Do people want to give back to become even?

[Zain]

You've done a favour for someone. You're the type of person to always help out when you can if it is not too much of an expense, but you're also a bit confused about reciprocation. Do you personally think it is better to accept any 'gift'/favour back or to not accept anything to appear graceful? I've read that people can get angry at refusals in these scenarios. Just curious for different thoughts and experiences.

 

[Tired]

Polite thing to do is to accept, to become even by getting something back. Otherwise a person will feel indebted to you, and no one likes that.

 

[Jonn]

I helped someone who needed to push his car off the road when it broke down.
He wanted to show his appreciation.
I suggested he help someone else in return.
We both seemed to be satisfied.

 

[Outdated]

You've done a favour for someone. You're the type of person to always help out when you can if it is not too much of an expense, but you're also a bit confused about reciprocation. Do you personally think it is better to accept any 'gift'/favour back or to not accept anything to appear graceful? I've read that people can get angry at refusals in these scenarios. Just curious for different thoughts and experiences.

The same conundrum occurs with gift giving as well. If you give someone a gift of much higher value than they are able to reciprocate it is belittling and demeaning to them and will often lead to feelings of resentment.