Does anyone have weird tastes for human appearance?

[Aspychata]

Same for me. I talked to someone for almost 2 years. Was shocked at how handsome and tall when l met for the first time. I didn't know what to expect because l think they were afraid to send their picture which happens as we age. I don't believe l was their type but l think l grew on him. Lol

I actually was kicked off dating site, they accused me of using somebody's else picture. I was flooded with hits on my picture.Finally l left site because the amount of hits was stressing me out and the mods said no way could it be me. Lol It was really me. I guess my body is a tab unusual for a petite female. The funny thing is being on the spectrum, l don't like meeting men. I had been in 4 car accidents, and decided l needed to change whatever strange path l was on. So l went to dating site, and promptly dumped all the men that were interested. Typical aspie behavior. Then this one person that l felt immediate physical attraction to contacted me. Plus this was an out of state dating site. I figured it was safer for me. Lol

 

[Wulven]

I haven't thought on this too much. But, one thing I don't like on girls is when they put up their hair. Their faces all look exactly the same. It's very uncomfortable. As far as body type goes. I lean toward "normal" thin with a little weight. Average height. Mostly though they have to be interested in me. If they aren't then I'm not.

Also I don't have any movie stars that interest me. Fame is just a turn off button for me. I feel inadequate to be dating any such person. On many levels.

Age is another sticking point. I don't like the idea of dating girls five years younger than me.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

my parents and siblings made fun of my appearance & called me ugly.

I find that quite sad.

 

[Metalhead]

I am a gay man attracted to bears. Not sure how weird that is, but I really did wish I had more of a twink body for them to play with.

 

[Captain Jigglypuff]

I am a gay man attracted to bears. Not sure how weird that is, but I really did wish I had more of a twink body for them to play with.

Try being attracted to male little men. They aren’t easy to find or meet.

 

[Ken]

i don't like being dishonest to people, so if i girl i would like asked me if she was beautiful and she was not - i would probably said the truth, that i value her for her personality and not looks. But when i mentioned that online, all the girls who read this said that they would dislike to hear that...

If a person has a beautiful personality then the correct answer would be that she/he is beautiful. That would not be dishonest - if you consider their personality to be their actual person. To me, a persons personality influences my view of their appearance. A person that I might consider homely will start looking beautiful as I get to know them and see they have a beautiful personality. If so, then they are indeed beautiful. Telling them otherwise, as in referring only to their superficial appearance would be dishonest.

I remember, when I was a young kid and my family was visiting my Aunt Annave. There were a group of young girls in the house and one was being entered in a beauty contest and was getting all the attention. Another girl started crying, convinced she was ugly. Aunt Annave took her on her knee and told her that physical beauty was superficial and the beauty contest was just a game. She then told the girl that if she was loved then she was beautiful, because love is beautiful. She then pointed out that everyone loved her, so she was very beautiful.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

If a person has a beautiful personality then the correct answer would be that she/he is beautiful.

And, I would add, desirable. By the time I met my spouse I was still very inexperienced, and a virgin. Yet, after our adventures and my love of her personality and values, I appreciated her so deeply, that when we first made love I was so lost in experiencing her pleasure that any thought of my inexperience and physical preferences fell by the wayside.

 

[Au Naturel]

And, I would add, desirable. By the time I met my spouse I was still very inexperienced, and a virgin. Yet, after our adventures and my love of her personality and values, I appreciated her so deeply, that when we first made love I was so lost in experiencing her pleasure that any thought of my inexperience and physical preferences fell by the wayside.

It is true that if you love someone, they are beautiful because you love them.

What is beautiful is learned. To this day my concept of perfect natural beauty involves large deciduous forests in gently rolling countryside laced with rivers and creeks and lakes and interspersed with small communities and farms. That's because it is what I grew up with.

I moved away from Michigan. I eventually learned to see the beauty in desert. And chaparral. It didn't happen automatically. Desert is a dreary wasteland to a lot of people but I learned to see the beauty in it by not making any judgments that would have prevented that learning.

One way to learn what is beautiful is to mirror what you see in the media. That's the lazy way to do it I suppose. Also a complete copout for anyone wanting to be more than a puppet on a commercial string.

You also learn by associating beauty with something you see that brings you good feelings. I happen to think all the smells associated with horses are beautiful. When I was a young boy, a horse was a great source of joy. Anything that reminds me of a horse triggers those pleasurable endorphins and that is about the only definition of beauty that matters. Beauty is what brings you joy when you perceive it. Regardless of what academics and critics and the media tell you, it's not an inherent property of anything nor any kind of objective state.

If there's an evolutionary bias in the perception of human beauty it is probably towards youth, strength, and health. Beyond that, everything else is determined by what you are told by the local culture and what you decide for yourself.

If one would be happy in this world, keep expanding the things that one sees beauty in.

 

[Ken]

There is a 2009 movie that addresses this very subject titled Shallow Hal.

 

[Au Naturel]

There is a 2009 movie that addresses this very subject titled Shallow Hal.

