I get bothered by talking to people when they ask me questions, and then when I ask them the same questions back, they don't give me the same type of answer. Like if someone asks me where I live, and I tell them the exact town, then they reply with some ridiculously vague region.
I think many of us probably have some type of social anxieties, reservations, or self-defense mechanisms because we were hurt really deeply by others in our past or from other traumatic event(s). It seems the best happy medium is some kind of self-defense mechanism in which you leave your door open, but make it harder for people to earn your trust who aren't really showing it enough. It's a way of standing up for yourself that shows confidence for yourself and to others. It has worked for me even though it doesn't bode very well in the workplace for networking. Networking usually involves a lot of small talk.
At the same time, you can communicate when people are trying to talk about things that matter and when that person really tries to care about you. You can tell when a person cares about you usually and when things are pertinent or not. If you don't know right at that moment, you know eventually. What's also hard is we know that we have to take risks eventually too.
I think many of us probably have some type of social anxieties, reservations, or self-defense mechanisms because we were hurt really deeply by others in our past or from other traumatic event(s). It seems the best happy medium is some kind of self-defense mechanism in which you leave your door open, but make it harder for people to earn your trust who aren't really showing it enough. It's a way of standing up for yourself that shows confidence for yourself and to others. It has worked for me even though it doesn't bode very well in the workplace for networking. Networking usually involves a lot of small talk.
At the same time, you can communicate when people are trying to talk about things that matter and when that person really tries to care about you. You can tell when a person cares about you usually and when things are pertinent or not. If you don't know right at that moment, you know eventually. What's also hard is we know that we have to take risks eventually too.
