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Do you love shopping???

Misery said:
Shopping doesnt happen for me much, not in the way you probably mean. It's not a matter of cost in my case... money isnt an issue for me. Rather, there's nowhere to go. Middle of nowhere, I tell ya. The stores around here are a Meijer (supermarket) and Walmart (other supermarket) and that's really about it. Well, no, there are other stores, but they're all clothing focused for some reason, like Kohls. There's also a Farm 'N Fleet, but there's nothing for me there. If I'm willing to drive into the Stupid Zone, there's a dead mall, and a store that focuses on board games (the one store I like going to, also the hardest to get to). And even the closest of the stores takes like 20 minutes to get to.

Also though my interests are limited. Video games are my primary interest, but I dont buy those in stores, I use Steam for that. Havent bought a game from an actual brick-and-mortar store in years. There's the board game store, that's another major interest, but I dont actually buy new ones all that often (unlike a lot of people in that hobby, who always have to buy the New Hotness every time one comes out, and each game gets played just one time and then goes on the shelf... never understood that approach). I also have a tendency to use things that I already have and not replace them or upgrade until they totally fall apart. I dont know why I do that. Well, no, some of that is depression, but other than that, not sure why.

So, when I buy anything that isnt groceries it's probably ordered online. Which of course isnt the same as real shopping. Used to be that the mall was the place to go, a big exciting place full of things to see and do, but... yeah it's dead. Hardly anything left. A real shame, there was always something special about going there. Even the department stores are gone.

I would also buy art supplies but there's no such store nearby. There is a Blick's store in the region, but that's over an hour away. Too far. Most of my art supplies come from this monthly subscription box I get, so I never know what's going to be in it. Pretty good deal really.

As for clothes? No. I've never had any interest. I get random shirts and such at Christmas every year from family and that makes up what passes for a wardrobe for me. That might change when I manage to deal with my stupid gender problems, but for now, dont care.
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The mall or shopping center here is great I used to go when I was younger too.
It is Ok, take care xxx
Most important thing is you are happy.
 
GrownupGirl said:
I hate shopping for groceries, clothes, and basically boring things that I need. Shopping for things I don't need and are "worthless" and "immature", such as toys, video games, or even arts and craft supplies. Of course it would be more acceptable in this society to be wasting money on alcohol and drugs. I miss my home planet so much.
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I love shopping for pointless things like toys and stationery.
Shopping is always fun no doubt about it.
I really LOVE it
 
Twilight said:
It is really hard to make ends meet as a single parent, especially when you have autism and/or are struggling with trauma and other disabilities.
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It may be hard always to make ends meet for an autistic because of struggles with daily living.
A lot of autistics could be underprivileged and poor, I am not very rich myself and get short on cash but can occasionally buy a little treat for myself.
But if you are doing an amazing job as a single mother then you should only be proud of yourself for supplying so well for your little ones.
This is only a dream post because u can always dream of what you want to buy even with short cash
 
Yeshuasdaughter said:
I like having plenty in my house. I like having enough groceries. Proper clothing for the weather. I like making what I can with my hands. I like making do with what I have. But yes, it is fun to window shop too. I really enjoy buying gifts for others.
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Me too, I like buying and spoiling my loved ones a lot. I never usually forget their birthdays.
I am someone who loves giving gifts but has to be careful of burn out
 
Ella Spell said:
Thanks! I just spent $350 on online groceries so that's about it for disposable income this month.
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As long as you have enough to eat. I hope u know people appreciate you and you can find some fun and cheap things to do with your kids.
You are a good mother providing so well.
I think most autistics like even myself struggle with daily living even paying for only themselves and that is no shame
 
My kids are adults so we don't need fun and cheap things to do, but maybe you didn't know that. Thanks for the comments anyway.

I've been a single mum for 26 years since my girl was six months old. When they were growing up they were very active in all sorts of stuff like elite level soccer, ice hockey, ball hockey, basketball, tennis, swimming, boating, horseback riding, music lessons, musical theatre, art schools, etc. That's where my money went because I didn't buy a thing for myself.

