Dealing with/preventing rejection sensitivity dysphoria

[Rodafina]

So it seems this is largely related to the emotional dysregulation found in ADHD as well as the social problems in autism. If I can learn to manage the former and stop some bad habits in the latter, that should help.

Absolutely! This is a good way to break it down. I think it is very likely that one can reduce the symptoms of rejection sensitivity dysphoria with insight, support, effort, and time.

Sometimes, learning as much as you can about something can help you manage it better. You can begin to understand where your brain is leading you astray in terms of its response to perceived rejection.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24099-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-rsd
https://mindfulcenter.org/what-is-rejection-sensitivity-dysphoria-rsd/
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria

 

[Jonn]

I'd like some advice on how to cope with and/or prevent it from happening entirely.

I suspect it might take some time to overcome the problem.
"It may not happen over night, but it will happen."
Believe it or not, I used to have a social phobia when I was much younger.

 

[Jonn]

A few of the theories of autism note that sensory sensitivity might also be present for internal stimuli, such as emotions. Intense World Theory and Enhanced Perceptual Functioning Theory both suggest that people on the spectrum might just receive the emotions "louder". This is backed up by plenty of physical evidence of difference in brain form, function, neuro-chemistry, etc.

I am guessing that "simple" triggering might be involved due to past experiences, but I know little about this subject, atm.

For example: rumination on past failures,

Yep...

 

[Jonn]

The really hard part is not being liked by yourself.

Self-confidence, self-esteem, and personal integrity are all integral in emotional stability, I have found.

My last therapist queried my relentless pursuit of perfection, given the profound damage to my self-esteem and mental health. I told him that, honestly, I could not see myself changing who I am at such a fundamental level. (This drive has delivered professional benefits and other positives. I know it has also robbed me of so much.)

I used to be a perfectionist to the point of rarely finishing anything.
I now see:
"Perfection is the enemy of the good", and I am much happier for it.

 

[Seladon]

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