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Shintaro Katsu

Shintaro Katsu

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I dropped in this afternoon to look through some of the discussion threads and looks like you really have a good group. Nice to know I'm not alone.

Let me introduce myself, I'm 47 and never had a diagnosis but I've decided to face it. I'm married with two children, one of them might also be on the spectrum and I'm not sure how to proceed but she seems to be doing fine so I'll save that for another day.

Confronting it over the last few months has been a difficult personal process and it's not over yet. I'm here to learn from you and I look forward to getting to know you!
 
Welcome. I'm 48 and diagnosed almost 6 months ago.

I think you'll find people here very welcoming and supportive.
 
Howdy! I always get happy to see another middle age person show up!!! I'm 46 but was diagnosed rather early for someone in our age group. 27. Back then of course it was Aspergers instead of ASD. Not sure a formal diagnosis mattered much for me but I have the papers as a keepsake of sorts. There isn't a lot of help out there for adults, it's mostly DIY. And this forum is a pretty good place for getting ideas. Welcome.
 
Hi Shintaro Katsu :)


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Nervous Rex said:
Welcome. I'm 48 and diagnosed almost 6 months ago.

I think you'll find people here very welcoming and supportive.
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Thank you!
kay said:
Howdy! I always get happy to see another middle age person show up!!! I'm 46 but was diagnosed rather early for someone in our age group. 27. Back then of course it was Aspergers instead of ASD. Not sure a formal diagnosis mattered much for me but I have the papers as a keepsake of sorts. There isn't a lot of help out there for adults, it's mostly DIY. And this forum is a pretty good place for getting ideas. Welcome.
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Thanks for the welcome.

After looking around and doing some research I have to agree it's DIY for established adults. The next step is going to be discussing this with my family and I'm dreading it. Yikes!
 
Hi Shintaro Katsu, welcome. Seems like you found this forum at a useful time. Maybe you can post a thread about what you are dreading re telling your family and people can offer their ideas and experiences? Not everyone does tell their family of course. On a positive note, I think that realising that you are on the spectrum can be very helpful to understand yourself better and make adjustments and plans around areas that can be challenging, that's certainly my experience.

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Welcome Shintaro Katsu.
I'm an older Aspie also and wasn't diagnosed until my late fifties.
I would not have had any trouble telling my family as my family was just my parents and they would have understood and been supportive.
But, it wasn't until I lost them and had no family left,
that I was diagnosed while getting CBT for anxiety and depression.

Now I hear you on accepting the diagnosis for yourself.
But, it isn't so bad for me personally.
Really it just explained a lot and I understood myself better.
But, I had moved in with an elderly man who could see
I was having some rough emotional adjustments and I
really dreaded telling him.
But, I could not hide that I was having problems.
He actually accepted the diagnosis and was interested in learning about ASD.

I was always diagnosed with anxiety and depression
and have been hospitalised for it a few times.
I take medications for it.
These are skeletons in my closet I don't want him to learn about. I want to keep it in the present with the ASD because I really don't think he could accept knowing I've dealt with anxiety and depression most of my life.
So you never know. Maybe your family will be more understanding than you think. ;)
 
Sozdatelniza said:
Greetings Shintaro Katsu.
How do you deal with your family?
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Thanks for stopping in to say hello. At some point I'm going to start a thread about that in the main forum but in a nutshell I think my wife and daughters know or suspect on some level but it's unspoken and they are all very supportive when the mask slips a little bit.
 
SusanLR said:
Welcome Shintaro Katsu.
I'm an older Aspie also and wasn't diagnosed until my late fifties.
I would not have had any trouble telling my family as my family was just my parents and they would have understood and been supportive.
But, it wasn't until I lost them and had no family left,
that I was diagnosed while getting CBT for anxiety and depression.

Now I hear you on accepting the diagnosis for yourself.
But, it isn't so bad for me personally.
Really it just explained a lot and I understood myself better.
But, I had moved in with an elderly man who could see
I was having some rough emotional adjustments and I
really dreaded telling him.
But, I could not hide that I was having problems.
He actually accepted the diagnosis and was interested in learning about ASD.

I was always diagnosed with anxiety and depression
and have been hospitalised for it a few times.
I take medications for it.
These are skeletons in my closet I don't want him to learn about. I want to keep it in the present with the ASD because I really don't think he could accept knowing I've dealt with anxiety and depression most of my life.
So you never know. Maybe your family will be more understanding than you think. ;)
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Thanks for your kind remarks. I've always experienced anxiety and depression and have sought treatment for both, which didn't work of course!

I'm hoping the fact I've recognized the underlying cause will help me deal with both of those things. I'm optimistic the wife and daughters will be supportive the main problem will be introducing the subject. As for my extended family, they've blown too much trust over the years so I've decided it's for the best not to discuss with them. At least for now.
 
Shintaro Katsu said:
Thank you!

Thanks for the welcome.

After looking around and doing some research I have to agree it's DIY for established adults. The next step is going to be discussing this with my family and I'm dreading it. Yikes!
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I told my aunt and it's as though it barely registered( in a positive way ) but she's just like that.
I don't like my family ( blood relatives )enough to think they would accept it .
 
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