be addressed and overcome. Which is likely to be more attainable in comparison. Where you can always readdress pursuing a relationship later.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    When I see couples everywhere outside and most of my friends in relationships it's kind of hard to not think and want to be in one.
    Tony Ramirez
    Dispite my autism and major phobias I have really socialized and did so many things these past over 4 1/2 years I feel like I accomplished so much and made an impact in people's life's. I do feel sad I am still not in a relationship.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    It’s nice to hear about some of your accomplishments that you see, Tony. Even if you haven’t gotten everything that you want in life just yet.
    Tony Ramirez
    Women who talk to me have been saying to me that I have lost a lot of weight. However, I still look overweight.
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    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    I agree with Metalhead. And losing weight is not easy, it shows willpower and determination. Very positive things.
    UberScout
    UberScout
    Dude. You've GOT to see my full body pic rn. I lost like 20 something lbs recently and I still look like an upright walrus.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I do notice my face is thinner from the pictures taken in the summer. I even was told that facial has gotten thinner. Also was told belly fat is the hardest to lose.
    Tony Ramirez
    Have you ever texted the wrong person? I just have. Thank goodness it was just a text about my yoga schedule.
    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    Yeah I have done that. It can be unfortunate.
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    Yep! Fortunately it was nothing too embarrassing except for a lot of kisses at the end of the message. I said the recipient could keep them if they wanted to :-)
    Tony Ramirez
    I don't want to end my life next year. What was I thinking. Dispite my family. I have a lot of friends and people who care for me.
    M
    Misty Avich
    Glad to hear.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Feelings are always changing, Tony. It good to see that you can push through some of the really negative ones and get to a more hopeful place. The bad feelings may come back, but remember that they will pass.
    M
    Misty Avich
    I was worried about you, Tony.
    Tony Ramirez
    I talked to a woman after yoga class and even walked with her on my way home taking to her. I was not nervous or anything.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Good going. Do you have her number? Next time offer an interesting date - and, OMG, there is a lot interesting going on around NYC. Is Sweeny Todd still playing? But, only if you like the macabre. Or, so many museums! And one of the best of Mexican cucina at Toloache (I think it is near 50th and 8th). Sweep her off her feet.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    She is married. What a waste of time it was. 99% of the new women I encounter recently have a boyfriend or are married and I am sick of it. New York city has very few single women or they stay in their apartments like hermits.
    Tony Ramirez
    I was told by two people today that I have been a positive influence to them and other people lives. I don't feel so useless now.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Now use that little victory for your confidence and feel secure in approaching a single woman you have interacted with and ask her out for something simple, like a cuppa joe. Awww, hell, if the woman is married ask her if she can give you practice in a conversation you can have with a single woman.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    But, married women may have single girlfriends. You need to cast as wide of a net as you can.
    Tony Ramirez
    My late grandmother said you won't meet anyone if you don't go out. We'll I been going out for over 4 1/2 years and I still have not meet that special someone.
    Misery
    Misery
    Have you tried searching for completely new places to go? If transportation isnt too bad, I mean.
    Tony Ramirez
    I just want to cry.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    I'm sorry you're sad, Tony. It is okay to cry. It's a normal thing to do and sometimes it can help ease the feelings that are making you want to cry.
    Tony Ramirez
    Being ignored is the worst kind of bullying.
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    Judge
    Judge
    Ostracization is a deliberate and malevolent process.

    Yet I can't help but wonder if societal indifference is worse, and whether we must accept it in the case of mathematical disparity. Where majorities of people vastly outnumber minorities. When we are either shunned or simply ignored.

    Either way it does play with our perception, and not in a good way at times.
    Cryptid
    Cryptid
    It is wise to remember that no one is obligated by law or "morality" to acknowledge your existence. If fact, "Ghosting" is one of the most effective tools of self-defense that anyone could put into practice. One's self-esteem and identity should not depend on how much attention one receives.
    oregano
    oregano
    The good thing about being ignored is that you can always choose to ignore them back. They don't want me to exist, fine, I'm taking my ball and leaving and going to a place where I can ignore and be ignored in peace.
    Tony Ramirez
    The world would be a better place if I never existed.
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    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    Hang in there.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm tired of hanging in there.
    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    Yeah that happens, I have been tired of that too before. But we have to hang in there. Things change, they always do eventually. And this is a rough time of year, winter and Christmas. In a while it's spring, that will be better.
    Tony Ramirez
    I am going to find a painless way to end my life by early next year so I don't have to go through another year of this.
    Storm Hess
    Storm Hess
    If I can get through years of abuse and emasculating, you can too. Seek help. You have every right to exist.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I have seek help. It has not changed or worked.
    Storm Hess
    Storm Hess
    For things to change you have to be willing to go through difficulties. If I can do it, you can. :)
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