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Cancer I Hate You

These responses are never easy to write, especially during such dark times. There's nothing I can say to change your circumstances Mike, but you have my support. PM if you need someone to listen.
 
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Mike Stouffer said:
Thank you so much my friend. Never expected this outpouring of support! She is one tough woman!
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You both seem like great and strong persons Mike, but neither of you are deserving of this pain, so it would be very hard not to support you and hope for the very best. Although there will be many on this site who will show their care, as this is a friendly and supportive group, there are many others too who cannot post because of their condition or not knowing what to say that will be thinking of you, and/or praying for both of you, too.
 
I was reading your story... and am honoured that we, here, are able to share part of your life's journey....your words and expressions of connection and devotion to each other are rare my friend...
May your great love, compassion and devotion to each other comfort you both.... I hope and pray, to a higher being, that your journey continues and enriches you both for a very long time...
 
I'm sure you're busy right now, but I'm just checking in again Mike you let you know that you and Bobbi are being warmly kept in my best good thoughts and well-wishes.
 
Mike,
I have to confess I have been avoiding reading this post.
I just had that gut feeling it going to rip a hole in my heart - and it did.

I cant imagine what your dealing with, nor will I try and pretend.
People say we AS/ASD don't have empathy - what people don't seem to understand is that some of us have more of it than we can deal with, but have no way to express it properly.

It's obvious you are both unthinkably stronger than I can even imagine.
I admire the strength you displayed...
I just don't have any words, that makes this better or makes it go away.

I wish you both health, happiness, and a long full lives without any more of this stuff.
It sounds like its time for things to go really good for a change.
If I had that super power, you would be enjoying it right now.

I hate it when there is nothing I can do or say...
It just makes me feel empty, lost, and useless when that is the last thing people need.
The one thing I can offer is this place that wonderful people have created for people like us.
Its here so we can laugh, hurt, ponder, and try to help or understand.

Never give up, never give in. : )
 
I am so sorry to hear this Mike, you and Bobbi are in my thoughts. I wish I had something more to say or some advice to give but just know I am thinking of you and hoping for the best.
 
Chance said:
Mike,
I have to confess I have been avoiding reading this post.
I just had that gut feeling it going to rip a hole in my heart - and it did.

I cant imagine what your dealing with, nor will I try and pretend.
People say we AS/ASD don't have empathy - what people don't seem to understand is that some of us have more of it than we can deal with, but have no way to express it properly.

It's obvious you are both unthinkably stronger than I can even imagine.
I admire the strength you displayed...
I just don't have any words, that makes this better or makes it go away.

I wish you both health, happiness, and a long full lives without any more of this stuff.
It sounds like its time for things to go really good for a change.
If I had that super power, you would be enjoying it right now.

I hate it when there is nothing I can do or say...
It just makes me feel empty, lost, and useless when that is the last thing people need.
The one thing I can offer is this place that wonderful people have created for people like us.
Its here so we can laugh, hurt, ponder, and try to help or understand.

Never give up, never give in. : )
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Wow, your a good guy our friend, thank you for the thoughts and kind words!
 
I don't know what to say, but tough times of life, I have no experience with anything like this, but I will pray for you and Bobbi
 
Chance said:
Mike,
I have to confess I have been avoiding reading this post.
I just had that gut feeling it going to rip a hole in my heart - and it did.

I cant imagine what your dealing with, nor will I try and pretend.
People say we AS/ASD don't have empathy - what people don't seem to understand is that some of us have more of it than we can deal with, but have no way to express it properly.

It's obvious you are both unthinkably stronger than I can even imagine.
I admire the strength you displayed...
I just don't have any words, that makes this better or makes it go away.

I wish you both health, happiness, and a long full lives without any more of this stuff.
It sounds like its time for things to go really good for a change.
If I had that super power, you would be enjoying it right now.

I hate it when there is nothing I can do or say...
It just makes me feel empty, lost, and useless when that is the last thing people need.
The one thing I can offer is this place that wonderful people have created for people like us.
Its here so we can laugh, hurt, ponder, and try to help or understand.

Never give up, never give in. : )
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It happens to a lot of people !it's the primal instinct to survive mixed with love and retention of sanity
You seem strong but I felt like a headless chicken everyday ,it's very draining
 
Mike,
It's true how much like a family we are here. I've needed that and found it here.
This is a thing that no one has the words to really express the depths of what we feel reading your post.

I did not hesitate to read it, I was drawn to it because I've survived one of the rarest cancers and that is the most I can do to say how it feels. I've made seven years now when I was told it could be no more than two by the doctors.
I declined chemo for it's true it destroys the immune system which I chose to let it fight for me instead of the chemicals. I believe in the natural ways and nature's medicines. Also there was no other choice as the type was so rare there was no chemo or radiation for it.
There were no symptoms. I had a gallbladder attack and it was found in the CT scan needed for that surgery.
I was given a prognosis of 6 months if I didn't get immediate surgery. It was in the liver and too long to wait for a transplant.

