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How can I stop people sneaking up behind me and scaring me?

Horsegirl said:
Kids at my school constantly do it. I hate it. Like, I'll be walking and somebody will just come up behind me and SCREAM IN MY FREAKING EAR and run away cackling like a bunch of deranged pelicans (yes that's the best insult I can think of) and I hate it!!!
This happens (and I swear I'm not exaggerating) 15ish times per day.
I'm not sure if this is because of autism, but I jump really easily. And kids realize this. And use it to their advantage. They seem to think it's pretty funny.
And get this... someone did just that, took a picture of it, turned it into a meme and SHOWED IT TO MY ENTIRE SCIENCE CLASS!!!
This has gotten to the point where I end up getting my best friend to go to my locker and get my stuff (we have each other's locker combos it makes life easier haha) from it. Because kids will come up behind me and scream at me when I'm at my locker.
I can't get them to stop!!! I mean, when I'm with my best friend she usually tells them to stop but we have no classes together minus band since she's in French and I'm in English, so it doesn't really help much.
And I usually take ten or fifteen seconds thinking about what I want to say before I say it which doesn't leave enough time.

And yes I know this probably seems like something that would not be a big deal but it has gotten to the point where I am scared to walk in the hall because kids will scream at me. And it's a pain in my rear end because I have enough to deal with at school without this
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Hmm perhaps you could practice being more vigilant walking through the halls? Obviously try not to make it look too obvious, but consciously make an effort to spot people before they spot you, that way if they do that ridiculous screaming thing, you’ll be more prepared, less jumpy and they’ll end up looking silly for not having the effect they’re after! And hopefully they’ll give up!
 
If you enroll in a martial art class your reflexes / reactions will become automatic. What I'm saying is, if someone comes up from behind you and screams really loud in your ear and you punch them square in their face immediately they'll probably stop and you could hardly be blamed for a reaction toward what people should not be doing in the first place. Right? At the very least learn to punch hard, give it lots of practice.

They're weak cowards, bottom feeders. So this will get most of them to stop.

Now as a warning (just to be clear) there are good and bad things with everything really. If you wear headphones they'll just lift it up and scream in your ears not much will change. If you rat the harassment could get worse. If you do this and most stop... the "alpha" might continue to do it to try and pick a fight with you. Or may not. Only you know the specific type of people you're dealing with so think on it and use your own judgement. This is just something to consider.

I say this because from your other threads it sounds like you don't have many options. (The best being changing schools or moving out of the city)

What good could come of this?
Maybe you inspire other kids who were bullied by this group. By standing up to them. Then your circle of friends grow and you are more protected. It would be pretty bad ass, teens like bad ass.

If you do happen to get suspended for it you can drop the "If you aren't going to look out for me then i have to look out for myself" bomb on your parents. Then that guilt trip may get them to seriously reconsider switching schools or moving cities.
 
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Hdphn33 said:
If you enroll in a martial art class your reflexes / reactions will become automatic. What I'm saying is, if someone comes up from behind you and screams really loud in your ear and you punch them square in their face immediately they'll probably stop and you could hardly be blamed for a reaction toward what people should not be doing in the first place. Right? At the very least learn to punch hard, give it lots of practice.

They're weak cowards, bottom feeders. So this will get most of them to stop.
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You better prepare properly and maybe do smaller tests.
If you fail, they will be certain that you can do nothing about it that way and it could get even worse.
 
@Hdphn33 , you said:
"you can drop the "If you aren't going to look out for me then i have to look out for myself" bomb".

If something like that happened, I'd drop that particular bomb on the school first.
Loudly and Publicly.
Preferably in front of students.
Just sayin'.
 
Noise cancelling headphones are quite good,

also.. put a scary picture on back off you're coat with the
word 'beware /stay clear' underneath, mwuahaha ;)
 
Sometimes even now people scream or yell out some kind of obscenity at me from their vehicle while I'm out walking. Of course I can't do anything because they just drive away. Cowards.:mad:

Other than telling someone about your problem, which I know probably won't solve anything because 99.9% of high school staff is run by imbeciles, I don't have any really good advice.
 
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