Does anyone else think anniversaries are dumb? Like, you're celebrating being in a relationship with someone for a set amount of time, like it was an accomplishment. Is it such a hardship to be with someone, that you need to count the months and years? I think it's stupid. If you have someone you care about/love, then it shouldn't matter how long you've been together. Why is ten years more of an accomplishment than one year; did you not think you could make it that long? It makes me think that people don't respect their partner or themselves to think they could stay together.
I feel an anniversary day not only celebrates that moment, but it honors the past day of that marriage, too, and it can bring back many wonderful memories from the prior year for that couple, to reflect on. Too often couples can be focused on working, or their children, and creating holiday memories for them, and taking things for granted about each other, so if there is no special day for themselves to me that devalues the relationship, as if it means nothing.
I see it as an accomplishment for any "loving couple" to married for any length of time, much less a couple with conditions who may have even have tougher times finding any success in relationships, as divorce and separations are common, and couples may stay together for other reasons. For those couples who no longer are in love, or do not envision a long life together, maybe my reply could have been different, as an anniversary day could bring about the wrong feelings, and create unneeded pressure.
For my wife and I we make things interesting each anniversary year. We each create our own theme each year, as per our own unique desires, and then the actions and gifts are based on that. As we both love writing and.being creative, and as we are each sentimental, the anniversary is seen as fun and showing our love, through our past, present or future memories, actions and visions. Heartfelt letters, poems, homemade gifts, and new ways to show our love make things interesting.
But, I could see how some with certain conditions whereby expressing or processing certain emotions could be more difficult, or for those who have difficulties with relationships, why they could find anniversaries as either neutral or upsetting. Personally, I am much less interested in my own birthday than wedding anniversaries. I do not see the point in my birthday, so I do not mind if I miss that. Maybe it is because I like giving more than receiving, or because I do not like focusing on age. Regardless, our son Aaron likes making me a pizza on that day, so I find good in that.
