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How close are you to your family?

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Droopy

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Are you close to your family? Do you have a brother, sister or cousin that you meet up with or can hang out with? Do you have a family member that you can confide in, have a serious conversation with if it was needed? Or are you a distant stranger within your family circle?
 
I'm fairly close to my parents and my maternal grandmother. I used to be close with my brother despite the 15 year age gap but as with him getting married and had children we aren't on the same page sort to speak, it also doesn't help there has been family issues and that has strained my relationship with my brother and we aren't really seeing eye to eye anymore, but that's how it's turned out.
In terms of having someone to confide in; I've never truly had a person family or friend wise apart from my Occupational Therapist a few years back. I personally find it hard to show emotions maybe it's more societal and gender based I don't know for sure. I always tend to think that showing my emotions would be somewhat inappropriate.
 
I can usually talk to my mom, but my stepfather...I can't stand him. He claims he's read books on Asperger's, and that he understands it, but I highly doubt he does. I can't even talk to him without him yelling something sarcastic back. I've tried to ask him things as little as what channel a TV show is on, and that will somehow end in a fight. I wish he'd just get out of my life...
 
I tend to be very close to my family. My mom, my maternal grandparents, and my sister. I was lucky my family really never thought of me as being that different even though I am. They just thought it was due to my vision troubles. Family I tend to be close with and they never seem to take issue with my weird habits like disappearing during family functions to go play on the computer when it gets to nosy or whatever. Friends on the other hand...sigh...frankly I am terrible at them but have been lucky enough to have a few good close ones.
 
I am close to my father and my sister. My brother is barely speaking to me after I made some Aspie style remarks. My father is the only person in the world who I feel understands me intuitively, and I think he is an Aspie too. My sister has generally misunderstood me always, but since our mom died when we were children I have often been a mother figure to her as well as a sister and we have remained close.
 
I am not very close to my family. They live in another State (Ohio). I have not seen them in almost ten years.
 
I was just in Ohio! Stow, not too far from Akron. I prefer Cleveland to Stow.
 
Despite living a few miles from them, I ain't really that close to my family at all. They ruined my life as a teen with their evangelical ******** and them helping my bullies torment me for three years and we're still trying to recuperate from those days.
 
I've got a huge extended family whom I feel no compulsion to call, write to or visit. I feel no compulsion to take-up bowling either but apparently it's different. None of them have ever harmed me & they're not bad people as people go. As for my immediate family, closeness for me looks like being in the same room at the same time as one of them. I have no desire to chit chat with them or hang out with them. As far as confiding goes, I'm not sure how that differs from ordinary chatter: unless you mean telling someone something you don't want them to tell anyone else. That begs the question, why tell anyone then? I've never felt the need to do this & I'd have no idea what material to deem 'a confidence' & how to select a person to bestow it upon.
 
I'm the youngest of *NINE*... and am no close at all. Always thought it was the age different (closest to me is 10 years apart). Or maybe my family was different (which is still a possibility). They always get mad with each other (sibling rivalry) and I don't get why. So I just stay away to avoid being caught on the cross-fire. I which my family was close, but it is not.
 
i'm not close to anybody in my family. my dad moved me and my mom up to idaho from california when i was 4 and so all our family is back in california for the most part. then my dad left, moved to texas and it's just me and my mom up here now. we obviously see our family from california (at least a few people) at least once a year or so. i can't connect to any of them, so i'm like this random wayward person in their midst. i guess you could say i'm close to my mom out of necessity, as in i prefer her to go places with me, but i can't have a serious conversation with any of my family members. when i was trying to talk to my mom about getting me an official diagnosis, the only things she would say was 'alright, okay, we'll see about talking to the doctor' and... that's it. she'll never have a proper conversation about anything important me. i'm an only child too, so no siblings to be close to either!
 
I am very close to my mom and never had a relationship with my dad. All my grand parents have been gone a long time around 25yrs and my relationship with
my sister is strained. I am very close to my adopted family aunt,uncle,sister & nephew.:bounce:
 
Even though I grew up in a large family, I'm not very close to my siblings or my father (my mother passed away several years ago, but I wasn't close to her, either). I suppose I've done things to alienate a few of them, but for the most part I'm just not one to keep in touch. I'm currently living with one of my older sisters and her husband after losing my job last year and spending a couple of months homeless. Despite sharing living quarters, my sister is not someone I feel especially connected to. Considering how rare it is to find someone I can connect with in the general population it's probably not surprising that I lack closeness with my own family. I always figured I was from another planet anyway.
 
FishyEnthusiest, I love your avatar! (is that the right term?) Any chance I can find that on a t-shirt?
 
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I am close to my brother and sister, but I only get to talk to them on the phone, my brother has AS and I think my sister does as well.
 
I moved to another country to get some time away from my mum who is well meaning but completely clueless and intrusive. I'm not particularly close to any family member as they all now live in another country.

I get on aright with my parents in law but that has been strained by outside forces ...
 
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