Said every single journalist who ever asked a politician a direct question.
From an autistic/neurodivergent perspective, you ARE frequently thinking differently than most neurotypicals. When you ask some people a question,...they may not understand your perspective,...but they understand their's, and will answer accordingly,...and you're stuck with "but that's not what I asked." Some people actually do live and see their world differently than you, and will struggle with communicating with you.
So, there is no surprise that we miscommunicate. Some call it "talking past each other",...you two are saying the same thing, from different perspectives and verbiage, but one or both think you're arguing. The trick is recognizing it and calling it out early in the conversation.