There's a Twilight episode that handles it well too. "The Eye of the Beholder."

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0734568/

 

[ElvenNeko]

In the end though... does it really matter that much?

It kinda does. Since i only met attractive person only one in my life, i kinda already accepted that i will never even touch them and only will look at them at pictures or videos. And this is sad that they are so rare.

But every time i try asking for help to look for more pictures or videos in the internet to enjoy at least that people just downvote me because they do not share my taste.

 

[Misery]

It kinda does. Since i only met attractive person only one in my life, i kinda already accepted that i will never even touch them and only will look at them at pictures or videos. And this is sad that they are so rare.

But every time i try asking for help to look for more pictures or videos in the internet to enjoy at least that people just downvote me because they do not share my taste.

Dude, it's the internet. People downvote because it's the internet. Or because they had a bad day. Or because you're wearing a hat in a video. Or because THEY are wearing a hat. Or because they saw a cat earlier and your post has nothing to do with cats. Or because they are high. Or because they think it's funny, that one's a popular reason.

There's no logical reason AT ALL to pay attention to "downvotes". It's. The. Internet.

Trust me: It SERIOUSLY doesnt matter. At all. UNLESS YOU LET IT.

...Also why in the world does your search for pictures involve a system that has upvotes and downvotes? Just... just use Google. Unless you're in a properly positive community (which utterly and totally excludes all forms of social media, period) it's bloody silly to be asking about things like that on the internet.

If you ARE using social media to do this... stop. Just stop. It's toxic. It's the MOST toxic. OF COURSE you'd get downvotes or insults or whatever there. That's what it IS. That's what it DOES.

If it's on a forum of some sort... time to leave that forum.

Note that all of this is coming from someone who has been on the Net since it began, and has nothing but free time, all the time. You can do the math on that one.

 

[ElvenNeko]

It matters because downvotes prevent others from seeing the post and responding to it.

I can't search in google. Google does not understand what i want to find. I type cute girl and it gives me pictures of girls that aren't cute. There is no words to describe my vision of beauty, only other people could help me who share the same feeling. But usually places without downvotes have very small user bases, and there are low chances that there will be a user among them who would share my taste. I haven't found bigger communities other than reddit, 9gag and simillar sites.

 

[Misery]

It matters because downvotes prevent others from seeing the post and responding to it.

This ALSO doesnt matter.

Why?

Because it's the bloody internet! Again: In a POSITIVE community, this MIGHT sorta maybe almost possibly be useful. But on the majority of the Net? Nobody is going to respond with anything helpful ANYWAY. Or, in many cases, respond to anything at all, unless there's some spectacle involved or something funny. And if they DO respond, it often is either A: insults, or B: lies. Because again, it's the internet.

And heck, you mention places like Reddit and 9gag and those are exactly the sorts of entirely unhelpful places I was talking about.

The bigger a place on the Net is, the more likely it is that it will turn out to be a festering cesspool, as those places are MUCH harder to moderate. Provided they're moderated whatsoever (many arent). Not to mention that places like that can be genuinely dangerous...

Positive communities will always be smaller. That's simply how it is.

I can't search in google. Google does not understand what i want to find. I type cute girl and it gives me pictures of girls that aren't cute. There is no words to describe my vision of beauty, only other people could help me who share the same feeling. But usually places without downvotes have very small user bases, and there are low chances that there will be a user among them who would share my taste. I haven't found bigger communities other than reddit, 9gag and simillar sites.

Dont search for "cute girl" then. Search engines are brainless things and have no bloody clue what you personally mean when you search for... absolutely anything at all. They can generalize and that's IT.

Just look at totally random pictures of girls. Dont waste time trying to be specific. The internet as a whole is stuffed with about 5 billionty photos of entirely random people just doing whatever, the majority of which arent categorized and wont even show up in searches anyway. Dont just stick to a search engine, I probably should have specified that.

Heck, I search out things all the time, but it's very, very rare that I specifically rely on just a search engine. And even more rare that I'll actually ask anyone for help. Still... I always find what I'm after in the end.

So many people try to use the Net as if it's this single magic button that gives them what they want immediately, and then get disappointed when that doesnt work. Think of the Net as being more like the world's largest and most nonsensical labyrinth, and that's a more accurate view. And the only way to deal with a labyrinth is to EXPLORE, and also to PERSIST.

 

[ElvenNeko]

Provided they're moderated whatsoever (many arent)

I found out that unmoderated communities often much friendlier and open-minded, while moderated ones are suffering from admin abuse more than often, where admins silencing free speech and forcing their own agenda upon the community. Yes, it leaves place for a rude commends, but... you can just ignore them? I can't get offended by anything anyway.

And i can't think of any danger that might come from there.

Looking for random thing is what i was doing all the time. But it takes too much time. And sometimes i find the gallery like the one linked in post where it's not possible to find beauty at all. Even harder with porn since studio-made stuff is almost always unattractive. I just wish there was a faster way to find what i need. Like other people can do that.

