• Welcome to Autism Forums, a friendly forum to discuss Aspergers Syndrome, Autism, High Functioning Autism and related conditions.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Private Member only forums for more serious discussions that you may wish to not have guests or search engines access to.
    • Your very own blog. Write about anything you like on your own individual blog.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon! Please also check us out @ https://www.twitter.com/aspiescentral

Don't Talk To Strangers

.[/QUOTE]

Oh. I love your dog!!
I want one so bad but have to wait, wait, wait for what seems like the rest of my life!

(Actually I'm truly hoping for this year.)

I love pastors!
I have 5, well 4 pastor friends in real life and one who I'm learning the tin whistle from through videos.

(Actually I'm not sure if the latter one is out of seminary yet).
 
I am beginning to understand better what being an introvert means. The old Jungian definition was that extraverts became energized being with people and introverts found it taxing to be with people and recharged by being alone. I do not believe this is completely wrong but it is not especially helpful for gaining a better understanding of introversion and extraversion.

Firstly we should reject the negative stereotypes our culture has toward introversion particularly in the USA. There is a very strong and judgmental opinion held by most Americans that introverts are inferior to extraverts. This is patently false and I will argue this point with anyone.

Recently there was some research done on whether extraverts or introverts made better leaders.

Why Introverts Make Great Leaders—Sometimes | Psychology Today

The gist of the findings are that extraverts are better leaders of passive people who they dominate but introverts are better leaders when the group is more competent and expected to be proactive. Introverted leaders listen to their subordinates and give them the freedom to act. In other words the extraverts behavior is motivated by what subordinates think and controlling and manipulating them whereas introverts are motivated by getting results using thinking and logic.

Also introversion and shyness are not the same thing and many introverts, myself included, are not shy; we simply do not find most people very interesting.

So do I approach strangers? Yes if they seem interesting but most people do not interest me. The last thing I want is to get into worthless conversations with uninteresting people.
 
Last edited:
I have trouble feeling motivated to start conversations. I don't consider silence awkward, especially with people that I've just met. I remember I went through a phase after I learned that this habit of mine offends where I would try to be outwardly friendly towards everyone, and this made absolutely no difference in my ability to strike up conversations. THEN things seemed awkward. I've resigned to only speaking to "strangers" like hairdressers, specimen collectors, janitors, etc that I have to spend more than ten minutes with. It usually involves spending two or three minutes in silence trying to figure out what I can keep going on for awhile.
 
I love to talk to strangers--on certain days. I cycle. People I'm familiar with, however (other than wife/family), I don't like talking to unless they're ULTRA familiar with me. I get anxiety. But then again, I can fake it really well. I just don't enjoy it on the inside.
 
For some reason I find everyone else a threat apart from little old ladies which I cant help but strike up a conversation with at the bus stop
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

New Threads

Top Bottom