ARE ASPIES SENTIMENTAL?

[gonzerd]

Heck yeah I'm sentimental! And I'm definitely not putting it down to any female side I have. 'Nough said.

 

[NothingToSeeHere]

Suspected AS female: I'm only very slightly sentimental, and the "sentimental feeling" doesn't last long (i.e. I don't get attached to possessions). I appreciate hand made or well thought out gifts more simply because I'm not at all materialistic and as such most gifts are just annoying clutter which I have to find a way to get rid of without the person knowing. If it's well thought out then it should be something I can make use of... chocolate is always better though.

 

[Willis1971]

Yes. Love sentimental and melancholic music a lot. Male Aspie

 

[SyAn]

Female Aspie: Quite sentimental, which is somewhat hard when you move around a lot. We once moved four times in one year, I am an expert in packing up, and in pre-digital times my family used to write my address in pencil so they could erase contact details because all the changes took up too much space in their address book. I still managed to save a few selected items with special personal attachment

 

[grapesicles]

Female and AS - quite sentimental. I dread ever having to move again!

 

[Structrix]

I'm very sentimental!

 

[AsheSkyler]

This is going to sound terrible, but I really hate getting gifts I don't like/want/need. I tell everyone that if they don't know what to give me, just give me flowers, wine or chocolates (can't go wrong there). I have extremely hard time getting rid of things I got from people I love even if I don't like the item. Even receiving a thing I don't like makes me feel terribly guilty. I feel quite attached to items in general, regardless of whether they have emotional value or not. Plants are even worse. I feel so bad if they wither. I guess I'm fairly sentimental. Supposedly NT, female.

Same here! Every Christmas, I just tell them to get me candy (until I started having head-swimmy problems with sugar) and then I said my gift could be a special request during Christmas dinner. I know it's hard on my family, they feel like they're neglecting me because I'm the only one not getting gifts. I try to help them out and think of little things I want like a book or something so it works out for both of us.

But most of my hate for getting gifts is more external than internal. I had a lot of gifts given to me by random people that would come back later and use it to guilt me into doing stuff for them.
Person: "Now I went and spent all that money on you and now you're not doing ____ for me!"
Me: "But, I didn't even want that thing in the first place, I just took it so you'd stop complaining about me being rude to you!"

 

[GFHandel]

I am sentimental with my not very typical souvenirs. I still keep an old candy and a handkerchief from my journey to Turkey in 2008. I have also empty bottles of mineral water, plastic packages of biscuits, shop bills, leaflets, tickets etc. I have also a sentiment for my favorite bakery in my family city. It is very traditional and old-fashioned. I created for them Facebook and twitter profiles, sent them Easter and Christmas cards and distributed promotional leaflets for my own expense through the city.

Undiagnosed NT

 

[May Black]

I have also a sentiment for my favorite bakery in my family city. It is very traditional and old-fashioned. I created for them Facebook and twitter profiles, sent them Easter and Christmas cards and distributed promotional leaflets for my own expense through the city.

Undiagnosed NT

This is so cute! They should give you a discount on your favorite pastry.
There is a milk bar in my home tome, that still has the very same strawberry milk shake that my grandmother always used to get me when I was a kid. I always go there whenever I visit the town.

 

[wyverary]

I used to be, but I've managed to tone it down. I was going through a rough period where I had to sell almost all of my CDs to make money. I regret it, of course, but I think I gained a bit of wisdom, in that nothing is permanent. So yes, I can be sentimental when it comes to certain things, but I try not to let it rule my emotions.

 

[Judge]

An example. A piece of music from the soundtrack of the film "The Time Machine" (1960). A movie about a man who just didn't seem to fit into his own time. This is the sort of thing I mean. It's just not something I've ever shared with others...but maybe a fellow Aspie might understand somehow. The music is bittersweet...melancholy. Reminds me of myself...and how I never seem to fit in much of anywhere.

 

[DogwoodTree]

It's just not something I've ever shared with others...but maybe a fellow Aspie might understand somehow. The music is bittersweet...melancholy. Reminds me of myself...and how I never seem to fit in much of anywhere.