I also had to go to an unfamiliar city for the surgery and had no family or friends except my Mother who had to be in an institution for Alzheimer's while I went on what I call my journery.
Three weeks in the hospital, three in re-hab and three in a group home while I got back on my feet so I could get Mom back home and resume being her care giver.
She had cancer also at the same time, different type. I lost her four years ago.
No one to turn to. Never lived away from home and disabled.
You are right, family is everything.
I never took that for granted.
Knowing I had one person's love is what I attribute getting through that terrible time to.
She was ill, she needed me, she loved me, I survived.
Don't know I could do it again now, alone.

I have shared my journey with the group here and I share it with you as a tribute to love and how we can make it. May the love you share pull both of you through also. Always.
 
SusanLR said:
Mike,
It's true how much like a family we are here. I've needed that and found it here.
This is a thing that no one has the words to really express the depths of what we feel reading your post.

I did not hesitate to read it, I was drawn to it because I've survived one of the rarest cancers and that is the most I can do to say how it feels. I've made seven years now when I was told it could be no more than two by the doctors.
I declined chemo for it's true it destroys the immune system which I chose to let it fight for me instead of the chemicals. I believe in the natural ways and nature's medicines. Also there was no other choice as the type was so rare there was no chemo or radiation for it.
There were no symptoms. I had a gallbladder attack and it was found in the CT scan needed for that surgery.
I was given a prognosis of 6 months if I didn't get immediate surgery. It was in the liver and too long to wait for a transplant.

I also had to go to an unfamiliar city for the surgery and had no family or friends except my Mother who had to be in an institution for Alzheimer's while I went on what I call my journery.
Three weeks in the hospital, three in re-hab and three in a group home while I got back on my feet so I could get Mom back home and resume being her care giver.
She had cancer also at the same time, different type. I lost her four years ago.
No one to turn to. Never lived away from home and disabled.
You are right, family is everything.
I never took that for granted.
Knowing I had one person's love is what I attribute getting through that terrible time to.
She was ill, she needed me, she loved me, I survived.
Don't know I could do it again now, alone.

I have shared my journey with the group here and I share it with you as a tribute to love and how we can make it. May the love you share pull both of you through also. Always.
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This meant a great deal to me and gave me hope that the strength will be there. I feel bad for your struggle and I'm sure you wanted to give up many times except your mother depended on you. Know this feeling well. With heart disease, 19 stents, I question if I'll be here long English to help her. It inspires me to take better awareness in rest and being strong. Thank you so much, you could have simply ignored the thread but took the time to share with us something so special.
 
I don't have much inspiring to say other than I hope the best for both of you. You are each very lucky to have found someone who loves and respects you to share your life with. If all goes poorly, at least you had that which puts you much further ahead of the game than many many people.

I will second all that Suzanne had already said about fighting caner on the first page. There is probably lots to be learned from people who fought through it naturally. The system has no real motivation to genuinely cure cancer when they can make huge money on drugs and such. It also helps build fear culture among the public which allows the elite to hold more power. People keep hearing on the TV "1/3 Americans/Canadians will get cancer..." etc. But this is no time to get political.

There should be a wealth of information how there how people got through it. I used to work with a guy who claimed he dieted his way out of cancer when he was 15 years old. They were going to amputate his leg and he refused amputation and chemo and all that. He beat it and went on to become an accomplished athlete. He was 35 last I talked to him a few years back.
 
Mike, I have really bad cancer, the operations, the radiotherapy, the chemo and all of the fear and pain. The worst is that nobody is really in it with the one involved - can't be because even though there is empathy it is still carried alone.

Cancer is not a death sentence, even though that is what was given to me. I really do know what you are going through and you are in my prayers.

All I can offer is advice from one who has been there and faced death. So, if there are questions, feel free. It really is going to be essential for your love to cover her.

Keep well.
 
Best wishes to you and your wife. Cancer SUCKS!!! My family and I've lost several relatives due to different types of cancer. My mother is a thyroid cancer survivor. There are natural cures out there.
 
Suzanne said:
Please find the series of videos entitled: The truth about Cancer; the global quest.

Get her IMMEDIATELY on ESSENTIAL OILS. Cancer thrives from sweet things and oxygen, so both need to actually be cut off. Germany has a chamber designed for the purpose of shutting down oxygen in a safe way.

Drs will not tell any of this to you. They just want you to go for chemo etc, which actually is worse than cancer, because it kills off the immune system and one NEEDS the immune system to fight off the cancer cells, which are just immortal cells.

People who have been given 6 weeks to live, are thriving now after many years.

A friend I have know for years, we found out she has cancer of the liver and it was a shock to see her. It was the chemicals that were causing extreme fatique. She had a terrible lower back ache and so, I did a bit of massage ( hate doing it, because it means touching a person) and she reported the pain had vanished and taught her husband to do the same thing. One of her daughters has urged her to go on essential oils and it was me mentioning it that prompted a reminder of her daughter saying the same thing.

Get your wife on every natural.

But I urge you to look at those videos.
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Exactly!!!! Cancer is big business. I advise people to do their own research. Here's an eye opening documentary : www.burzynskimovie.com.
 
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