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[Rachel V]

Hello, I'm Rachel! I'm 16, live in the UK and was diagnosed with Asperger's a few years ago.
I don't know if this is the correct place to ask about this, but I was just hoping for some advice about going to a wedding. It's an Indian wedding, and there are going to be a lot of people there (coupled with lots of dancing and loud music). It's a bit too late to opt out of going, and I don't want to displease the family. Any advice on how to deal with sensory overload would be greatly appreciated!
Many thanks; everyone seems so kind here.

 

[Sablerose]

Hello Rachel V, I just want to say welcome. I am sure someone here will have some advice for you but I'm still learning myself (even though i'm an older lady) I always just did my best to find a quiet place to sneak away to until I could leave but these days I'm sure there are better ways that others will know about.

 

[Rachel V]

Hello Rachel V, I just want to say welcome. I am sure someone here will have some advice for you but I'm still learning myself (even though i'm an older lady) I always just did my best to find a quiet place to sneak away to until I could leave but these days I'm sure there are better ways that others will know about.

Thank you! Yes, I did the same thing at our school's prom and was somewhat successful. What worries me is that it's a whole new culture (which means new food); it sounds to me like the prom on steroids and I'm slightly scared of having a public meltdown (which hasn't happened before, because I can usually mask until I'm on my own). However, this wedding will last the whole day...
Thank you for your kind reply though, and I will stop with the rambling for now...

 

[Sablerose]

Thank you! Yes, I did the same thing at our school's prom and was somewhat successful. What worries me is that it's a whole new culture (which means new food); it sounds to me like the prom on steroids and I'm slightly scared of having a public meltdown (which hasn't happened before, because I can usually mask until I'm on my own). However, this wedding will last the whole day...
Thank you for your kind reply though, and I will stop with the rambling for now...

You are far from rambling, take it from a fellow rambler I just wish I had better advice for you but maybe you will learn something new and exciting there from a new culture. My biggest hurdle is myself talking myself out of stuff due to worries, now I try to look at the other side of it, what can I learn there if I have to go any ways. It will be ok....that is what I repeat to myself now instead in my head (or outloud if im really nervous)

 

[Sablerose]

and for what it's worth Rachel V, my prom date danced with everyone but me, I can laugh at it now

 

[Kisa the tea]

Hello, I'm Rachel! I'm 16, live in the UK and was diagnosed with Asperger's a few years ago.
I don't know if this is the correct place to ask about this, but I was just hoping for some advice about going to a wedding. It's an Indian wedding, and there are going to be a lot of people there (coupled with lots of dancing and loud music). It's a bit too late to opt out of going, and I don't want to displease the family. Any advice on how to deal with sensory overload would be greatly appreciated!
Many thanks; everyone seems so kind here.

Hello and welcome to the forum, Rachel! I unfortunately can not give any advice since I have never been to a wedding however maybe I could suggest making a thread if you're comfortable with that? Not everyone checks this thread and I think making your own thread might help others who could give advice see it.

There's a few different subforums you could put your thread in but maybe it would fit very well in the Help/Support section? People tend to be able to give good advice there.

https://www.autismforums.com/forums/help-and-support.5/

 

[Rachel V]

You are far from rambling, take it from a fellow rambler I just wish I had better advice for you but maybe you will learn something new and exciting there from a new culture. My biggest hurdle is myself talking myself out of stuff due to worries, now I try to look at the other side of it, what can I learn there if I have to go any ways. It will be ok....that is what I repeat to myself now instead in my head (or outloud if im really nervous)

Thank you, your advice is much appreciated! I don't think there's necessarily one definite solution (as is the case with most social situations), but I will try to look at it from a different angle. Thank you again for your replies and I wish you a wonderful rest-of-week

 

[Rachel V]

Hello and welcome to the forum, Rachel! I unfortunately can not give any advice since I have never been to a wedding however maybe I could suggest making a thread if you're comfortable with that? Not everyone checks this thread and I think making your own thread might help others who could give advice see it.

