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Hi. I'm Maximillian. I'm very new to this forum. I'm from London

@Maximillian, first of all, welcome to the forums.:)

I wasn't diagnosed until I was 52,...raised and lived as a somewhat failed "neurotypical". I am not sure what my life would have been like had I been diagnosed as a child. I grew up in a totally different world from today. So it is quite interesting to see posts from the younger generations,...their thoughts and experiences growing up in today's world. I think it helps me understand context and perspective better,...something that I always have to think about before I respond to others,...it doesn't come naturally.

Unlike my parents who, still to this day, think that their children should be seen and not heard,...I am old enough to be a grandfather myself,...but still treated like an inexperienced child,...I am 180* the opposite. I love to listen to young people share their thoughts.;)
 
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@Maximillian, first of all, welcome to the forums.:)

I wasn't diagnosed until I was 52,...raised and lived as a somewhat failed "neurotypical". I am not sure what my life would have been like had I been diagnosed as a child. I grew up in a totally different world from today. So it is quite interesting to see posts from the younger generations,...their thoughts and experiences growing up in today's world. I think it helps me understand context and perspective better,...something that I always have to think about before I respond to others,...it doesn't come naturally.

Unlike my parents who, still to this day, think that their children should be seen and not heard,...I am old enough to be a grandfather myself,...but still treated like an inexperienced child,...I am 180* the opposite. I love to listen to young people share their thoughts.;)
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Young people energize me. Working in Costa Rica, a group of young people at the facility sorta adopted me. Through them I discovered Los Fabulosos Cadillacs, and they took me out to teach me salsa. When I was 60 a couple of them visited me and we went to Lollapalooza. Pura Vida! Working in Croatia I would travel with my Banjo to introduce the younger crew to Scruggs style and Bluegrass. What fun!
 
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Welcome Maximillian!
Hope you like being at the forums.

It's a good place to socialize with others that accept one and other.
I wasn't diagnosed until mid 50's and being here has really helped me understand my life.
I was home schooled during my teens and things just naturally became easier by the time for
college.
You're young and intelligent. Believe me things do change in life. I've had plenty of experience
and a lot of it will come happen in it's own time.
Glad you joined us here. :)
 
Welcome!
Your family will always have "concerns" and they will often in oppostion to your own personal goals. Do not let this deter you from creating the life you envision for yourself. You are the only expert on you! As you grow up you will learn how to set boundaries for your family and friends and this will help make your interactions with them easier.
The time you have your family all to yourself is getting very short. Soon you will go to university, get a job and be imersed in your interests away from family. Enjoy this short time with them as you will never get this time back.

By the way, I too fit my feet to tile patterns and squares. This can be impossible in public places, but sometimes you get lucky! It is a lot of fun to walk at a natural pace, down a long tiled walk, and your paces and foot size match the patterns perfectly! I will even do it on my toes if no one is looking!
 
Like a private sequence that has special rules, but it's more symbolic that rational linear. That's what I do internally doing production work too, as though I am being the narrator in my own movie. Not an uncommon practice at all, Maxamillian

Lots of great things to start from that mindset and behavior. Affirmations are a daily spiritual practice that seeks to reprogram the interior dialogue by repeating a statement many times in a sitting. The statement needs be positive, indicative of change and growth and in the present sense, like this for example:

"I am well and safe and happy"

It takes an investment of your time and it is best done daily. With enough repetition it eventually works, like little drops of rain that eventually fill up a cup! The need for ritual behavior can certainly be an asset to a young man. Discipline is basically making one's own rules and following a practice that is based on that.

So a routine of mental health practice is good for you! If you can use counting stones, and at each lap say the affirmation, then put a stone in a bowl, or make a mark on a slate, or count beads on a string, then that behavior helps to plant the affirmation into the sub conscious mind.

Here's the great thing about the practice; those statements will tend to arise all by themselves as part of the internal dialogue. Now that's really helpful generally, it's displacement basically. What happens if you fill a glass all the way up then drop in ice cubes on top? Water spills out!

