KassieMac
Well-Known Member
Hi Spinning Compass
That's the story of my life. Either they cut me off for breaking some rule I wasn't ever aware of (because of their inability to communicate) or they cut off all social contact because I stop doing/giving them what they want for free. You're right, this is life with Aspergers.
I read your blog post about 'by God stubborn', and that's the most ridiculous cop-out of an excuse I've ever heard of. In all my years in the 'Bible belt' (where they carry it & thump it, but never read it) I've never heard of anyone being offended by something so mild. And, as you mentioned in your blog, if it was really such an offensive phrase they would've objected much earlier. The compromise you offered ... to have them not say the words and look offended ... was intelligent, fair, creative, and admirable. If they were being honest about their reasons, I can't see how they could refuse that. Clearly they had other reasons that they didn't have the courage to admit to. And the people you're describing ... they may claim to be followers of God, but they don't want you to follow God, they want you to follow them. Have them as your Higher Power. Problem is, religion/spirituality doesn't work like multi-level marketing, you can't work up the heirarchy by recruiting more people. Because I was Catholic, they seemed to think I was worth double-points ... so while they couldn't bring themselves to be my friends, they all fought over whose 'church' I would attend/join.
Ignore them. You deserve better than that. We're here for you and we love you as you are.
Kassie
That's the story of my life. Either they cut me off for breaking some rule I wasn't ever aware of (because of their inability to communicate) or they cut off all social contact because I stop doing/giving them what they want for free. You're right, this is life with Aspergers.
I read your blog post about 'by God stubborn', and that's the most ridiculous cop-out of an excuse I've ever heard of. In all my years in the 'Bible belt' (where they carry it & thump it, but never read it) I've never heard of anyone being offended by something so mild. And, as you mentioned in your blog, if it was really such an offensive phrase they would've objected much earlier. The compromise you offered ... to have them not say the words and look offended ... was intelligent, fair, creative, and admirable. If they were being honest about their reasons, I can't see how they could refuse that. Clearly they had other reasons that they didn't have the courage to admit to. And the people you're describing ... they may claim to be followers of God, but they don't want you to follow God, they want you to follow them. Have them as your Higher Power. Problem is, religion/spirituality doesn't work like multi-level marketing, you can't work up the heirarchy by recruiting more people. Because I was Catholic, they seemed to think I was worth double-points ... so while they couldn't bring themselves to be my friends, they all fought over whose 'church' I would attend/join.
Ignore them. You deserve better than that. We're here for you and we love you as you are.
Kassie