Anyone prefer not to socialize?

[kazz45]

i prefer animals to people!!

 

[gregmcph]

Parties... Family Gatherings.
I am good for the first hour. Not everyone has arrived. I can chat to a few people.
As it builds up.... more people, more noise, more booze... I need to escape, and sometimes I will say to my wife "Sorry hun, you have fun, I'm going home". But, if I am there at the end and again the noise and crowds die down, I seem to regain my voice. I can talk again.

 

[Vanilla]

I actually do enjoy socialising, though am very particular as to the circumstances. I tend to find I like to socialise with those who view the world in a different light to the norm, and so can often pick up some rather "seemingly unconventional" friends, and acquaintances. I think that based on my appearance, most people don't understand my choice of company, and will often tell me. I don't get along too well with people who are afraid to be true to themselves, or who don't understand that I've chosen to live my life as I see fit, as opposed to what is expected of me. Pickiness aside, when I find other like-minded individuals, I actually relish the company. I must admit I wasn't always this way though; my desires to socialise didn't really peak until I became a young adult.

I haven't come across many cases of the "social Aspie", though it is a great interest of mine. I'd definitely like to meet more like me.

 

[Harrison]

I actually do enjoy socialising, though am very particular as to the circumstances. I tend to find I like to socialise with those who view the world in a different light to the norm, and so can often pick up some rather "seemingly unconventional" friends, and acquaintances. I think that based on my appearance, most people don't understand my choice of company, and will often tell me. I don't get along too well with people who are afraid to be true to themselves, or who don't understand that I've chosen to live my life as I see fit, as opposed to what is expected of me. Pickiness aside, when I find other like-minded individuals, I actually relish the company. I must admit I wasn't always this way though; my desires to socialise didn't really peak until I became a young adult.

I haven't come across many cases of the "social Aspie", though it is a great interest of mine. I'd definitely like to meet more like me.

I don't normally socialise but I just read the above and realised that when the conditions are as you stated, then I can take part.

 

[icesyckel]

I enjoy a lot of things that wear me out.

 

[Raggerty]

I've just been to the pub for the first time in 10yrs,my old man invited me to his local.
After 2 pints and a double whiskey i felt quite relaxed.

 

[Voltekka_MK3]

I really dislike, but i am quite good at it. Though it feels like a script which i dislike.

 

[Kouryuu]

Before I was diagnosed I did feel a need to socialise about once a month. It was more of a realisation that I hadn't spoken to anyone in a while and I'm 'supposed' to.
After diagnoses though I've never felt a need to socialise at all. I think it's because I now know that as an aspie it's normal to not want to. I always preferred being alone but social norms dictated that I should be social. You know?

 

[Etzelaire]

I prefer not to socialize when people do stuff I don't care about like gossiping or taking photos of themselves.

 

[ASD_Geek]

Unless it's with my immediate family then no, I usually don't like to socialize. I really dislike small talk and sitting around with people just to be around them. I see no reason to go to lunch with people from work and certainly no reason to hang out with them outside of work.

I know that this sounds kind of rude but unless the topic is if interest to me, I have no desire to communicate with those outside of family. I feel that most small talk is superficial and I have no desire to exchange banalities. If I can learn something or teach something, that's a different story.

 

[ThatSkyWing]

What is your position on having social contact? Do you want to have social contact or would you prefer not to have any?

If you prefer not to have any social contact, state your reasons why.

I would really prefer not to have any social contact. I'm an awkward mess around people(especially new people), I never know what to say, I always feel uncomfortable, it's just not fun or interesting for me, and sometimes I just want to be by myself. The only time I ever want to socialize is with maybe one or two people online.

 

[Dark Passenger]

I've always wanted to be a part of a group but somehow I always end up being the tird wheel wherever there are two or more than two persons. One to One interactions are fine but I can entertain a person only for a few minutes. Holding a conversation for long period is difficult for me.

 

[JCPHN]

I dislike socializing because it depends too much on external expectations other people have of you, I.E., you have to do and say certain things in order to fit in. Also I tend to think that most people, even my closest friends, are not on the same intellectual wavelength, and therefore don't care to maintain conversations with me. I know that sounds really pretentious, but I just don't have the patience for superficialities and shallowness.

On the other hand, I am desperately lonely a lot of the time, so sometimes it's very liberating to venture out and meet new people, so long as I have a bit of control over the situation, especially when I meet unique, eccentric, and genuinely intelligent people. Those times serve as little reminders that I'm not totally alone, which makes me feel weak to admit, but it's the truth.

Part of the reason I joined this site is to have some kind of socialization where there was a greater aggregate of people somewhat like myself. I sometimes fantasize about having better social skills in order to make friends and meet people of the opposite sex who are more like me.