 

[Misery]

I found out that unmoderated communities often much friendlier and open-minded, while moderated ones are suffering from admin abuse more than often, where admins silencing free speech and forcing their own agenda upon the community. Yes, it leaves place for a rude commends, but... you can just ignore them? I can't get offended by anything anyway.

You're going to the wrong places, then. This place you're accessing right now is the sort of community I meant. This is a small community where nobody attacks each other.

However, there is another autism forum that is the bad sort. I wont name it, but I know that more than a few people on here know which one I mean.

Again, you have to explore enough to find this stuff. When you find a bad one, that's a cue to simply move on and keep going.

And i can't think of any danger that might come from there.

Yes, I know. Most people cant. Not in recent times anyway. Which is why you see so many people on social media doing things like using their real names, and stuff like that. Which is sort of breaking one of the primary rules of safe internet use, yet certain sites that I wont name have normalized it. Sure makes it easier for the criminal sorts, I'll put it that way.

Worst part is, it's difficult to explain the dangers to anyone that hasnt been doing this long enough. The internet is not a safe place... period. Never forget that. No matter how bright and flowery it may seem. Even the sites themselves are often dangerous, but perhaps not in the way you might expect. Not every threat is criminal or illegal, sadly.

Speaking of which, if you have been accessing sites like those...

I hope you've got plenty of blockers and scanners installed.

Looking for random thing is what i was doing all the time. But it takes too much time. And sometimes i find the gallery like the one linked in post where it's not possible to find beauty at all. Even harder with porn since studio-made stuff is almost always unattractive. I just wish there was a faster way to find what i need. Like other people can do that.

Again, I said you have to persist. Did you think it was ever a fast process?

If you just give up, then you've definitely lost: OF COURSE you wont find what you're after, because you stopped looking! Looking for stuff can take a long time, and that's an important lesson, because it applies to both the internet, and IRL stuff.

When you're looking for something that's tough to find or something that's just a bit unusual, or perhaps something that's just inherently rare... ya gotta try things out (with appropriate safety measures installed), experiment, and KEEP GOING. You cant win otherwise. That's just how it is. It's not an easy process and there's no real way around that unless the thing/topic you're looking for is very well known. And even then, there can be... "problems" with that.

Yes, I know it's bloody irritating... been there, done that. Searching for stuff can be a pain. But it's either keep going, keep trying, or fail to find it, whatever "it" is. It's really that simple.

 

[paloftoon]

I am a gay man attracted to bears. Not sure how weird that is, but I really did wish I had more of a twink body for them to play with.

It's not weird at all. It's part of the culture. It does leave out people who aren't hairy like me though.
Many Asians, not all, but many, are not hairy. It indirectly puts them on less of a pedestal than they already are put on by their appearance overall in the US for lgbt culture. I am unsure about other countries, but I suspect European countries may have a similar vibe for lgbt culture.

 

[Judge]

I can't search in google. Google does not understand what i want to find. I type cute girl and it gives me pictures of girls that aren't cute. There is no words to describe my vision of beauty, only other people could help me who share the same feeling.

Yeah.

Reminds me of how I felt about one particular relationship I had many years ago. Where more often than not the only way to describe what I meant by the adjective "cute", would be to show her picture. Downright adorable.

Having the ability to develop my own b/w photographs, she enjoyed posing for me quite a lot. Though I wouldn't dream of sharing them. A petite woman with a certain look and demeanor, that was kind of like "my own personal brand of heroin". Not what I'd call beautiful or voluptuous. Yet something magical nevertheless.

Closer to an opposite of myself in many ways. Yet it seldom got in the way. Even years later, I miss her a lot.

I suppose the only persons in the public domain that might sort of describe my use of the word "cute" would be tv personalities Paige Davis or Samantha Brown. Does that work?

I did also have a prior relationship with a woman who I thought was quite attractive. Never did understand what she saw in me. She was well beyond anything I considered "cute". However her lovely physical appearance could not overcome her shortcomings in attempting to mask her alcoholism which ultimately doomed that relationship. One where my autism took a back seat in comparison.

 

[ElvenNeko]

Having the ability to develop my own b/w photographs, she enjoyed posing for me quite a lot. Though I wouldn't dream of sharing them. A petite woman with a certain look and demeanor, that was kind of like "my own personal brand of heroin". Not what I'd call beautiful or voluptuous. Yet something magical nevertheless.

Sounds like an absolute dream. You are very lucky person to have such expirience. And it's good that you not sharing that without her permission. It means that she trusted the right person.

Damn, what i would give to have the same in my life... but it's not possible.

Does that work?

Kinda of. Examples always good.

 

[paloftoon]

For romantic relationships or fwb, I personally like masculinity and either nerdiness or jockiness is okay with me. I adore faces handsome to me and I know it's temporary. I also feel like I could stay attracted to someone if they 'gave' a piece of themselves to me when they were physically beautiful to me but then got less attractive to me later on- as part of being together with someone is being okay with the changes too.

For anything platonic, I don't try to focus on appearances as I sense a lot of people do this to me especially.