Do You Interrupt People?

[Spinning Compass]

And yes, there is definitely a double standard when it comes to Neurotypical versus Aspie "morality." They can do it, we can't.

 

[Tarragon]

I have the opposite problem. People are more likely to interrupt me and it's very annoying. Especially if I am trying to get an answer to something. They don't even say "I'm sorry" or "excuse me." Now, to me, that is rude. It's not like I am going on and on about something. It's like I just get started in a conversation with someone and someone else comes in and away they go, like changing partners at a dance.

I read somewhere that interrupting is an indication of social status and power, as least when it comes to neurotypicals. Someone who is perceived as high-status or otherwise seen as important, is not as likely to be interrupted as someone who has low status and who is not seen as being important. According to that theory the fact that I am more often interrupted than interrupting (apart from the fact that I was brought up to be polite and not interrupt unless for an urgent reason) indicates where I really stand socially.

I agree with this social status thing of interrupting (especially at work). Im rubbish at observing this rule, and if I need to say something them i say it! I am getting better nowadays, but can still do this. I didn't realise people got upset because of this, but as I only talk about important things, then they should be grateful??

Other people tend to talk boring things anyway, so they should be glad I introduce them to new stuff! :bounce:

 

[Ylva]

I can't talk while I'm busy listening, so if I don't find an opening or no one seems interested in what I have to say, I don't bother saying it. I'd rather turn around and leave.

 

[Hazelle]

So I have been accused of doing this by multiple people and I've worked to remedy it with little improvement. The thing that troubles me though, is that when I do this, it's in a situation where the other party is NOT allowing me to have my say within a conversation. I think of myself as a good listener, but at the same time, if you want me to listen, I'm going to be compelled to offer feedback now and then and don't want to lose my train of thought while you ramble on nonstop. So while I may catch myself doing this at inappropriate times, I also think that sometimes it's only natural to want to stop someone's monologue in the same way that they usually stop me when I get into ramble mode (and I certainly do).

 

[Axeman52]

I usually find it hard to know when to talk when there's a conversation involving more people than a one-on-one situation. Whenever I can think of something to say I either interrupt people, or I wait until there's a gap in conversation and then say that I've been planning on saying the whole time, even if the conversation has moved on to a different topic. I really can't follow those types of conversations very well. It's so much easier for me to just switch off and say nothing, in that scenario.

 

[Sparticus]

Yes I have a bad habit of this but try to be polite about it and then let the other person talk. But it doesn't always work out that way@!

 

[The Penguin]

No but I find more that people interrupt me. Because I can have trouble communicating effectively people will interrupt me.

 

[Cerulean]

I usually find it hard to know when to talk when there's a conversation involving more people than a one-on-one situation. Whenever I can think of something to say I either interrupt people, or I wait until there's a gap in conversation and then say that I've been planning on saying the whole time, even if the conversation has moved on to a different topic. I really can't follow those types of conversations very well. It's so much easier for me to just switch off and say nothing, in that scenario.

I'm the same way. I'm trying to get better at group conversations but it's really hard.

 

[Harrison]

I didn't realise people got upset because of this, but as I only talk about important things, then they should be grateful??

Other people tend to talk boring things anyway, so they should be glad I introduce them to new stuff! :bounce:

I do have a habit of interrupting, my excuse is the same as Tarragon's

 

[nowwhat]

I've never seen "interrupts people" on a symptoms checklist.

I have, more than once. And yes, I do it too much. Trying to work on it. Get disgusted with myself when I do.

 

[SameStars]

Rarely, like maybe when I need to blurt out a related fact. I'm more likely to get interrupted by someone else, though - I usually miss my moment when there's a silence in the group conversation, so I'm mostly observing.

 

[Turk]

*puts hand up for the role call* I hate winging a conversation, as unprepared speech, has many crying "inappropriate "
So I try and stay ahead of a conversation with a bit of pre buffering. When conversation shifts away from my pre prepared comments, it's time to panic.
When your told to think before you speak, it sets in play, situations like this. Sometimes it's just a case that so many are talking within a group, the only person being heard, is the loudest and rudest. The goods news is, it's not always me.

 

[Randomperson]

I have multiple levels of whatever it is that makes me want to interrupt others. If I am stuck listening to someone going on about something boring I just ignore the whole conversation for the most part. If I am required to pay attention and participate I can generally avoid talking over other people, but it is not always easy. If someone else is having free flowing diarrea of the mouth or is just wrong, I have an intense burning desire that I can not help to correct them and if I do not let it out it turns explosive quickly.

 

[karla]

I don´t interrupt people, but I see that most of the times in a gathering people interrupt each other a lot. It is very anoying when do that. One thing that I dont like is having to almost fight to make yourself listened. When I´m in this kind of situation I just don´t talk.

 

[Jambo_nick]

Do you guys have bad habits of interrupting people without realizing it?

I do it a lot, more than I think. I've been trying to work on it lately, but I'm not sure if I've improved. Usually I think I'm just paranoid that I'll forget another point once the other person starts talking, I'll slip a phrase in right after they've started to change the subject... I hate it when I do it, but I can't seem to fix/understand it no matter how hard I try. My dad often criticizes me for it.

Done this a lot as a kid. These days I only really do it unintentionally when I get carried away but I usually pick up on it straight away. I'll sometimes use interrupting to save someone from talking themselves into a train wreck.

 

[Kirsty]

Yup. All the time. Especially when I'm on a high. (By that I mean when I'm on my period!) like today. I have always been this way and sometimes I forget I am like this as most the time I have no confidence and not speak at all these days. It was my birth right to talk a lot. Always have been, always will. Was told off as a kid about it. I interrupt people.

OMG....oh yeah better let others speak now...

 

[Vinca]

yep. sometimes I find it really difficult when another person is talking and there is no obvious conclusion in sight and will interrupt at every opportunity, it's more a compulsion than a deliberate act. Other times I am able to listen for longer periods, but it takes alot of effort.

 

[Whattup]

Yes, I do! I think they are done talking, but they're not. I really don't want to interrupt, but I don't want to forget what ip was on my mind, either.