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Comfortable being single

hiraeth

hiraeth

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If there is anyone else who is comfortable being single either indefinitely or however you define "long term" - come give a shout here. Although I'm not sure how inclined you would be to read this forum if that was the case. XD

Just looking for some moral support.
 
I'm comfortable. I mean, I'd like someone to cuddle with sometimes, but it's not gonna happen any time soon. Most people just aren't compatible with me.
 
I certainly desire a girlfriend but don't think I could be in a fully engaged relationship . I need so much down time ,so to answer your question ,in many ways I am very comfortable being single .
 
I was very comfortable being single, until I met my wife. Now I can not imagine living without my family. When I was single, I never thought that my life would be like it is. There is only one thing that is for sure, that every thing will change.
 
I'm single and have been all my life (I'm in my early 20's now).
Aside from temporarily desiring a girlfriend more during my High School years, due dealing with the immature behavior of bullies who thought I was gay because I was single and hadn't "made a move" towards getting a girlfriend (since I had no idea how and wasn't comfortable with doing so), I'm quite content with been on my own.

There have been other times in my past where I have desired a girlfriend, although these times have been temporary and either a result of been depressed or jealousy when I've seen my other family members getting together with people.
I've often said to my mum that if I ever do find a girlfriend, I want to make sure that I'm financially stable beforehand, especially since I've seen many young couples jump into relationships that fall apart fairly quickly when it comes to money issues.

At the same time, I've joked with both my parents that - as a guy who is Asexual/Hetero-romantic - they shouldn't expect any grandchildren from me.
 
I've had partners and, I've spent a good part of my life single. Sure it's nice to have someone but, I don't need anyone. I'm just as happy by myself, I'm complete in and of myself, don't need anyone else.

I'm also old and stubborn and, I'm not rearranging my life for nor kowtowing to anyone. To quote a song "It's my life and my way."
 
My last girlfriend broke up with me in the spring of 1999. Best thing that ever happened to me.

Occasionally I get feelings for someone else; about every five years or so. I get over it and I know it and it thus quickly stops bothering me.
 
I miss being single sometimes. I had my own place to go that was only mine. I could come and go socially at my own whim. Now I'm in someone else's company almost 24/7,and the real me is not liked very much at times!
 
I'd much rather have friendship than, how should i put it ? Sexual Intimacy ?
I could enjoy someone willing to geek out with me.
 
hiraeth said:
If there is anyone else who is comfortable being single either indefinitely or however you define "long term" - come give a shout here. Although I'm not sure how inclined you would be to read this forum if that was the case. XD

Just looking for some moral support.
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You're not alone.

I've always been single. There has been one occasion, where I was offered a relationship. After a few weeks, I went on my own to New Zealand for a holiday.

Why single ? I couldn't cope with the intimacy and intrusion. Not sure how a relationship would make me happy.

Be comfortable with being single. I always have and I always will be.
 
ancusmitis said:
I'm comfortable. I mean, I'd like someone to cuddle with sometimes, but it's not gonna happen any time soon. Most people just aren't compatible with me.
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So true.

In my case, sometimes I feel like it could be good to have someone to express my everyday's feelings with. But this is very rare. I usually am better untouched and alone -don't like being touched! Hate it! I need my bubblespace-
 
my problem was i got confused and started being funny with someone and after all the other encounters. things didnt add up after that. i am just trying to be friends with women. going into another relationship will just ruin everything. then that means i would have to focus on her and not my friends.
 
I've spent most of my life single. A few short term relationships, but nothing ever turned into a comitted relationship. Looking at my sister, who has her own family, I sometimes think it could be nice to have that, too. But I also don't have the need to date like crazy to search for somebody.
Every few years I feel like trying, because I get that feeling that it would be nice to have somebody to share your life with. But then I usually get into something that won't work anyways and I give up the whole idea.
I really never saw myself ending up in a long term relationship and building a family. I can't imagine myself in a family.
 
eonbus said:
The women in dating profiles lie about themselves.
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Ooh, excellent generalisation! *sarcasm I met my husband online by having an honest profile. I'm sure some women do lie, as do some men. Misogyny and ill-informed blanket statements are best left in a skip somewhere.
 
eonbus said:
The women in dating profiles lie about themselves.
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Not all of them. I met my husband, the love of my life, on one. My profile was completely honest and deliberately so, to try to ward off unwanted advances from men who were just out for sexual encounters. My husband, on the other hand, wasn't completely forthcoming about some things.

A sweeping generalisation such as yours only serves to limit your experience of the world by closing your mind. :herb:
 
I am completely happy being single. I'm 26, have never dated, and probably will never have a romantic relationship. While I know that things might change for me, as I am now I am happiest without a partner in my life, and my dreams for the future involve lots of cats, not wedding bells :catface::smile:
 
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