Re: Feminism
@Jeff: Firstly, I agree that "No true Scottsman" type arguments lack a basis in fact. They are phoilosophically weak & untenable.
As for 'feminist ideology', on the basis of your statements, I think you may be making the commonly made error of not having much of a grasp on what feminist ideology. You seem to be taking the most extreme examples of fanatical people (who exist in every ideological camp) & assuming that they are representative of an entire movement or ideology. It is akin to taking Jim Jones & his lunatic cult or that Hale bop comet & poison applesauce cult guy & David Koresh & his Branch Davidians & thinking that THIS is what Christian Ideology is!
There are several different feminist ideologies & agendas & they vary enormously around the world, depending upon the unique challenges women face in a given setting. In Pakistan, for example, a cornerstone feminist issue is the right of girls and women to get an education, to be able to leave their homes alone & without having to obtain a man's permission & even, in some cases, to have a male accompany her,
In Yemen & Ethiopia, a major feminist issue is ending child brides: an appalling issue wherein girls as young as 7 can be married off to men in their 40s & subjected to repeated rapes, kept completely uneducated & condemned to hard labour.
In India, child marriage is also an issue. Another big issue there is dowry burning and burning of women as marital abuse. When a bride marries, her family must pay a dowry (cash, land, goods, jewels etc.) to the groom's family (since she is considered to be a burden they are taking on). The disgusting practice of burning women by pouring kerosene on them & setting them aflame is happening with alarming regularity. It happened in Montreal a year ago when some young guy poured acid over his young girlfriend's face & head. A guy in England did the same to his ex girlfriend: ending her modeling career. He also did the same thing happened to a young women in NYC. THis is by no means 'just' a 3rld world issue (whatever that even means) that we allegedly advanced westerners can dismiss as backward peoples' savagery. The men & women in these cases, that came to mind immediately, were all white & western.
In the west, women still do not get equal pay for work of equal value. In Montreal, a city bus driver who is a highschool dropout with a driver's permit makes over 50,000 per year. He works no over-time. A nurse with a high school diploma & 4 yrs of university makes $35,000. She will be worked to death with long overtime hours. Something is wrong here.
Feminism is not about hatred, For the most part, it isn't about men! It is about looking at the particular challenges & forms f oppression & unfair treatment women face & seeking to empower them (especially girls) to overcome them.
As for hate going both ways, whenever I hear a guy talk this way, I can bet on 2 things: this guy has never been in a positive relationship (romantic type) with a women & he rarely dates actual women. the woman he knows the most is likely his mother. His assumptions about who & what women are, are based upon assumptions, extreme examples & stereotypes. Many of these guys are angry because they cannot attract the kind of woman they want to be with. Part of the problem is that the woman he wants is largely a patchwork quilt of archaic stereotypes about so-called femininity, narrow ideas about women's so-called roles or 'place' & other reductionist nonsense. THat woman does not exist & never really did: she was a figment in the male imagination & the 'role' allotted to her was a marginalized, unrewarding & submissive one.
Physically I am quite andro - small breasts, skinny, not many curves - and my sexuality is very strong and I tend to be the dominant party. My partner has a strong feminine/bi leaning so we sometimes swap roles in bed. 