Thanks for sharing. Now I need to watch the movie...sounds like something that would be meaningful to me, too

 

[Harrison]

This one is, I actually dislike the fact I am so sentimental, it's the one thing that can bring me to tears in a nanosecond.

 

[Wooaspie]

Self diagnosed aspie. When I I'm given gifts or nice gestures I find I react in fabricated responses. Meaning I have to act like I'm happy or overwhelmed with joy. I suppose this might be because I have no actual emotional response so instead of looking strange or unappreciative I put on an act of gratitude based on what I think or remember normal responses are in these situations. Mostly responses I remember from other people or tv and movies. As for personal sentimentality, it's fleeting for me. As soon as I place value or sentiment on something it ceases to have that value or sentiment. And it makes me wonder why I don't appreciate theses things like others do, so I put effort into faking it. But doing that never helps, its just a struggle until I let it go and then my mind is at peace again. However I'm still left with the thoughts of how others wonder why I don't care for these things. Great topic! Thanks.

 

[Annie White]

I am diagnosed. Yes I do get that way a lot with my daughters toys. I never take them to the 2nd hand store because I think of how sad it would be if they were never bought or loved again. I donate to my gyms daycare, because my daughter can still play with those toys when she's there, and they will always have kids to play with them everyday.

This would look crazy to other people, I am completely aware, yeah. But, it is a personal feeling. I have a few dolls I keep. One is an old japanese doll that I rescued from a 2nd hand store. She will be passed down when I'm dead someday.

 

[Grumpy Cat]

I am diagnosed. Yes I do get that way a lot with my daughters toys. I never take them to the 2nd hand store because I think of how sad it would be if they were never bought or loved again. I donate to my gyms daycare, because my daughter can still play with those toys when she's there, and they will always have kids to play with them everyday.

This would look crazy to other people, I am completely aware, yeah. But, it is a personal feeling. I have a few dolls I keep. One is an old japanese doll that I rescued from a 2nd hand store. She will be passed down when I'm dead someday.

I know exactly what you mean. I still can't believe my Mama got rid of some of my childhood animals. I still remember this one baboon I had that my brother named "Harry Deek". And his baboons name was "Coco Channel". I remember my Holly Hobbit doll and the camel that went with her. I bet she even got rid of my Barbie dolls!

 

[Annie White]

I know exactly what you mean. I still can't believe my Mama got rid of some of my childhood animals. I still remember this one baboon I had that my brother named "Harry Deek". And his baboons name was "Coco Channel". I remember my Holly Hobbit doll and the camel that went with her. I bet she even got rid of my Barbie dolls!

I'm having that moment when you wish you could adopt adults and buy them toys :.(

 

[NewOldAspie]

Real M aspie. I seem to receive things that may be stored away for years before I get too them. Most everything I have is old, but most I am quite sentimental about. I temporarily lost pair of leather drive gloves, and was in tither for days, until found. I don't like new but sometimes a gift feels pretty good if I have done something to deserve it. I am attached to my motorcycle, clothes that give me an edge over the over guy, and my shepherd. I don't like change unless results from a long thought out process.

 

[Progster]

I appreciate a present, especially when it has been carefully thought out, but no, I'm not very sentimental unless it concerns a special interest. Occasionally I can get nostalgic, especially at a particular smell, or if I hear a particular song. AS female.

 

[Keith]

Male, 29, Aspergers. Yes, very yes. I miss my childhood so much I look for DVD sets, video games, and various other things from when I was a kid. This can range from things I used to have to things I wish I'd known about. I have a Toys R Us mentality without being a Toys R Us kid, I just don't want to grow up (at least not entirely ).

I do get sad when friends move away, relatives pass away, or we lose a pet. I even get attached to cars. The first cars I ever remember us having were a GMC Safari and a Honda Civic (which I picked out as a young child because it was my favorite color). I was sad when we sold them. Our first dog was the sweetest and most loyal pet we've ever known. She lived over ten years and I still miss her. My childhood friends moved away after their parents divorced. My mother's father passed away less than ten years ago, and I was very saddened by that. I miss him very much. We had a major relationship.

Regarding others, I can obsess with finding ways to make people feel better about their nostalgic woes.