* If anything happens to me like within my day - he blames it on me. 'Well maybe it's just you?' Everything is 'just me', to him.
Just for the record, this was the only thing on your list that might have remotely been considered something a friend would do. I try to play devil's advocate for my friends and loved ones asking them to examine their own behavior b/c I know NT's tend to just stand up for their friends and take their positions, fight their battles, etc. Still, doing this repeatedly is not helpful. If it doesn't help once, then best to move on.
Everything else on your list I have no hesitation agreeing with as "creepy."
The nude pictures bit is frightening, especially since you're obviously not into it.
Ditto. Are we sure he's on the spectrum as opposed to being, well, a sociopath? I'm no doctor, but jeez.
Don't feel any obligation because you share a diagnosis.
Gonna hesitate there - I feel obliged to treat others as I'd want to be treated. That means sometimes taking the time to explain why behavior is unwanted or inappropriate to someone who, like me, might not have grasped it on his own.
That said, explanation given - you've done your part. He just needs to move on.
However "no" still means "no"- in any language, let alone any neurological profile. There's no "free pass" for any Aspie over that situation either.
Ditto here. (I frequently don't reply to things Judge posts because I tend to agree and it just gets redundant, which means I usually post replies only on the rare occasions we disagree, which I realize makes it look like I only ever disagree with Judge, so I felt this ditto was particularly important.)
I'm not sure if restraining orders extend into cyberspace but they probably do
Some places yes; some places no. Regardless, getting restraining orders for cyber activity even when possible can often be hard to prove and even harder to enforce. I'd advise getting an attorney if this continues. Most times getting a restraining order for, say, domestic violence can be done without an attorney if money is an issue, but an online one is going to be tougher to pull off pro se. Just my two cents.
Nobody's social skills are that poor where they think this type of thing is perfectly acceptable.
Hmm. You didn't know me in my youth (J/K).
Yeah, sending unwanted porn is kind of obviously not okay, even from an aspie perspective.
You need to get out a warrant to warn him that if he keeps harrassing you, he will be arrested.
Do you, OP, know him IRL? Getting a warrant will be hard (not necessarily impossible) without his real identity.
If people try to continue to try to cross that boundary after you set it, it's a form of emotional abuse.
I don't know about "emotional abuse" (I think that's an overused term with a definition so all-encompassing that it has lost any real or significant meaning), but it's certainly "harassment."
It's your right to have secrets and a private life. Don't let anyone take that away from you.
Absolutely agree with this.
