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Are there undiagnosed aspies here

Aspergers_Aspie said:
I'm saddened to hear there's not help and support for aspies in your country
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The reason i am not diagnosed is because my psych said there is no help in regards to having a job/being financially independent in this country. Most people think being autistic is being completely nonverbal and being completely dependent on your parents.
 
AprilR said:
The reason i am not diagnosed is because my psych said there is no help in regards to having a job/being financially
independent in this country. Most people think being autistic is being completely nonverbal and being
completely dependent on your
parents.
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Sorry to hear there's misconceptions about aspergers
 
Aspergers_Aspie said:
Sorry to hear there's misconceptions about aspergers
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I suspect that there just isn't sufficient research into people who have managed to reach adulthood without a diagnosis to devise appropriate assistance for them.

Not so much mis-conceptions as a total lack of conceptions
 
Misdiagnosed aspie here, meaning I did not get an autism diagnosis when I should have. Getting a second opinion on Wednesday, though, so I guess we'll see!

I'm 40 with two kids, so I managed a lot growing up, but I can't seem to hold down a job, and that's really tough. A diagnosis might help open some doors that are otherwise closed.
 
I think I'm an undiagnosed aspie... I'm pretty convinced that I am, but I still want a professional opinion. I have another appointment with a doctor in a few weeks. She wanted me to get a neuropsychiatric screening, but the only places that do that are about 100 miles away, and I on't know if my car can make that trip right now.
 
I'm undiagnosed. I see no benefit to being diagnosed in my country and I don't want to be treated differnently from anyone else really so I don't see a point in being diagnosed in my case. I'm fortunate to have a job where I can use my vacation days as sick days (i.e. I can take autism days and no one asks any questions). My brain is designed in such a way that I'm a kind of eternal stranger. I never feel at home anywhere and I'm never comfortable anywhere. I try to find situations where an informed stranger is useful in my line of work (geographic information systems) which is often. It also helps that since I'm uncomfortable everywhere it doesn't reallty matter to me 'where' I am per se so I can work with a variety of stakeholders. In my line of work that's very useful. In a sense, I have no comfort zone so I can work anywhere just as uncomfortably as I can anywhere else.
 
I was lucky to get an aspergers diagnosis as I wanted one. The GP was reluctant to send me for one, it was after more than one meeting with my GP that finally I got referred for an aspergers diagnosis. A member of staff from student support at the college I was studying at even offered to accompany me to a GP appointment if I wasn't going to be referred. I didn't like the whole process and would have saved up and got a private one instead of the NHS looking back, ideally.
 
I'm 73 and a self-diagnosed aspie. I was 47 when Asperger's syndrome was introduced in the DSM-IV. Most of my early childhood was during the 1950's. Looking at my symptoms during early childhood, I'm pretty sure I could have been diagnosed at an early age if I had been born in recent years. I need to know why my whole life has been such a struggle, and have some certainty about the cause, so on Monday my counselor will discuss with me how to proceed with getting a formal diagnosis, and she will do the recommendation/referral. I am glad to have her validation, but even though there is no practical benefit for me to receive an official diagnosis, I need it to put this issue to rest, and to have some peace of mind.
 
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Although sometimes I would only want to chat to people who also have an aspergers diagnosis. I realise after people's comments, maybe a diagnosis is impossible or difficult.
Out of curiosity I was wondering if this website's founders/creators believe they have aspergers or know they do.
 
I'd say I am. I'm over 50. When I was a child, I was just looked at as shy, creative, emotional, odd. Autism was not something that was on anyone's radar. I've spent my whole life feeling like a failure because I didn't realize that I've been trying to be a type of person I was unable to be. I've just accepted that I am on the spectrum. Even though I've suspected for years, I've just recently told my mother & my husband.
 
Chibimaddy said:
I've just accepted that I am on the spectrum. Even though I've suspected for years, I've just recently told my mother & my husband.
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HI and Welcome to the Forums. Just noticed that this is your first post.
Do hang around a bit and read some of the older posts - a lot of experience in there.
 
Chibimaddy said:
Autism was not something that was on anyone's radar. I've spent my whole life feeling like a failure because I didn't realize that I've been trying to be a type of person I was unable to be.
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Chibimaddy said:
I'm learning & having a lot of "ah hah" moments.
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Welcome to the forum! This is a friendly place where you can be yourself and talk to people who really understand.

I can relate to the two quotes above, and the first one especially touched me. It is such a relief to meet people who have gone through such similar experiences as I have, when for so long I thought I was the only one like me. Now, we don't have to be alone any more. So welcome again, I'm glad you're here.
 
Thank you! I feel the same way. I've always felt like a burden, like I wasn't trying hard enough.

It is amazing how much kinder I am to myself since I looked outwardly & found there are others like me & they are wonderful the way they are.

Now that I realize I have compulsions & tendencies that are built-in it feels like working through them is MY CHOICE instead of feeling put upon to conform in order to please others. I honestly feel liberated. I'm so grateful to have found this group.

I procured a fitbit smart watch for Christmas, and have been using it to send myself affirmations every 15 minutes throughout the day. It keeps me quieter & more thoughtful. I have about 15 notes & add more as I come across ideas & there is a lot of wisdom here on this forum which I will add to help me as well.

Thank you everyone!
 
zozie said:
Misdiagnosed aspie here, meaning I did not get an autism diagnosis when I should have. Getting a second opinion on Wednesday, though, so I guess we'll see!

I'm 40 with two kids, so I managed a lot growing up, but I can't seem to hold down a job, and that's really tough. A diagnosis might help open some doors that are otherwise closed.
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Good luck with your assessment, Zozie.
 
I'm undiognosed, my brother recieved his diagnosis when he was young but I was missed. I have really bad social anxiety but found I got along comfortably well with my brothers friends (who, funnily enough, all have aspergers). I'm hoping to get a diagnosis eventually in the near future, it does explain a lot of my struggles through life.
 
I am not diagnosed. I am trying to get an assessment, but it is extremely difficult to find professionals where I live who specialize or know much about the presentation of autism in adults. It isn't really necessary for me, as I am "functional" enough (to the outsider perspective) that I would not qualify for any kind of assistance, but one problem I'm having is that the few people I speak with about it don't believe me because I mask a great deal of my traits, don't talk about the ones that are more internal, and my family have always just labeled me as "shy" (which doesn't even begin to cover it).

While I'm getting to a place where I just don't care about peoples opinions, it feels weird for me to hide something that is such a huge part of me from people in my life, or to just stop talking about it because they constantly undermine self diagnosis. For me, that would really be the only benefit of getting a diagnosis.
 
I've lived a lot of years without an aspergers diagnosis now I have one and where I live offer some help I am very lucky, I'm very sad in that way others who are not so lucky
 
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