Friendship Dilemma

[Gift2humanity]

It's entirely platonic because he's straight, but I've always been in love with him. We were discussing baptism and whether or not it's necessary. I believe it's not, and he believes it is. From my perspective, we were having a reasonable conversation and he gradually got more and more emotional. I suggested we stop the conversation until he's less emotional. This suggestion made him angry, and he became verbally abusive, yelling.

Now, from his perspective, from what little he told me, I was emotional through the whole discussion and was provoking him. This was a surprising accusation to me, and I noticed nothing like it and was feeling no emotion other than growing anxiety over his growing emotions.

I am sure there is someone better than this abusively behaved person for you to eventually fall in true love with.

You were having a reasonable conversation and he gradually got more and more emotional.
Therefore, wisely, in my opinion, you suggested you stop the conversation until he's less emotional.
That would have made him more angry, it's not your fault.
If he has a fiery personality they are easy to inflame.
You were not to know.

Him yelling does not make him sound very mature.
Even if someone says the wrong thing, a mature person will not resort to yelling.

Even if you said, "let's stop the conversation as it's getting heated", it might have set him off.
He then went on to tell you that you were emotional through the whole discussion and was provoking him.
As you felt it was a surprising accusation to you, and you noticed nothing like it and was feeling no emotion other than growing anxiety over his growing emotions, it sounds like he was trying to project his own unstable emotions on to you.
To me, that sounds abusive.

You deserve someone better, he is not worth taking drugs over.
Try to be ok single on your own for however long it takes for you to feel that way.
People are more attractive to others when they are ok with themselves.

 

[Gift2humanity]

If he is christian he may have issues with flirting 'provocations' from a guy.
If you think you appeared that way to him that may have been the problem.

Then, to me, the friend should have made that clear.
Fino says the relationship was platonic.

 

[Varzar]

It's entirely platonic because he's straight, but I've always been in love with him. We were discussing baptism and whether or not it's necessary. I believe it's not, and he believes it is. From my perspective, we were having a reasonable conversation and he gradually got more and more emotional. I suggested we stop the conversation until he's less emotional. This suggestion made him angry, and he became verbally abusive, yelling.

Now, from his perspective, from what little he told me, I was emotional through the whole discussion and was provoking him. This was a surprising accusation to me, and I noticed nothing like it and was feeling no emotion other than growing anxiety over his growing emotions.

Sounds probable like your tone of voice or some other body language was giving him a sense you were more emotional about it than you were.
I get into situations like that with my wife as well. They used to escalate to full blown fights before I realized I was AS...
Does he know you're AS?
With my wife, it now usually gets resolved when she realizes she's putting too much weight on my tone of voice instead of just my words. We both realize we're having an "AS/NT moment", as we call it.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

My friends have forgiven me often enough that I am now tolerant of the rare times they seem to have offended me. We sometimes argue, frequently work out difficulties, and accept each other for the imperfect people we are.

Keep communication open and perhaps forgive when you both can discuss things. State how you felt hurt and open the dialogue by telling your friend that it seemed not typical of your friendship.