Hello: Have I found the right place?

[Sits with Coyote]

Hi, I am not to sure where to start. I am a 67 yr. old widower who has been ostracized and bullied all my life, brought up to believe I was second rate and only useful for what I could do for others, and deserving nothing in return as my mere existence was a burden to those around me. To be seen and not heard, invisible until called upon. So because of the feed-back from my surroundings, I developed the life strategy of "begging" people to let me do something for them with nothing asked in return as I didn't deserve it. If there is one thing that amazes me, it is that NT s have no shame and not only take and take but then demand more and feel slighted for even having to ask as you should be able to read their minds and not even ask "how high" to jump.

So, about a week ago, I ran into the answer I have been searching for all my life. It is not me, it is them. I am an ASPIE and proud of it! Just because they don't know how to take an ND is not my problem, their loss!

My most pressing question at this time is; Will the ASPIE community accept me or will I be excluded there also? You tell me. Talk about a dream come true, a group of people that don't consider me trash to be used and thrown away. Somewhere I finally belong, WOW!

 

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[Progster]

Will the ASPIE community accept me or will I be excluded there also?

You are very welcome here

 

[Crossbreed]

Hello & welcome, @Sits with Coyote .

Is this one of your crew...?

 

[Major Tom]

Hi and welcome. I like your name

 

[Nitro]

Hi Sits with Coyote

 

[Tom]

My Native American name is 'Head up his cloud'.

Just kidding. The two I was given by Native Americans was 'Straight Arrow' and 'White Wolf'.

 

[clg114]

Welcome to AutismForums!

 

[BraidedPony]

Hi Sits With Coyote! Welcome to the forum! I’m newly aware of being Aspie and I know what you mean about suddenly understanding so much about why life has been the way it is.
Since being on this forum and reading people’s stories I’m struck by how often we, Aspies, are mistreated.
I’m in my 60s too.

 

[Pats]

I like your name, too. I'm 60 and diagnosed 2 years ago. And, yes, you came to the right place. Welcome.

 

[Pats]

People are so quick to use anyone who allows it. I was also used a lot.
Now X husband: 12:15 I want to treat you to a hamburger at the golf course. Me: Ok, sounds good. Husband: Bring my golf clubs when you come, I have a 12:45 tee time.
Now X sister in law: Will you pick me up and take me to the courthouse? Me: Sure. (It's a 45 minute drive to her house, then 20 minutes back to the courthouse). She gets gas money from her son while I am standing there. We finish at court house. Her: I have to stop and see this man about renting a place. Me : Uh, ok. Meet the man Her: Can we get a McDonald, I only have a couple dollars. Me: Fine. Her: I need to run by the bank then take some money to the cable company. Me: Arghhhhh

 

[Kirsty]

•WELCOME•

Sending you a picture my ND friend sent me today. It goes well with your profile pic, so it’s meant to be passed on to you!

I’m also ND and I clicked on ‘Agree’ to your post as I feel very much the same way as you do.

You’re most definitely welcome here and this is personally the best place for us to be. You can think of this picture in any way you like. What comes to my mind is you (the dog) timidly walking about trying to familiarise yourself in new surroundings with other souls alike.

 

[Bolletje]

Welcome

 

[Sits with Coyote]

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•WELCOME•

Sending you a picture my ND friend sent me today. It goes well with your profile pic, so it’s meant to be passed on to you!

I’m also ND and I clicked on ‘Agree’ to your post as I feel very much the same way as you do.

You’re most definitely welcome here and this is personally the best place for us to be. You can think of this picture in any way you like. What comes to my mind is you (the dog) timidly walking about trying to familiarise yourself in new surroundings with other souls alike.

 

[Sits with Coyote]

Thank you so much!!

 

[Sits with Coyote]

Hello & welcome, @Sits with Coyote .

Is this one of your crew...?

 

[Sits with Coyote]

Looks like I feel sometimes!

 

[LucyPurrs]

Welcome, you're in a good place here- the people here are friendly, accepting, supportive, helpful and kind.

 

[Sits with Coyote]

Welcome, you're in a good place here- the people here are friendly, accepting, supportive, helpful and kind.

 

[Sits with Coyote]

Good to hear, thank you!!