Star, you are very brave and very strong! Please do tell us how you were able to quit heroin. So many people are hurting in that situation . Did you have to use Suboxone? A friend of my sister is on that and it changed her life. She can work again. She is working on getting off that, too, so she is much better. I hear CBD oil can help with that as well.
Oh thanks, but brave and strong are certainly not words I would use! I tried the usual detoxes, 12 step meetings, treatment centres etc over the years but none of them worked for me. I simply fell straight back into my old patterns and routines. I didn't even want the drugs anymore, but I didn't know how to do anything else after all those years, it was familiar and I understood how to survive and what I had to do in that world.
In answer to your question how was I able to quit the answer is easy, I fell in love! I met someone who it was too hard to hide my addiction from who wanted to be with me but only if I quit, she eventually gave me an ultimatum. So I agreed to quit, on condition of her guiding me through what I now know as the NT world. I never used heroin again. She gave me my daily dose of methadone to help with withdrawals and it was reduced slightly every week over many months, until I was drug free! She helped me to negotiate getting my first job, taught me new routines and how to maintain them, she understood how stressed and anxious I would get and that by Friday I just wanted to shut the door and not see anyone or go out until Monday. It was difficult for her as she was and is very sociable, and I am not. She had and has lots of friends, I had and have none. She learnt to handle my meltdowns and just leave me be for a while. We both had to learn a lot, and I really struggled with things often.
We've been married for a long time now, and she still advises me when I'm inappropriate or how to deal with people or situations I don't understand. I have no doubt without her I would still be stuck in the routine of being a using addict, or dead by now.
Getting a diagnosis was very helpful for us both as it explained so much. It also meant she could explain to her friends or family why I wasn't at an event, party or gathering, or if I was why I may quietly slip out after a while.