Have you ever had situations that were rough as guts on you?

[Nitro]

Not to discount anyone's life experience, but I understand first-hand that everyone's limitations and challenges are particular to them.

I went through far less than you, @Nitro, but I still attempted suicide before I turned 30.
We each have our limits, and mental health challenges mean that sometimes our own brains lie to us about our own ability to persevere.

No amount of inspiring stories can change that when our own, seemingly lesser, challenges honestly seem insurmountable.

In fact, sometimes such stories even make me feel worse. "I have it so good compared to some people," I'd think, feeling like even more of a failure for being so weak and cowardly.

Your story is inspiring, @Nitro, but sometimes my own brain fails me when it comes to seemingly minor things, even though I'm an Army veteran who's raised a few kids and built a good life with my wife.
I'm weak, and I need help, and I'm often ashamed of myself because of it.

Everybody's got their own struggles, and there is no objective measure of difficulty.
God bless you for what you've overcome, and we've all got our own challenges - graded on a sliding scale.

The post was directed towards the OPs opening post, and was started off with a disclaimer.
I did end it with this part which was offering my take on it:
"You need to learn to fight your demons instead of just accepting their beatdowns with a woe is me attitude.
Even if that requires the intervention of a mental health professional "

But I think you missed this point, but that is fine too. because as you have stated in so many words, we all have our limitations that work on a sliding scale.

This story isn't the only challenge I have faced, because like you have already said, we each face our own challenges that are unique to our person.
This was just my best example of overcoming a huge challenge where I wasn't the only one who made it happen.
In the end, it took a team effort along with work on my behalf to make it happen.

 

[Neri]

Yeah ...I couldn't even. I wouldn't know where to start. I guess born into a "rough as guts" life, but not as bad as plenty of other's too.

I was utterly terrified growing up. Had my first major breakdown at 11, after my stepfather threatened to kill me with a hack saw, after I tried to defend and protect my mum and stop him from attacking her. And I only did that because as an 8 and 9 year old, I felt so guilty that I hadn't protected mum from previous violent assaults by a previous boyfriend. And I still think of my stepdad as my stable, actually parental parent, as he went away to rehab and worked on himself. Irony. He isn't alive anymore and I really miss him.

My mum still made me go to school that day, and I was terrified of her, so I quit my sobbing and turned into zombie girl who wished I didn't exist.
( I spent my first nearly 40 years not even feeling like a person, more like a life-like rag doll, that looks human, alive only for other people's pleasure).


Tip of the ice burg when it comes to "rough as guts" examples. But hey! I'm in a loving relationship! I have great relationships with most of my 7 children. I have achieved, at least, a modicum of wisdom, self respect and life skills! I'm going to be getting some life changing disability support (actually, I already am, as I have an interim support program with a number of support workers already helping me) so life it good!!!! I have a home now (and I spent A LOT of years without one, and more years unsafe in one) .

I would like to ask the OP what it is you wanted from this thread? Lots of us have been through utter hell, as is very common for autists. Maybe you would like to share what YOU mean and what you are alluding to?

Because dredging up trauma is often not productive and can actually be counterproductive.
We can, maybe help, provide some perspective or helpful feedback, if we know what it is you are thinking of, when you post stuff like this?

A lot of Autists are going to be better able to respond to specifics and your, actual, issues, rather than wanting to talk about our own horrible stuff. A lot of us like things to be very direct, so we can help.