like i said i just threw it out there. sorry if i am offending people on this thread. and granolaturtle, dont worry.
I completely get what you're saying. I've always looked good on paper to men. So, getting asked out was never an issue. Things would start out fine...but it quickly would descend into...frustrations...often on both sides of the equation.
The worst thing for me has been...men have often tried to take advantage of me...physically. I didn't know I was an Aspie for most of my life, so...I often blamed these transgressions on myself. I would wonder what I did to make them want to do these things to me. I would turn the event over in my head...confused why they attacked me.
Once a guy invited me back to his room to study. He then locked the door. Then he sat down next to me...and launched himself at me. I got away. I left all my books there. But I didn't care.
Another time...a guy was giving me a ride home. He suddenly pulled off into the woods. Like the other guy...he suddenly attacked me. I burst out crying, lashing out...and he suddenly stopped. Called me a baby and drove me home.
There have been several other instances, but those give you an idea of what I'm talking about
Luckily, like I said, I was usually able to get away. But the the first time it happened, when I was 14, I was not so lucky.
So, I decided to start taking mixed martial arts based in Jeet Kune Do. Private lessons...
I remember my instructor told me something that struck a chord with me...he said...I don't understand why parents don't take their little girls to me when they are young. Then women like you wouldn't come to me when you're older in response to life knocking you down so often.
I know this deviates from the purpose of this post. And the topic was only being thrown out there...I think especially due to the difficulties Aspie men face dating as opposed to women. But then it made me realize...that because it is easier for us to meet men...it often lends itself to a whole different set of difficulties, such as the fact many NT men seem to sense us Aspie women's innate vulnerabilities and often seem to prey on us.
Have other Aspie or Autie women encountered this?