Anyway I don't want to derail but truly no, I don't like shopping even if I was stinking rich. I don't like going to shops because of sensory-social, and even when I shop online I go into rabbit holes obsessing over choices and can spend hours or days just choosing the simplest thing. I don't find it fun at all.
 
Ella Spell said:
My kids are adults so we don't need fun and cheap things to do, but maybe you didn't know that. Thanks for the comments anyway.

I've been a single mum for 26 years since my girl was six months old. When they were growing up they were very active in all sorts of stuff like elite level soccer, ice hockey, ball hockey, basketball, tennis, swimming, boating, horseback riding, music lessons, musical theatre, art schools, etc. That's where my money went because I didn't buy a thing for myself.

Anyway I don't want to derail but truly no, I don't like shopping even if I was stinking rich. I don't like going to shops because of sensory-social, and even when I shop online I go into rabbit holes obsessing over choices and can spend hours or days just choosing the simplest thing. I don't find it fun at all.
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Ok well I only wish as an autistic that my mum had supported me more in my twenties but I forgive her and am trying not to blame her because her illness and life has been hard.
I applaud you actually because I have really struggled with support from my own mother but as I said I forgive her now as long as she does not start again
It is ok, I LOVE shopping but am more practical too since I got older
 
I enjoy the occasional acquisition of som thing interesting like a new dagger from a flea market or a new fidget. But I do not enjoy the process of shopping for the same reasons that @EllaSpell mentioned above.

Also, I only work part time, so it is important for me to be wise with my money and not spend more than I have to.
 
I'm sorry to hear that. My kids' dad didn't support them, actually sued them for money (sued me too), refused to follow court orders, and eventually disowned my daughter in court because he refused to believe she was autistic. Actually he tried to sue her doctors too, for "lying".

My son is 29 and daughter is 26. They've both moved out for uni / grad school, and come home again. My son's girlfriend lives here about half of the time too, while she finishes PhD studies. My kids will always be welcome to live with me for the rest of their lives if they want. They're still quite needy in autistic ways and my daughter has serious medical conditions as well. We live in one of the most expensive places in the world and we can't move so I just have to try my best to make do, and keep lots of life insurance lol.
 
I love antiquing, if that counts, but I don't go often. When I do I usually just get a small collectible item. I've found some nice antique furniture at the curb on trash day because people in my neighbourhood are crazy and get rid of beautiful heirloom pieces. I have all sorts of furniture that I found in people's trash in perfect condition, or at second-hand charity shops.
 
Ella Spell said:
I'm sorry to hear that. My kids' dad didn't support them, actually sued them for money (sued me too), refused to follow court orders, and eventually disowned my daughter in court because he refused to believe she was autistic. Actually he tried to sue her doctors too, for "lying".

My son is 29 and daughter is 26. They've both moved out for uni / grad school, and come home again. My son's girlfriend lives here about half of the time too, while she finishes PhD studies. My kids will always be welcome to live with me for the rest of their lives if they want. They're still quite needy in autistic ways and my daughter has serious medical conditions as well. We live in one of the most expensive places in the world and we can't move so I just have to try my best to make do, and keep lots of life insurance lol.
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You are an amazing mother, I wish I had a mother as loving and supportive
But she is unwell and I forgive her.
Hope ur daughter gets better. I have struggled with medical conditions and autism too, very severely that is why I often wish I had more support as well because I am a very sensitive woman.
 
There is no cure for my daughter's condition unfortunately.
I hope you and your mother can bridge some of those troubles and have a more supportive relationship too.

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This piece was built in 1890 and I found it free in a neighbour's trash. ^

This one is handmade pine and it was $20 at the charity shop:


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I pretty much agree with Progster. Shopping can be fun when it's stuff I really want. It's nice to have the things, but I hate the clutter, so I'm pickier about what I have, these days.
 
If I had the money and time, I'm sure I'd hang around thrift stores and find stuff to make DIY projects with, or maybe even dig through vinyl / cassette / VHS crates (assuming in this scenario that I actually had a record or tape player + VCR). I always get a really vibrant feeling around old objects and media, especially when I know it has been used. I don't believe in ESP or any of that stuff, but it feels almost like what someone might describe as such.

Regular shopping, though? That's pretty much hell on earth to me. I'd rather order something if I need it.
 
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