The more you do the practice of affirmations, the more effective is your intent to become less negative minded. Speaking such things aloud is quite soothing, and done as a celebration of the self, it helps to improve self esteem, and reduce anxiety.

I've also found that I am a better speaker generally because part of my discipline(a commitment to the self) is to read aloud from old books. I over stress emphasis and attempt to perform like I was giving a speech or I pretend that I am a news anchor on tv.

That practice, done regularly, affects my default speech pattern towards better cadence, and pronunciation. I tend to trail off and mumble in speech, especially when I get nervous. Every great public speaker does something like this, they practice thier speeches many many times before a public performance.

Thank you so much for participating in this forum. It has been a great help to many of us here, this peer to peer support, and I hope it benefits you as well!
 
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Hi, I'm a 15-year-old diagnosed with autism. I'm not sure about what to say, so I apologize if anything I say might be weird. So, I was diagnosed when I was 2 1/2 years old. My life has been a mixture of good and bad.

The one problem I have with what I have is simply that I am not easily understood by the people around me. You know, whenever I pace up and down an empty room, play with Lego or get anxious about bad things that could happen, I am simply criticized or told that I need to stop. I find it difficult that my family don't understand me too well. They try to change me, telling me I am creating a bad image of myself or that I am setting myself up for a life of loneliness and failure. I find myself stressed when this happens because I can't make those changes, and when I don't I am told off. I have been bullied at school for acting differently to my peers.

My personal statement is that there is nothing wrong with acting out of the "Ordinary". I simply want to be understood and treated like any human being in society and to live like those other human beings. I, and you, should not have to change this unique person that has been placed on this planet. I'm happy to be this unique person.

My hobbies include chess, rubix cubes, lego, video games (Specifically Nintendo), story writing, or simply going to a playground to go on the swings. However, I don't often do these hobbies as my favorite thing to do is to pace up and down empty spaces daydreaming about things.

I am happy to talk. Thanks for reading
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Maximillian said:
Hi, I'm a 15-year-old diagnosed with autism. I'm not sure about what to say, so I apologize if anything I say might be weird. So, I was diagnosed when I was 2 1/2 years old. My life has been a mixture of good and bad.

The one problem I have with what I have is simply that I am not easily understood by the people around me. You know, whenever I pace up and down an empty room, play with Lego or get anxious about bad things that could happen, I am simply criticized or told that I need to stop. I find it difficult that my family don't understand me too well. They try to change me, telling me I am creating a bad image of myself or that I am setting myself up for a life of loneliness and failure. I find myself stressed when this happens because I can't make those changes, and when I don't I am told off. I have been bullied at school for acting differently to my peers.

My personal statement is that there is nothing wrong with acting out of the "Ordinary". I simply want to be understood and treated like any human being in society and to live like those other human beings. I, and you, should not have to change this unique person that has been placed on this planet. I'm happy to be this unique person.

My hobbies include chess, rubix cubes, lego, video games (Specifically Nintendo), story writing, or simply going to a playground to go on the swings. However, I don't often do these hobbies as my favorite thing to do is to pace up and down empty spaces daydreaming about things.

I am happy to talk. Thanks for reading
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Welcome! Maximillian, Nintendo is excellent! Did you see they are coming out with a film at the end of the month? I'm going to link the trailer if the mods don't edit my posts again. Those bullies sound like losers with no imagination be you nobody can say you are doing anything wrong! Have you gone to talk to any teachers or the principal about your situation? You remind me of someone close to me. I wish I, was fourteen years younger I'd sock them in the nose for you your family, on the other hand, they will come around trust me they don't know how to handle that you have autism there is nothing wrong with you! I know he is fictional, but the globed loved Tony Stark! And Joss Whedon put him on the spectrum in the MCU! Just how many people are on the

 
Just to let everyone know, I'm looking for people my age to be able to speak to. I prefer it if they are age 15 like me. So, if anyone here fits that description, please let me know.

Also, just another thing worth mentioning, it wasn't completely my choice joining this forum. My dad is worried that I don't have a good life because of my lack of friendships, so he got me to do this. It's alright on this forum, but I'm not going to use too much. I'll check in on my replies from time to time though.

Thanks for reading my thread.
 
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