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Autism and Dating

That's straight to the point. Sometimes, it takes a little bit of time and a couple of dates to find out if there is a spark there.
 
I haven't heard from her all weekened, even just to say that she couldn't make it. I think its safe to say she isn't interested.

It's a bummer, and I'm annoyed that I misunderstood again. Additionally, at dinner one of my friends was talking about dates she's been going on, and the other girls were saying that they'd go on a second date if they were even 50% interested.

I've never made it to a second date, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. It just feels like it will never happen.
 
Whirlwind weekend, another update:

Found another woman from my church on Hinge, sent her a message and we went out on Thursday, had a nice 3 hour dinner, and she said she was interested in getting together again, and then messaged me tonight and told me she just wants to be friends.

I'm frustrated, but not at anyone. It's just so disappointing to have this happen continually.
 
sadly just comes with the territory, i knew long before i joined this forum, i knew i was gonna hear disclosed cases of guys, men, reaching a later than societal norm age, decade, without ever having been in a relationship before, it just comes with the territory, for example, Tony's case, i knew i was gonna hear of a case like that even before i joined this forum.

Sadly not unusual, not unheard for lots of men even without being on the spectrum.
 
Ok, I'm really trying not to get my hopes up, but last weekend I happened to run into the first woman again at her work (she bar tends part time) and she seemed genuinely happy to see me and called my name when I walked in, so I went to talk to her.

She seemed glad to talk with me, and told me she might go out that night with a mutual friend and that if she did she would let me know. I didn't get a text from her, which I kind of expected, but then yesterday I decided to call her and see if she was available, since she seemed earnestly interested in person.

She ended up not being available, but invited me to go out with her and some friends in a couple weeks. So now I'm thoroughly confused, and am cautiously optimistic again.

Additionally, in the texts she sent recently, she added several heart emojis and some of the kissing lips. She's Greek, so I don't think it's necessarily flirtatious, but it's definitely not disinterest.

When she didn't message me back initially I thought that was her way of showing she wasn't interested, but now she's invited me out again. We'll see what happens.
 
AutistAcolyte said:
Ok, I'm really trying not to get my hopes up, but last weekend I happened to run into the first woman again at her work (she bar tends part time) and she seemed genuinely happy to see me and called my name when I walked in, so I went to talk to her.

She seemed glad to talk with me, and told me she might go out that night with a mutual friend and that if she did she would let me know. I didn't get a text from her, which I kind of expected, but then yesterday I decided to call her and see if she was available, since she seemed earnestly interested in person.

She ended up not being available, but invited me to go out with her and some friends in a couple weeks. So now I'm thoroughly confused, and am cautiously optimistic again.

Additionally, in the texts she sent recently, she added several heart emojis and some of the kissing lips. She's Greek, so I don't think it's necessarily flirtatious, but it's definitely not disinterest.

When she didn't message me back initially I thought that was her way of showing she wasn't interested, but now she's invited me out again. We'll see what happens.
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Keep us informed how it goes, but don't be too explicit. Good luck and don't push it. We are all rooting for you.
 
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