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  1. Duncan74

    What is your dream house?

    So I'm a lot closer to my dream house than most. I live in New Zealand on a lifestyle block, about 15mins from the CBD where my office is and 20 mins from the airport. View of the ocean, with a sideroad to get me to some awesome low traffic hilly roads for cycling. Most of the house is timber...
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    Unsure of diagnoses

    And depends on you. But for that next session then if you think it would help to have someone there with you, then ask the question if that's ok (it will be).
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    Unsure of diagnoses

    Ooh, ok, yep that's the assessment. Have you any follow up with them planned? May well be that they have given you an initial diagnosis to take away, but then I'd be expecting that you would have a follow up to talk through some specific areas. Especially the type of support that may help...
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    Formal Assessment yesterday.....

    Interestingly one of the first people I confided in is an ex colleague - actually my old boss that I remain good friends with. His immediate response was that he (and his wife, my old HR consultant) had discussed this between themselves years ago. Anyway, I said it would be helpful to me to...
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    Formal Assessment yesterday.....

    Hello again for those that I met late last year, early this year. I found the posts and support on here really really helpful in the early days after my self diagnosis, the positive indications from the screening and when I was learning about 'what may be'. But then after those first few...
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    Unsure of diagnoses

    Hi Cecel and welcome. First off, some great questions there but be assured those are the ones everyone asks themselves!!! And that confusion part, well that's fine as you're thinking of lots of different possibilities. You're interested in yourself and getting understanding. Be way worse if...
  7. Duncan74

    Street Art

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    how do deal with my "normal complex?"

    There is an irony here. (My word how this forum encourages over sharing). So I'm a married late 40s guy. And my whole life I was never ready to be a father due to not wanting any child of mine to suffer the same pain as me. In the end I took the exact action that you referred to above by...
  9. Duncan74

    Recently identified but not yet diagnosed

    Hi Ted. I'm just back home after my first ever visit to San Francisco. I'm in a similar position, have my assessment booked for May/June. But am just working through all the things I need to shift, come to terms with and look at with new found confidence and wisdom since my epiphany (and...
  10. Duncan74

    First Computer?

    Commodore 64 but almost had a zx81 a year or two earlier. I then had an Acorn A3000 that completely changed my school grades. This was in late 80's or 1990 IIRC, so doing my school work on a computer and printing it out on a dot matrix printer on perforated z fold paper was most definitely...
  11. Duncan74

    Hello Elephant: Imposter Syndrome

    Ha and this is the next layer, I get upset if I am not recognised for going way over and above what is expected. But then get all freaked and do not receive positive comment well at all, most of the time deflecting to someone else, or trying to point out faults that mean there was still...
  12. Duncan74

    Monotone voice in groups, normal in 1:1 situations

    Thanks for making the time to respond. Regarding the 3 '*' points. 1) The feedback from a couple of people was very much about the contrast. That 1:1 or 1:small I have a really impactful way of 'story telling' and engaging. It's as it goes to groups then people can't help but turn off. I...
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    Monotone voice in groups, normal in 1:1 situations

    I'm actually fairly good in large presentations. I think that's as I can prepare and do tend to add in a fair few self deprecating humourus nuggets to break it up. It's meetings with say half a dozen to a dozen people that I'm struggling in. I'm wondering if I try to just focus on one or...
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    Monotone voice in groups, normal in 1:1 situations

    Thanks. That was a good suggestion, and I built on that. I was thinking of it was about the inability to read multiple people at once. So for 1:1 I'm 'reading ' the person and can concentrate to consciously adjust my voice to illicit the facial reaction in the other person. But with multiple...
  15. Duncan74

    The Sunrise, Sunset & Dusk Thread.

    Some photos from some early runs this week
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    Street Art

    A couple from my recent trip. Bonus points for anyone that knows where.... A delightful zombie / day of the dead robot Princess Leah. Naturally. 15 storey Johnny Cash.
  17. Duncan74

    Monotone voice in groups, normal in 1:1 situations

    I got some really valuable feedback at a work conference I was at this week. Basically as per the title. In 1:1 then I use inflexions in my voice to really good effect. However, in group situations, apparently I do really drone and that puts people off, they lose interest, get frustrated...
  18. Duncan74

    Hotel recommendation - San Fran

    Yeah, some interesting parts of OFarrell too! I ended up running to 39. Didn't ride the cable car, but think I can live with missing that. If you are a local then I'd really recommend doing 'the visitors' on 6th floor of MOMA. I'm not normally a fan of video installations. But this was like a...
  19. Duncan74

    Hotel recommendation - San Fran

  20. Duncan74

    Hotel recommendation - San Fran

    Thanks all. Had a great few days even if weather wasn't great. Hired a bike and headed over golden gate and up Hawk Hill Saturday and the Chinese Lunar parade last night. Nice run this morning around from the ferry terminal up past fisherman's Wharf and back. Then SFMOMA for some culture this...
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