There's a few different subforums you could put your thread in but maybe it would fit very well in the Help/Support section? People tend to be able to give good advice there.

https://www.autismforums.com/forums/help-and-support.5/

Thank you! I might just do that...

 

[trustinnerwisdom]

Hello, I'm Rachel! I'm 16, live in the UK and was diagnosed with Asperger's a few years ago.
I don't know if this is the correct place to ask about this, but I was just hoping for some advice about going to a wedding. It's an Indian wedding, and there are going to be a lot of people there (coupled with lots of dancing and loud music). It's a bit too late to opt out of going, and I don't want to displease the family. Any advice on how to deal with sensory overload would be greatly appreciated!
Many thanks; everyone seems so kind here.

Sensory overload, try to find a quieter place, some tries to calm themselves down in the bathroom, other says ‘I think I need a bit of fresh air’, if there is a quieter place outside.
The best is to be honest with the family, I appreciate your invitation, but you know how sensitive I am, so I hope you don’t mind that I am going home a bit earlier?
And the second best is to learn how you cope with it the best. Find strategies which works for you.
Avoid expressions by choosing to focusing on a few people.
Avoid standing where the music is loudest.
Avoid dancing if that means to much expressions
Avoid such which you know triggers you
Avoid sensory overload the days before and the days after.

Buy ear plugs which minimise sounds.
Buy lenses which minimise light
Allow yourself to take the pauses needed, as mentioned above.

But mostly, find your own ways/methods/strategies!
I have realised that IF they are my friends, they want the best for me and that may mean that they understand if I say no to an invitation. Some event even have a wall for them who can’t attend because of introvert, sensitive or something else.

 

[Rodafina]

Hello, I'm Rachel! I'm 16, live in the UK and was diagnosed with Asperger's a few years ago.
I don't know if this is the correct place to ask about this, but I was just hoping for some advice about going to a wedding. It's an Indian wedding, and there are going to be a lot of people there (coupled with lots of dancing and loud music). It's a bit too late to opt out of going, and I don't want to displease the family. Any advice on how to deal with sensory overload would be greatly appreciated!
Many thanks; everyone seems so kind here.

Hello and welcome. If you are comfortable with it, you could start a thread asking this question and you may get more responses. I can help you figure that out if you need any assistance.

 

[MMPATT01]

Hi....I suppose?

 

[Dagan]

(blanket) Hello! ...to all new folks, once again.

 

[kayla317]

Hello everyone. My name is Kayla. I am a mom to a daughter with autism who is also nonverbal. We have been dealing with inconsolable crying throughout the day and night with no desirable cause. We have been to doctors, specialists, ABA, and everywhere we can think if for help. The main issue we are facing is her waking up crying and staying up for about 4 hours every night. We are lost and it has been going on for months. The one thing we have noticed is that when she gets tired she starts crying. She always wakes up crying. She is 4 years old. Anybody else go through anything like this?

 

[JuIie]

Hello, I'm Rachel! I'm 16, live in the UK and was diagnosed with Asperger's a few years ago.
I don't know if this is the correct place to ask about this, but I was just hoping for some advice about going to a wedding. It's an Indian wedding, and there are going to be a lot of people there (coupled with lots of dancing and loud music). It's a bit too late to opt out of going, and I don't want to displease the family. Any advice on how to deal with sensory overload would be greatly appreciated!
Many thanks; everyone seems so kind here.

Little ear plugs that You can discretly take out before engaging a conversation, dance as much as You can, it realy make You feel happy even if You don't know how, they all will want to help and show to You because You tried, take little walks outside to relaxe and go back... most likely, enjoy, later those event will became rare when your friends get older. Appreciate as much as You can the beautiful moment You will have and bring your camera and a little gift

 

[Forest Cat]

Hello everyone. My name is Kayla. I am a mom to a daughter with autism who is also nonverbal. We have been dealing with inconsolable crying throughout the day and night with no desirable cause. We have been to doctors, specialists, ABA, and everywhere we can think if for help. The main issue we are facing is her waking up crying and staying up for about 4 hours every night. We are lost and it has been going on for months. The one thing we have noticed is that when she gets tired she starts crying. She always wakes up crying. She is 4 years old. Anybody else go through anything like this?

