Hello

[WolfSpirit]

Yes. How i come across is EXTREMELY difficult. My psychologist says its "mindblindness" and i do agree.

So, in other words, problems with "theory of mind". Hmm... there's a complicated issue in the autism community! Though, apparently there are levels of theory of mind, so looked at that way, maybe it's not such a controversial subject. (And then there's the whole variability among our population.)

 

[WolfSpirit]

I find this forum excellent. The community is polite and they make sense even to me, its like being on a camp with really laid back people. I am enjoying the exhange of information and help

. Yeah, this is why I got sucked into this place for almost 14 hours straight my first day/night here, at the beginning of the month! ... Just warning you, there may be some significant sleep deprivation in your immediate or near future! . It's absolutely worth it though! I'm still working on figuring out how to titrate my exposure/involvement so that I don't get too worn out!

 

[Aspychata]

l have to communicate with my ex for any info about my adult daughter. He still triggers me and l can't stay long around without having flashbacks and dreams of our marriage where l was treated very inhumanly. But recently l noticed l am sticking up for myself. All the small steps we take become bigger.

 

[WolfSpirit]

l have to communicate with my ex for any info about my adult daughter. He still triggers me and l can't stay long around without having flashbacks and dreams of our marriage where l was treated very inhumanly. But recently l noticed l am sticking up for myself. All the small steps we take become bigger.

Much compassion for you! Way to go for being able to stand up for yourself! That takes courage! And yes, every small step we take towards where and who we want to be adds up! And as a friend said to me a while ago, (I'll paraphrase) "when you discover that the small steps are successful, it gives you the courage to take bigger steps in the right direction." . ... and then one day you find yourself a million miles from where you began, and realize you achieved your goal without even realizing it! . (my current situation. Still boggles the mind.)

 

[Skittlebisquit]

Welcome to the forum. I hope you can find a sense of connection here. I dont know where you are from, i live in the USA , its raining here today. This place has been a help to me, because there are members from all around the world, so there is almost always some one here. You can write me a private message any time you like and i will write you back, eventually. I cannot do the forum in the rain, the phone would get ruined. All you do is click a persons picture by their name, then click "start a conversation"
Its easy.
I hope you are able to make some friends here, i have and i am not really all that normal..or well balanced or entirley "sane" strictly speaking. Everyone here is nice. Some of us are stranger than others. There are games too and other things, but i will let others teach you about how to learn things, i dont always explain it so ppl understand.

 

[Wolfgangus Faldestolius]

Good to have you here. I was "vocally dyspraxic" and in my late 40s I taught myself really, by phrasing like a radio personality I remembered, and it gives me time for my thoughts to catch up with my speech, and not run out of breath, and I speak steady and not too sing songy and not too loud plus soft, and to use interesting words (but not overdo it when practical purposes require of me a swift response). I'm in UK and am still single (so far).