Lil
Member
Hello,
I'm self diagnosed but my official status by a clinical psychologist was 'Having several strong autistic tendencies'.
He didn't give a full autism diagnosis as he thought I had a wide variety of interests in science/technology.
(So do many AS scientists and engineers but who am I to argue with a clinical psychologist?)
However, I do score highly as nerdy, socially awkward and have difficulty starting/holding conversations. Have just a few good friends.
I also score well along the AS in online tests.
If I try hard enough I think I can mask quite well. After all, I've been trying to fit in for 77 years and had plenty of practice.
But it takes it's toll in terms of nervous exhaustion.
I reached a crunch point a few days ago when I attended a group of lovely people in a residential setting. After 3 days all I wanted to do was escape and come home to my familiar daily routine but I did manage the planned 4 days. I'm here now typing this and it feels so good to be in my own surroundings and not try to do the impossible.
For me that 'impossible' is following conversations among a group. It is so overwhelming, like drowning in a torrent of words. I'm OK 1:1 and can manage up to 3 people if I know them well enough. So, I did have a few 1:1 interactions. But 9 at mealtimes was impossible so I just sat like a lemon during mealtimes, getting more embarrassed by my own silence and complete inability to contribute. They were quite kind but must have noticed.
So, why have I waited until now to join a forum? Maybe it's my age. I find masking to be so tiring these days. I feel a need to reach out to folk who understand and have found ways of coping.
BTW, I am LGBT and proud of it. It is not a problem for me at all.
So, here I am. I'm very comfortable with online messaging and can happily 'chat' and debate stuff.
I will try to respond if anyone would like to chat.
Lil
I'm self diagnosed but my official status by a clinical psychologist was 'Having several strong autistic tendencies'.
He didn't give a full autism diagnosis as he thought I had a wide variety of interests in science/technology.
(So do many AS scientists and engineers but who am I to argue with a clinical psychologist?)
However, I do score highly as nerdy, socially awkward and have difficulty starting/holding conversations. Have just a few good friends.
I also score well along the AS in online tests.
If I try hard enough I think I can mask quite well. After all, I've been trying to fit in for 77 years and had plenty of practice.
But it takes it's toll in terms of nervous exhaustion.
I reached a crunch point a few days ago when I attended a group of lovely people in a residential setting. After 3 days all I wanted to do was escape and come home to my familiar daily routine but I did manage the planned 4 days. I'm here now typing this and it feels so good to be in my own surroundings and not try to do the impossible.
For me that 'impossible' is following conversations among a group. It is so overwhelming, like drowning in a torrent of words. I'm OK 1:1 and can manage up to 3 people if I know them well enough. So, I did have a few 1:1 interactions. But 9 at mealtimes was impossible so I just sat like a lemon during mealtimes, getting more embarrassed by my own silence and complete inability to contribute. They were quite kind but must have noticed.
So, why have I waited until now to join a forum? Maybe it's my age. I find masking to be so tiring these days. I feel a need to reach out to folk who understand and have found ways of coping.
BTW, I am LGBT and proud of it. It is not a problem for me at all.
So, here I am. I'm very comfortable with online messaging and can happily 'chat' and debate stuff.
I will try to respond if anyone would like to chat.
Lil
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