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Don't feel that you are alone

Robby said:
I like this site people seem nice mostly. But I still feel very alone. I have no friends and can't trust people. I have autism and am gay and just don't seem to fit in with most people. Even among other gay people I don't feel I fit in. I don't feel anyone gets me. I have no job no prospects and no self confidence. This forum is great but I wish I had someone in real life to turn to.
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I'm gay and aspie, too, Robby--with no real friends in the town I live in. I don't have any advice. I can only say that I understand and share the exact same longing as you do for some real life people with whom I can be fully and unguardedly me. Wish you and I lived in the same town and could start our own group. ;-)
 
I don't know where to turn. I have such a problem being afraid of people and not trusting but yet I am also lonely. My self esteem is non existent and I'm afraid if I went to a support group I'd be judged or scrutinized especially if other gay people are there because it seems like gay people are really judgmental towards me yet I myself am gay. I'm not masculine or some butch bodybuilder or muscular I am tall and skinny and can't help the way I look.
 
Robby said:
I don't know where to turn. I have such a problem being afraid of people and not trusting but yet I am also lonely. My self esteem is non existent and I'm afraid if I went to a support group I'd be judged or scrutinized especially if other gay people are there because it seems like gay people are really judgmental towards me yet I myself am gay. I'm not masculine or some butch bodybuilder or muscular I am tall and skinny and can't help the way I look.
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I know what you mean. People in the gay community can be very visually focused, superficial, judgmental, and rude to one another. And the men can often be harsher in these visual ways than the women. I've always been an oddball, too. I have no fashion sense whatsoever and have never looked "cool." Have you had any luck trying to connect up with gay people via liberal ("open and affirming") religious organizations? People who attend those seem to be more open-minded, kinder, and tolerant. I'll keep thinking more about this to see if I can come up with other ideas.
 
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