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Are the sort who does not want romance or a romantic partner??

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But I'm ranking having a girlfriend a 2/5 stars experience would not recommend.

LOL, that's great. The reality and the fantasy are two different things. I can wait to be the next guy she's disappointed in. I can wait forever. Don't mean to sound like I'm knocking women, but I'm older and I've come to realize that actually I won't be able to give her the moon. Never even could, although it seemed like I was on my way a couple times.
 
I would like to, but I guess people aren't interested in me. Not even guys are interested in being my friend, so I guess expecting a woman to be interested in me romantically is not possible. I guess I'm used to it now, so I don't really bother about it too much. I wish I could have pets again but at the moment that's not possible.
 
But true loneliness, no amount of friends can fix that. That's a between you and yourself thing. Other people may offer a pleasant distraction but, at the end of the day when everyone else has gone home, when your spouse has turned in and the kids have fallen asleep on the couch--you are still left with you. Who are you then? That's the person you should make peace with.
THIS.
 
I get you, it took me a massive amount of energy/time to adapt myself to society, particularly dating-wise. BTW, I know that masking may not be the best way to interact with people, but after 35 years of life I think I've finally found a somewhat good middle ground.

If you find platonic relationships exhausting, you may discover that non-platonic ones are like titanic quests, you will in fact need a huge HP bar. Even if both parts give their best, which I believe is my case.

Or maybe not lol, perhaps you have a really nice experience, everyone has their own, I don't want to encourage anybody to stop trying (nor start trying)... There's a bit of luck I guess.

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But I'm ranking having a girlfriend a 2/5 stars experience would not recommend.
That’s how I felt for a long time. I’ve always had trouble keeping friends. How could I expect to keep a date?
 
Def. No. I have mental health problems as well as asd and have no time or energy to take care of someone else's needs. I also do not want a bleeding heart that wants to "help" me
 
It will have to be 50/50. I can't be overwhelmed with having to be a woman's 100% source of energy, happiness, desire to take care of needs, etc. I know now that I have been extremely taken advantage of before, and I will not allow it again. Intimacy is also more cerebral and has to be there, first, or else the physical won't be happening. I feel like it should respectfully be this way, too, though.
 
In theory, I want a relationship. I've had some before, but I have huuuuge issues with physical contact and I hate kissing and everything people usually want, so I kinda stay away from this kind right now. Dating is also exhausting and I usually don't enjoy many people's company and there aren't many people who seem to understand me (no one actually). So by now, I kinda made the decision to not seek a relationship and just adopt or make use of modern day medical procedures at one point when I'm ready to have children because I definitely want children, but as I mentioned, I'm not fit for a relationship. I think if I'd meet someone whith whom I'd feel really safe with I would still consider a relationship, though.
 

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