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  1. Dryope

    Feeling shut out

    Of course. Though the moderator was 100% correct, of course!
  2. Dryope

    Feeling shut out

    Thanks for your note. Yes, I 100% support the rules and the moderators' actions.
  3. Dryope

    Core Difference with NTs: I Care More

    Well, I wish you luck. I still ended up stimming during the conversation, though (phone call). I think this is a tough skill to learn, but it may not be for everyone.
  4. Dryope

    Core Difference with NTs: I Care More

    Mia it sounds like we could both learn a lot from Beverly. I just practiced her technique in a social situation and found it very helpful. I didn't have anything living around me, but I visualized the earth under the floor supporting me and shielding me, and that apparently triggered some sort...
  5. Dryope

    Core Difference with NTs: I Care More

    Thanks very much. That's very similar to what therapists are trained to do, at least in the second paragraph. I appreciate your sharing this -- I'll certainly benefit from it, and hopefully others will as well.
  6. Dryope

    Feeling shut out

    Thanks! But I'm not unhappy. I'm not complaining. I'm just trying to explain how my bottom-up thinking complicates this. I'm sorry for causing a ruckus. I have failed to communicate again somehow. I use words that seem clear, but somehow everyone has a different idea than what I'm trying to...
  7. Dryope

    Feeling shut out

    Hm...I don't think I'm explaining myself well. The moderator is not at fault. I am. I am not defending myself at all. I clearly don't understand the rules. If I stay, I will hyperfocus on understanding them. I will spend hours reading posts here, writing lists, devising schema, and...
  8. Dryope

    Feeling shut out

    First off, let me say: I am not complaining and I am certainly not saying a moderator did anything wrong in any way. I have nothing but respect for moderators and the hard work they do. Please do not take any offense at this whatsoever. But I rarely allow myself to communicate as an aspie --...
  9. Dryope

    I'm having second thoughts about AC. I was told to delete a comment I viewed as innocent...

    I'm having second thoughts about AC. I was told to delete a comment I viewed as innocent venting, not hurtful. The safe feeling is gone.
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  10. Dryope

    Core Difference with NTs: I Care More

    I'm an empath, too, although I don't use that term. Seeing my close friends and family after a long time apart accelerates shutdown for me -- I can't deal with their emotions. Everything is swirling in my mind. I wish we could just shake hands and talk about politics or something. I like...
  11. Dryope

    Married before diagnosis..?

    I have been married for over ten years and just got diagnosed. My husband says it's not Asperger's, it's a personality. And he loves my personality. Awww. But seriously -- I am not emotionally available when he wants me to be. I can't control when I am, either. And he perceives a lot of...
  12. Dryope

    Core Difference with NTs: I Care More

    Just updating....I figured this out. This is what I'm talking about. I think it gets talked about a lot, but I just had to get to it in my own way (like everything). I just feel more. A Radical New Autism Theory - The Daily Beast 'People with Asperger’s syndrome, a high functioning form of...
  13. Dryope

    When being "out" would be so much easier

    Yes. I don't want to put myself at the mercy of whatever definition they attach to the label. I have told psychologists in a nonclinical setting. I have to do some calculations in my mind before telling people -- and the number had better be a good one. They need to be informed, it needs to be...
  14. Dryope

    When being "out" would be so much easier

    Yes, that's exactly what I mean. I have to gather info until my brain clicks -- and then I understand the thing and can know what to expect from it and how it works. And I usually LOVE the research process, but not when there's insufficient data. You've piqued my interest and I wish I could...
  15. Dryope

    Clothing Preference?

    My clothing muses are: Robin Wright in "House of Cards" Cayce Pollard in "Pattern Recognition" and Timoni West's daily unform. I wear a simple black dress fitted to my body. No frills. Two inches above the knee. I plain belt if I need one. When it's a grungy day, I wear a black JCrew t-shirt...
  16. Dryope

    When being "out" would be so much easier

    I called a specialty fountain pen company about a vintage Waterman I wanted to buy that required customization to give it more flex. I also wanted advice on making a determination on buying a Nakaya pen with an elastic nib, since I can't go a pen show just now and don't know enough to make a...
  17. Dryope

    How do I ask others for help?

    A lot of it is in how you ask the question. I've had a good model for this at work the past year -- she spoke in a firm, confident voice when she asked the question. I've found that kind of voice tone helps make the question make me seem less weak. If you watch legal or medical dramas on TV...
  18. Dryope

    Do you find shaking hands "icky"?

    Yes, that's the kind of thing I mean. It's like an aura. Though, being sciency, I'm on the fence on auras. I shouldn't be, though -- this describes what I do unconsciously. Good advice. I guess it's like a loud sound that someone else makes scares you, but if you make the sound, it doesn't...
  19. Dryope

    Why Is it a Symptom When I Do It?

    Yes, the more I learn about ASD the more I see NTs doing the same things. It's like I'm learning about human nature and I see that a lot of my quirks are not autistic, they're just human quirks. The only things that are really "autistic" about me are the panic I get when I'm overloaded, the...
  20. Dryope

    Clothing Preference?

    Hi BlueConundrum: do you have a favorite skirt you recommend? I have trouble finding one that looks right, but if I could, this is all I would ever wear.
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