Hello, I'm just wondering if it could be night terrors? I had a problem with that when I was young and also kept my parents up because I was very scared and didn't want to go back to sleep. It did stop after a few months.

 

[Rodafina]

Hello everyone. My name is Kayla. I am a mom to a daughter with autism who is also nonverbal. We have been dealing with inconsolable crying throughout the day and night with no desirable cause. We have been to doctors, specialists, ABA, and everywhere we can think if for help. The main issue we are facing is her waking up crying and staying up for about 4 hours every night. We are lost and it has been going on for months. The one thing we have noticed is that when she gets tired she starts crying. She always wakes up crying. She is 4 years old. Anybody else go through anything like this?

Hello and welcome, @kayla317.

You might get more input on your question if you post your own thread in the parenting section. I hope we can be supportive to you. Let us know if you need any help figuring things out!

https://www.autismforums.com/forums/parenting-autism-discussions.50/

 

[kayla317]

Hello, I'm just wondering if it could be night terrors? I had a problem with that when I was young and also kept my parents up because I was very scared and didn't want to go back to sleep. It did stop after a few months.

Hello! Thank you for responding. Her pediatrician mentioned that could be the reason. Is there anything I can do to help her?

 

[AndyFBlues]

Hi, I’m a new member. Growing up, I struggled with social interactions as well as other communication issues without any understanding of why. Several years ago, I happened to hear a talk by someone on the spectrum describing what it was like growing up and eventually getting diagnosed. For me, a lightbulb came on. Much of what was described was exactly what I had experienced. Unfortunately, I was never diagnosed. I guess that to the people around me, I appeared a bit odd but not to a degree that anyone felt the need to seek help. Seems like a lot of high functioning people on the spectrum slip through the cracks. Over time, I began to research and gain a better understanding of ASD. It took a lot of soul searching to accept what was abundantly obvious. Finally, at the age of 61, I gathered up the courage to self-diagnose and am now looking for a professional to confirm my assessment. It’s rather strange that sometimes the hardest thing to look at is the reflection in a mirror.

I currently live in Maryland. When I’m not at work, I like to spend my free time writing science fiction and fantasy. From what I’ve seen so far, this forum has a friendly vibe with lots of useful information and insights.

Best wishes,
Andy

 

[Kisa the tea]

Hi, I’m a new member. Growing up, I struggled with social interactions as well as other communication issues without any understanding of why. Several years ago, I happened to hear a talk by someone on the spectrum describing what it was like growing up and eventually getting diagnosed. For me, a lightbulb came on. Much of what was described was exactly what I had experienced. Unfortunately, I was never diagnosed. I guess that to the people around me, I appeared a bit odd but not to a degree that anyone felt the need to seek help. Seems like a lot of high functioning people on the spectrum slip through the cracks. Over time, I began to research and gain a better understanding of ASD. It took a lot of soul searching to accept what was abundantly obvious. Finally, at the age of 61, I gathered up the courage to self-diagnose and am now looking for a professional to confirm my assessment. It’s rather strange that sometimes the hardest thing to look at is the reflection in a mirror.

I currently live in Maryland. When I’m not at work, I like to spend my free time writing science fiction and fantasy. From what I’ve seen so far, this forum has a friendly vibe with lots of useful information and insights.

Best wishes,
Andy

Hello and welcome to the forum! I hope you're able to find a professional and won't have to wait too long! And I hope you enjoy it here and find more useful experiences!

 

[Crossbreed]

Hello & welcome.

am now looking for a professional to confirm my assessment.

https://autlanders.blogspot.com/2019/07/finding-support-resources-in-usa.html