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Are you attracted to Aspies more than NT's?

I prefer the company of geeks, gamers, and techies, and as the whole stereotypical nerd tends to be well based on stereotypical Aspies, I guess to some degree I am attracted to Aspies. I can't help it though, I just prefer dragons and spaceships over footballs and cleats! :p
 
I've said in other threads that I've (personaly) found it eaiser to be with an aspie rather than an NT. With each NT I was with I did care for them but I was never quite sure how to read the social cues. I was with her for six years, but that was long distance by phone so I think that it was easier that way. Since I didn't known I was an aspie. Though I also have to admit there other autistic people there so that may have helped. I have a much more successful relationship with another aspie in fact she is my wife. I am sure there are NT-Aspie relationships that work just fine.
 
I'm one of those with ASD and really strong, deep emotions. So, I really love the reliable, dependable, steady, logical type. This can be an attractive quality in an Aspie, or a NT. Aspie men might understand my need for alone-time, speech loss under stress (Hey, I'm the ideal woman! :D ), special interest focus, stimming when at home or stressed, occasional shutdowns, and sensory issues. Dang, I'm quite the package!:p
 
Warmheart said:
I'm one of those with ASD and really strong, deep emotions. So, I really love the reliable, dependable, steady, logical type. This can be an attractive quality in an Aspie, or a NT. Aspie men might understand my need for alone-time, speech loss under stress (Hey, I'm the ideal woman! :D ), special interest focus, stimming when at home or stressed, occasional shutdowns, and sensory issues. Dang, I'm quite the package!:p
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Dang! Can't get a flight over there till January ;)
 
Even before considering or having any awareness I was on the spectrum, my first partner I ended up with was on the spectrum...so was my second and yes, my most recent too. I have not actually been in a relationship with an NT.
 
I'm more attracted to people who care and try to understand why I am the way I am. I've seen many "horror" stories where an AS partner failed to emotionally support their partner, even though they knew the nature of the difficulties. There's probably a bigger overlap with understanding and having ASD, but it's definitely not exclusive.
 
Personally, I like all kinds of people. But I guess there're a few types I prefer the most: women - motherly, kind with soft voice; women and men: ambitious, confinent, responsible; women and men - a little crazy, active, make jokes and can find something funny in every situation, positive.
 
I am atracted to intelligent females and most times those who know about something I don't but want to learn of. I also like females that are a bit... You know, less serious than I am because otherwise our life and conversation would be weird even to me.
 
I'm attracted to neurotypicals and those on the spectrum. I can see myself getting along with people from both of these groups.
 
Never met any AS people I was attracted too, besides they might have all sorts of weird things I wouldn't know how to deal with, having spent my whole life around the normies I have come to have a more normie outlook on the world.
 
I have attracted mostly Aspies. I'm an emotional lady living in a world with Aspie Men, Work and hobby-wise. I don't mind being alone to re-boot to be quite honest. My only issue is if you are unable to show me how you feel... for goodness' sakes, tell me how you feel.

ASD find men interesting.
NT men, well... [answer pending]

My mantra... "If you don't tell me, I don't know".
 
I am realizing that my 'ex' (sort of. He objected to being 'officially' bf/gf even though we LIVED together...long story) may have had AS, now that I know I do. It is a really frightening/saddening realization, as I think we could have coped so much better if we'd both known.

I found that we allowed each other enough 'space'...for some reason around NTs, even though I like hugs now, it's like I just feel stifled when I'm around them too much. And there are certain things we just fell into a rhythm/habit of doing together. Like going out to eat and deciding what to order in a perfectly logical fashion. So many things just didn't need to be communicated out loud. I miss that.

In other ways, though, we were incompatible. Our mutual stubbornness and opposite ways of dealing with emotions (like, aloofness vs. meltdowns--not a good combo) could be very...intense.

Also, a girl who is still my friend originally asked me out just because she saw me in class and felt we were similar. Recently we discovered we probably both have AS. We made great friends, but the physical and romantic stuff was harder, due to anxieties, past trauma, and trouble communicating emotions. It was more like I was her obsession for awhile, but I could not tell how she felt at all, and she was easy for me to have around because we clicked. That made me feel selfish, and I apologized. We ended up living together afterward, lol.

So I'd say I find it easier to get along with other aspies, but relationships are difficult no matter who you date. With NTs, maybe because I pick people who can be my 'support system', I am a lot less stressed out about daily life and rely on them to help me through chores, work, and social situations. So I have a more stable relationship, but I feel less affinity. I don't know what that means. It worries me.
 
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I'm mostly attracted to NTs with whom I can have an intellectual conversation with--though it can't be too advanced. I guess it's complicated. But NTs want all this affection and to discuss feelings, and blah.
 
Warmheart said:
I'm one of those with ASD and really strong, deep emotions. So, I really love the reliable, dependable, steady, logical type. This can be an attractive quality in an Aspie, or a NT. Aspie men might understand my need for alone-time, speech loss under stress (Hey, I'm the ideal woman! :D ), special interest focus, stimming when at home or stressed, occasional shutdowns, and sensory issues. Dang, I'm quite the package!:p
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Hi Warmheart thought I'd comiserate with you on the brainstorm thing it's not a thing non auties can really understand. I'm H/F so I do okay most of the time but it is hard to explain to others why we go to such great lengths to avoid things that trigger the deafening storm. I have a feeling you have it much worse than me..best wishes and blessings to you on that.:sunflower: I am not certain but I may find auti girls extra attractive:rose: or it may be just the non threatening shy thing that charms me, I also go for the warm, soft or fuzzy thing it's hard to explain. A open engaging intellectual mind is hugely attractive to me.:D I am getting a little tired of the NT, aspie, autie, whatever thing, there are some people I love to bits and pieces, and other aggressive :eek: ones I'll climb a telephone pole to get away from. It is not reasonable to expect to match up well with everyone. o_O But we can try to do the best with the cards we were dealt that we can.:)
 
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