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I was 19 when I had my first "real" significant other. I had a "boyfriend" for awhile in middle school, but I don't think that really counts. I didn't feel connected to him, he was just another of my friends, who I happened to go to the movies with sometimes. Once, his parents took the two of us on a "date" to the zoo on the back of their motorcycles--that was pretty cool.
 
I got my first Girlfriend last October but it only lasted 4 weeks, and tbh I absolutly hated it. It wasn't Becky (her name) who I hated, it was the anxious wreck I was 24/7 knowing I had one.

Besides her, I've only ever even been hugged once by a girl (Well not once, it was sort of alot of hugging within a day) in my whole life which was only the other week in London. Heh. :ph34r:
 
Same as the guy above me, I guess. I had my first real girlfriend last year, at 16. The relationship went badly for the first half, because I was having nonstop panic attacks because of AS and family stuff (my sister trying to kill herself, for example), but mostly because the slightest joke she made about someone or something made me paranoid and freak out (not literally, at least not when she could see it) and think she was off with some other guy whenever she wasn't around me. But things started to stable out at the six-month mark... except for the panic attacks.

In the end, she broke up with me because she said it was too much stress for her to deal with. I had a meltdown in front of my HS as everyone was leaving -so everyone saw me- about a week after she left me. She calmed me down and talked me through it, but after that she pretended like I didn't exist and wouldn't acknowledge me. I did the same, and the attacks got worse. After five months of complete silence, I walked up to her one day and said I wanted to talk. She got pissed and yelled at me, things like 'how could you ignore me like that, expletive expletive'... It left me very confused. We broke up 14 days short of a full year...

I liked having someone there for me, but the relationship was emotionally exhausting. It wasn't worth the anxiety and panic attacks, but I wish I had someone like that again. I can't really be completely "me" with anyone now.

I mean, this is all long-story-short stuff, of course.
 
I almost never dare completely honestly tell about my first rel. because I was under a lot of confusion at that time. I was 16 or 17, I was not really ready for it at all, most of the time I did not even know what was going on, I could not understand the need for all the groping and kissing. I hated it, and he and I, one could say did not go together. I was a cat person > very much like a cat, a free spirit a loner, but one who likes to be stroked and cuddle every now and then. He was a dog > he barked, and was well trained. In some ways it was a good cooperation. I stayed with him though, and avoided conflict as much ans possible for 7 long years.
 
I dunno if i posted in here im too lazy to check right now but even if i did i want to add more lol.
Well some people say 3 weeks isnt a proper relationship. If thats true then i havent had 1. If it does ive had 3 , they all lasted 3 weeks. They did all treat me like **** though and all used me just to get over there exs then ditched me when they got over them. I havent even had a hug or anything in the 13 months. Ive only been stood up on dates in the past year many many times. I only can ever manage online dating as i cant ever aproach sumone in person ever.

I got my first "gf" on my 17th bday (i dumped her as she was ignoring me and was too busy with all her drugs but went back to her a week later to get dumped a day later and she said haha and she planned for that to happen ¬_¬), i got my second about xmas time( dumped on new years eve by text) , third was 4 weeks before my 18th birday and dumped me a week before by text when i was standing outside her house.


also im 19 now lol.
 
Crikey xRobertx - being single sounds like a better option than any of those girlfriends.

I hope that you find someone decent sooner or later. There are some good ones out there.
 
142857 said:
Crikey xRobertx - being single sounds like a better option than any of those girlfriends.

I hope that you find someone decent sooner or later. There are some good ones out there.
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You think it would. But I am basicly asking for trouble. I felt much happier with any of them than i do being alone. Id rather be in a **** relationship than being alone :( sadly all I only ever get is being stood up on dates (so far about 58 times been stood up or cancelled on or ignored the day were meant to meet). Im my own worst enemy in the end by just whilling to go for anyone who loves me or seems to cause im easily lead on and fall in love easily. If any girl shows me compassion I get attached and then end up getting feelings of love and then get hurt all the times. It hurts worse when they lead me on saying they wont hurt me and then stand me up or ignore me hours before we are meant to meet and never talk to me again.

Thing is all these things all from online meetings and stuff as I cant talk to people in person before i know them online. Sucks because I basicly have went through everyone near my area on every free dating site basicly and they either hurt me or have ingored messages from me. My ex;s if you'd call them ex's were all from bebo or tagged (kind of a dating site). All this just makes me feel doomed. And like in person I have no friends at all so I cant even get anyone to set me up and people on my msn or facebook claim they dont have any friends who are single.


Love is the only important thing to me in life. All I need is love to be happy. All I am wanting from life is to end up in love and have a family of my own one day. I just feel I will never have that.
 
I'm 18 and I'm finally in a proper relationship, compared to the last time I posted here, I was unsure if I even had a girlfriend or was in a relationship, now everything is so clear to me now that I can feel worry free.

She loves me and I love her and I know her in real life so therefore, it's just so awesome. :D

I was 7 when I met her and yet never got to a proper relationship until I was 16.
Broke up last summer. Got back together a couple of months ago. :wub:
 
superboyian said:
I'm 18 and I'm finally in a proper relationship, compared to the last time I posted here, I was unsure if I even had a girlfriend or was in a relationship, now everything is so clear to me now that I can feel worry free.

She loves me and I love her and I know her in real life so therefore, it's just so awesome. :D

I was 7 when I met her and yet never got to a proper relationship until I was 16.
Broke up last summer. Got back together a couple of months ago. :wub:
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Oh thats good to here :D :D :D
 
Double-Think said:
Sigh, 18, and haven't had a GF yet.... totally sucks being a guy
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It isn't that much different no the gender finding a GF, however if you are yourself and you had a GF who really likes you for who you are, it would be a privilege and it would be so much easier than hiding the feelings.

Your time should be able to come, oh and your actually quite a good looking guy, you have a good chance imo.
Do you join clubs or any activities in your spare time?
 
superboyian said:
It isn't that much different no the gender finding a GF, however if you are yourself and you had a GF who really likes you for who you are, it would be a privilege and it would be so much easier than hiding the feelings.

Your time should be able to come, oh and your actually quite a good looking guy, you have a good chance imo.
Do you join clubs or any activities in your spare time?
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Ah, man you are awesome!, Good points, I agree, I'm remaining optimistic, still young. As for joining clubs, etc, I am, but it's a slow process, social anxiety and whatnot, but i'm slowly working past it. But i'm moving to a new city in a few months (Transferring to another university) and i've met alot of great new people, so slowly but surely getting out there. ah, you guys are great, feels good to be an aspie!
 
When I was 14 :)(I was **** with girls back then but she thought I was hot so.. :)) but I completely ****ed it up when I asked her for a BJ because I thought It was the 'conventional thing' lol(Not knowing my mates where taking the piss when they were talking about sex and ****). I felt like such a retard and was to shy to talk about it to anyone 0r apologise to her, my mates thought I was dick for a bit and I just didn't really know how to sort it back then so just avoided the subject... Although we did go with each other again a while after but I lost interest in her and moved on... It was a massive learning curve for me anyways.

Then I got with like 25 different girls(Majority were completely meaningless :( and when I was quite intoxicated lol) up until 17 and then I had my first real serious relationship with this chick for like the Summer, she is just stunning :) she's a model and she's really talented at loads of stuff :) Then we had to break up :( because I go to school really far away, although we still meet up when I'm home. Recently a bit of **** happened and its a really complicated situation(Its so confusing and I don't even know if it is solvable). Were both so into each other but nothing serious can happen cause I'm just never home... We would probably still be together now if I didn't live so far away :(
 
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